Show lDorothy Dorothy Dix Dixs Dix's s 's 8 Letter Box I PROBLEMS HEART OF THE WIFE IN LOVE WITH AN OLD SWEET AND MARRIED TO A MAN SHE DOES NOT LOVE SHOULD HOMETOWN A GIRL GIRL- BE EDUCATED IN HER HOME TOWN OR SENT AWAY TO SCHOOL THE THEMAN THEMAN THEMAN MAN WHO LEFT HIS WIFE BE BECAUSE CAUSE SHE BOBBED HER BEAUTIFUL HAIRD HAIR DEAR D r MISS I DIX I am a Chr Christian a wife vile and arid a mother and I am amI am- am lighting the greatest battle In In life lite that any poor soul Foul can tight I I am n married to A ma man I do not love lore and I lovo love a man man- manto an to whom I wag wu once engaged but with whom I had a quarrel lIeI lIe He I haa hae never married and says saYI that he never will for or orha ho ha wilt will Ill neTer never cease to love me We have permitted ourselves to meet but twice since my marriage but his sister who Is my close friend Has lias invited me to pay her a visit I long lone to go yet I fear to toco toso go co as II I will be thrown dally daily In n the company of the man whom I love better than my own life lite I r have prayed BO 80 o earnestly for or strength to do the right thing What advice would you give me meA A WORRIED WIFE t An w r I Ij It Is I j a mockery to pray to b delivered from temptation and th to run deliberate deliberate It It Into It sincere Incer In de lire de-lire If you are ar your 1 Ir sire to do right you will never In the world go on that vI visit It lUX What benefit anyway would It be to you or to the man who ho loves you to tos pend a week reviving old memories reo re lighting re-lighting lighting the fires of ot an old and Indulging In an of ot vain aln regrets Do yon you think It would make It any easier for you to forget Would it make either one of you any happier Would it not certainly make things harder for you than they already are There Ther are thou those tho e who contend that It is I an Immoral thing for a woman to live with one on man when Ih she loves lov another man but It teems seems seem to me that society ocl ty would b be In a pretty me mess If if every woman who Isn't romantically enamored of her husband got up and left lift him and followed her fancy Civilization tion hunt hasn't been built on that plan It has hu been founded on the grit and endurance of those thou who put duty before tion A woman does a very foolish thing when she marries a man with without out ot being absolutely certain In her own mind that she loves him but she does a dastardly thing when she marries a man Just to spite some other man with whom she has hu quarreled for she Is sacrificing I a 8 perfectly Innocent victim to her own desire for revenge That is what you icem have done and If you have any sporting blood In you you will play the game and try to atone to the husband you have hae so 0 deeply Injured by playing the game fairly and squarely You wont won't go off and have secret meetings meeting with your old lover Inasmuch as the man whom you married has been a 8 a good husband hus husband band to you and you ou have no fault to find with him I do not see what right you nave e have to divorce him True In losing an unloving wife he would not lose much but It would be a 8 cruel thing to take his child away from him So my advice to you I Is not to u see your lover any more and to make an honest effort to forget him You can If you will try hard enough and peace always comes with doingt doing t one ones one's duty DOROTHY DIX L C C DOROTHY I D Dreason DEAR r EAR MISS DIX We DIX We are neither rich nor poor but able wIthin 4 reason to give our daughter good educational advantages She wishes to be a teacher Do you think we should send her far tar from fromI fromy h home me for a college education or keep her near us There are excellent excel excel- excellent I lent Institutions of ot learning In our elt city ANXIOUS PARENT Answer There Is so much to be said on both sides of this question that your final decision must be determined by the girls girl's personality If she Is II a very timId and dependent sort of girl one who still clings to mothers mother's hand when she walks so to speak send lend her away from home where sh she will be among strangers and will have to learn larn to bi be b self reliant h If she he Is a girl who Is too popular with the th boys and has hu t tao too o many dates datu and Ind runs around too much It I Is also allo well to und send her hr away from home to tome some school where her mind will not bo ho so much distracted from her books If she Is a plain girl lacking tacking In personal attraction the sort of girl that men pass pan by and who will not be b likely J t j to marry and who will III probably have to support herself as II j I long as she lives then by all means send lend her to some lome fa fa- fa faw w I moul school where her degree will carry a with withy 7 J It that will enable her to command a high salary as a teacher I IThe The school at home may be able to teach her just as much and fit t her just as well for her profession but a certain glory Is diffused from the well known Institutions of learning that Is reflected In theIr graduates graduate's pay par envelope JOnce Once upon a time I came home from Europe on a steamship wIth tJ ti J I a young woman who told me a most pathetic tale of ot how bow she had f nearly starved In Paris studying art art and I asked her It If she could not have gotten Just as good Instruction in this country as abroad and at less sacrifice Certainly I could she replied but the fact tact that a school can advertise that Its art teacher is la a pupil of ot Julians Julian's and studied in 4 such and such a studio In Munich doubles my salary So that's that f J On the other hand the advantage of keeping a girl at nome flome I Is that you form her character yourself Instead of In- In Intrusting In Jn Intrusting trusting the Job to strangers and you bind her to you with with the ties of dally daily association Children who are sent away from fron home when they are young never have hae the close In Intimacy with their parents that those thole do who have always lived I In continual contact with m mother and father Then too the girl who ho f Is educated at home keeps up her ties with the boys and girls with whom hom she is reared and she has a much better time socially when she Is grown than the girl who has been educated away from home and who has to break Into the right se when she comes cornea back 0 So If yo your r daughter is la Just the ordinary pretty girly girly-giri who v is lur sure to marry In a year or two anyway I should edu educate cate her at home and spend the money I would thus thul save In gIving her a trip abroad when she finishes school DOROTHY DIX I C I I DEAR DEAn T EAn MISS The DIX DIX The girl I married had the most beautiful hair I I- I ever ever saw In my life But Dut a 8 few tew days ago she bad had the boyish bob It certainly spoils her looks and I have left lert her Please tell me roe whether yoU think I f should go back to her or not X Y Z I PAt PA Answer Wh I am with you X i Y Z In thinking that womans woman's glory lory Is In her f herf air and I dont don't blame you for tor being furious with your wife tor for hay hav- II her lovely tresses cut off But Dut dont don't let a little thing like that Aak roa ad adak ak up P your home non R Dont Don't split hair hairs so to speak with happiness After all allIn In South It Isn't what is outside of a womans woman's head that counts so much as II what I Is Inside and there are lots more mor it at things about her than her hair So go back and make up your every v quarrel and doubtless when w your wife see sees how much It hurts you for her hr to ha have her hair bobbed she will let ret It grow Anyway the hairdressers say y that bobbed hair Is going out j i 4 of fashion DOROTHY DIX j Copyright by Public Le Ledger ger |