Show I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Box J COULD TWO PEOPLE WHO ARE VERY MUCH ALIKE BE HAP HAP- HAPPILY HAPPILY MARRIED OR SHOULD THEY BE DE OPPOSITE TYPES TYPES- TYPES WHY A HUSBAND WITH AN INCOMPETENT WIFE SHOULD STICK BY HIS THE CHILDREN CHILDREN THE I FOLLY OF SECRET MARRIAGES EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am sin engaged to bo be married to a girl who 1 Is al Lf al-Lf DEAn D most afloat my counterpart we wo are so much In our thoughts ae ac lions and moods What Is your observation In this connection Have you found that a n union between two people who are aro so closely akin akini spiritually and anti mentally turns out to be he an art unqualified unqualified un- un WW qualified success 1 L A Z AN ANSWER SS My observation has been that the moret more alike a husband and wife pre Ire the better t t they get o t along together unless they both possess very bad dispositions You can see for or Instance that if it two very tempered high-tempered people or two very Iery selfish people v 5 I married they would be bound to lIvo hivo a Kilkenny j cat tat bort s ort of at o life Certainly it would always hei be he i t eI h better for fAi an an overbearing in man mi to frt n f pick out r a n meek and mild girl for a wife ins instead lead of marrying a alady alady lady who had a will of ot her own and who is la set and determined on doing her ber own way Like Like- domineering woman should choose a pa po patient patient DIX lUX wise a tient minded humble man Instead of one ono who Is possessed of ot the the house complex The attraction of opposites which makes the big man asa as asa asa a general thing pick out a pocket edition wife wIle and the bril bril- brilliant bril- bril brilliant ilant man select a wife who Is beautiful but dumb and which causes the butterfly woman to fall in love Ive with the poor and that makes make the clerk lerk Instead of the millionaires millionaire's con ten Puritanical maiden fall for the rounder is a merely natures nature's the balance level for humanity and anti keep the effort to hold UL u u race raco from running 10 to giants or or u- u lowbrows or saints or sinners Nature does not concern herself with the happiness of the Individual The very differences that drew people to- to together to together gether before marriage often thrust them apart after mar mar- marriage marriage marriage and there are no more discordant households than those in which th the husbands and wives are of totally dif dif- different dir dif different ferent types and differ In every taste habit and Inclination After the tho honeymoon has waned marriage settles down Into a glorious friendship or lr else It becomes that most terrible of o all things an enforced Intimacy with an uncongenial companion than which nothing on earth Is worse Now it is h only possible to be friends with those whose Ideas and ideals whose whoso interests Interest and tastes jibe with our own We Wo do not enjoy the society ot of those who differ with us on every subject and with whom conversation is a per per- perpetual perpetual acrimonious argument We want those there with willi whom we must live our daily dally life lire to enjoy reading the same books us IlS we do to like the same sama food to want to go to the same church and to the same plays las and movies to vote the same ticket and to amble alan along on the tho same samo hobbyhorses that we ride Our mental picture of a happy family is one In whIch the husband huband and wife go together not one In which they pull apart with different rent Interests with different friends with different objects in life So I should say that the more alike the husband and wife are providing they are both reasonable human beings the better their chance chanco of happiness DOROTHY DIX S S S S S SD SEAR kEAR EAR DOROTHY DIX I DIX I have been married seven years and have DEAn D two children to whom I am devoted My wife and I are always quarreling and I have bavo got to the place where I cannot bear her in my sight She Is 13 very untidy Never looks hooks nice Doesn't keep the children clean She SlIe has no friends at all and my ray people hate her herI I have tried In vain aln to change her and now I am so go unhappy that I am going to leave her What do you 1 0 think WORRIED HUSBAND ANSWER ER I think that a slovenly lazy hazy quarrelsome woman is en- en enough en enough ough to drive any man from her and I dont don't blame you for wanting to leave her If you had no children you would be perfectly Justified In doing so 10 but have you considered your duty to the helpless little creatures creature that you brought brought brought- Into the world and for whose fate you are responsible For the sake of their children childen many women omen endure marriages that are hells bells on earth They put up with unfaithful husbands Infidelities are an Insult to them They endure grouchy cross abusIve abusive abusive ive husbands who never give them a kind word If It the they thet had only themselves to think of ot they would put on their hats bats and leave the homes bomes In la which they are arc treated worse than a a dog But Dut they have no way to support their children and to keep a roof root over their chill chil children's drens dren's head bead and give gho them the advantages ad that even a 11 bad father can often give his children So they endure their theis thel martyrdom of a rable marriage I Is a fathers father's duty any less Ies to his children than a moth moth- mother's mother's ers er's Is a father less called upon to sacrifice himself to his children than a mother Is I If your children have a bad mother are you not the themore themore themore more bound to be a good father to them If their moth mothers ers er's Influence over them Is I going to push them down Is it not the tho more Important that you should use your Influence to hold them up It If your our wife Is lazy and slovenly and Incompetent if It she will not even keep them clean In body tody she will not keep them clean In mind She will neglect their manners and their morals morale She will lot let them run the streets and Join the hoodlum gangs ganss Will your our conscience be bo clear when they turn out badly it you wash your our hands of ot nil cit responsibility ot or them and leave them to their fate I not I II I As As I see It it is your duty to stand by them thorn and try to tobe tobe tobe be both mother and father to them Believe me children who have a good mother can possibly do dg without a father but the children hildren who have a bad mother need a coed father My heart hurt bleeds for or all unhappy husbands and wives I IU 5 e no reason why those who have married men and women who are slackers and quitters should stick to them If they have havo no children but if they have children they have havo rr rf right to let their personal happiness make them default ern the great Job of fatherhood or motherhood DOROTHY DIX e S S e S S SD SEAR EAR MISS I DIX DIX I am very eQ much In bye loye with a boy who says he DEAn D loves me roe dearly and wants me to marry him secretly But Dut he has one ono terrible fault that ho Iso wIlt will not give up even for fOI me and that thatIs thatis thatis Is drink Ho lie says saS that if It I marry him he wilt will stop drinking but It If ItI III I refuse him he be will never Dever stop drinking I dont don't know what to do Please tell me HEARTED BROKEN PAT rAT ANSWER In irs the tho first place dont don't marry any man who ask asks you to marry him secretly A secret marriage Is II a mistake and al always ways reflects on the tho woman It I is one of the things thing that never can be explained and a hard boiled world always smiles cynIcally at a belat belated d marriage license It Is a sate sate afe rule of o conduct never to do anything you ou cant can't do openly and publicly In la the sight of all aU men And don dont don't believe bellevo any man who tells you that he wilt will stop drink drink- drinking jug ing when he gets married Marriage is no Keeley cure ture and the thEl thElman theman man niazi who craved liquor before will have Just exactly the same thirst afterward The man who hasn't the strength and manhood to con eon con troi his appetite for the cake sake of his own self respect I Is never going to do it for the sake cake of a woman DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |