| Show I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Box I THE WIFE WHOSE FAITHLESS HUSBAND HUSBAND EXPECTS HER TO HAVE THE FAMILY FAMILY QUOTA OF FAITH CAN THE ASHES OF LOVE BE REKINDLED HOW CAN THE FARM FARMER'S ERS ER'S WIFE APPROPRIATE HER HUS HUSBAND'S BANDS BAND'S CAR CART DEAR MISS DIX My DIX My husband complains bitterly because he ho says 1 I have hav not the th proper faith In him How can I have faith In him when wh n that faith has haa ha been Jolted time limo and time again acain How car can canI carI carI I have hav faith In la him when I see se him philanderIng with willi other women omen n and when I know that he h spends spend hours In questionable ble places Is It possible al alt alS S- S Shuman human not to wonder what h ho Is I doing when ht he t r stays slays out nIght after nIght Can I help being sus of or the th letters he h gets from rom other women or of what happens when he h goes coes JoyrIding with them themI k I am only a 80 poor human woman and I dons dont t seem m able abl to summon up the tho faith In him that he hl hS h'S I expects me m to have ROS MARIE 1 Answer Anwer An w r J A cynic has hu defined d d faith Mith aa a a the th ability to believe something that you know w Isn't true r Evidently your husband belongs to this school VL ULY of thought and he expects you rou ou to be b one on of ot those thos those titled gifted wives who can shut their eyes to all that they do not want to seo and put an agreeable interpretation upon every act of the tb men to whom they hey are married and make Is square with what they would like It Jt to be And curiously enough there are such women I J once knew one ho said that her faith In her husband was so great creat that even It If f she should gee soe so him do something wrong wron she sh would know that It was her lyIng eyes ere that had deceived her and that he h really had bad not done don it It But few alas of us have hav this thi happy faculty of believing that w wo are ro ar beloved d Just Jutt because we w desire to be b loved and that we w are ars ar th the only ones t to our ur husbands Just because we wed desire to monopolize them This la Is a hard boiled age ag In which we look our ur gift horses horus In the th mouths mouth m and In which we take very little for fr granted Most wives hall from Missouri and have hav to be shown And so o when their husbands cease to take tak any Interest In holding th their lr hand and piss pass up petting parties and espe cape especially daily when wh n their husbands display moro more mor Interest r t In other women than thin they do In them they grow suspicious and fail to show their lovely wifely trust truit which wandering w nd husbands laud so loudly and do so little litti to deserve It always alwa's seems to me that men and women expect impossible virtues In the partners of their bosom A husband will be unfaithful to his bis wife and then because she sh finds it out or because he has haa an acute acute attack of ot conscience he be will ask aak her forgiveness and feel Ill used ill used because she sh does not have hav the th same Implicit faith In la him that she Ebe had before he be betrayed her He H doe don does not seem siem to realize r that faith Is II not Mt an act of volition and that we w can no no n more believe In a person p rs n NI w have found untrustworthy than we w can make mak a broken staff whole again And men and women expect their husbands and wives to love them whether they lire are ar lovable or not whether they do anything to hold affection or not The man who never shows show his wife any ten tenderness or or affection who growls at her and curses her who Is s stingy and mean to her Is surprised when he h finds find out that she hates him The Th woman who nags and curses and end whInes whine and complains who Is lazy and extravagant and never does a single solitary thing t tomake n make her husband comfortable com fori able or happy considers herself a martyr when he be ceases to care for her and falls in love lov with another woman Why Goodness only knows for It is certain that we w can cannot not have hav our ur cake cak and throw It away too t o We W can only have han faith In the th husbands and wives who wh deserve faith and we only love lv those thos who are aree ar lovable DOROTHY DIX e EAR MISS I DiX DIX I have hav been married more mor than five IIvo years and DEAR have hav two beautiful children but due du to my husbands husband's ugly dis disposition position and abusIve treatment of me mo my love for tor him Is 18 entirely dead I J have hav met Another man for tor whom whom I c care car lre very much and who loves me I have told my husband about this other man ninn and that thal I was thinking of o leavIng him Since Sine them he is 1 I a 0 changed man and says that If it I will only give him another chance he prove that he can make mako me mo happy What must I do Divorce my husband and marry this other man Or tay with my husband hUBband Do you think we w can ever be happy together Can love that Is dead ever be revived WORRIED Answer I 1 think all things thing I considered that you will stand a bet bet- better better b ter t-ter ter chance chanc of happiness with your husband than you would with the other man Because the there th r are re ar the th children you see lOe and they make mak an alien element In any second marriage that nearly always alway wrecks wreck It It seems almost Impossible for either a a man or a woman to rise risto to the th heights ot of o not being jealous ot of their stepchildren A man man manadores adores the th maternal passion In a woman when It Is la expended expended on on his own children lie Ha excuses her absorption In them but hut he h resents 11 It with every fibre of ot hi his being when she displays this mother mother love toward another mans man's children A woman gloats over their fathers father's rs r's attention and generosity to her ter children but she ahe cannot endure him to be b generous to his first sites site's children and absorbed ed In fn them So if you take your children away from their own wn fa father the ther and give them a stepfather you not only do them a grievous wrong in depriving them of a fathers father's love and care but you will almost surely put yourself In the tho th unhappy pre predicament of having always to keep peace between them thim and perhaps have hav to suffer luffer the th agony of seeing your little ones treated treated ill-treated Evidently your husband has received a badly needed lesson In lading finding out that he be h has lost your love lov by his cruelty toward you so 80 you rou may safely count upon his to make mak things pleasant for you rou hereafter He H will mind his ps p's and qs q's and probably make mak a pleasanter companion than the other man whose whoso peculiarities of ot tem temper per ier and temperament you would have hav to risk For every man shows In a different guise guis to a woman after atter he ho Is married to her herrom from rom the th one on he h wore wor when he h was coursing cour ng her I do not believe that there ther Is I an any way of r breathing the breath of life If Into dead love lv I do d not think that you yu canever can canever canever ever bring back the th thrill and the th glamour glam ur once once one they thy are ar pone gone but I do believe that on n th the ashes ash of f a II cold h hearth hearthstone atone n you youcan youcan youcan can light the th fires firn of f a friendship hip that will be b very vary warm and nd comfortable to sit lit by during the th declining years of f your yur life And I think that you will always have the tho th happiness of ot knowing that hat you have put duty before Inclination and that you have hav done don the brave Crave thing and the tho right thing DOROTHY DIX e e e DEAR DEAlt EAR T MISS DIX My DIX My husband has a car that he h and when when when- I ask him to lend It to mo me he h refuses We W live liv In the th country tad and bo ho doesn't doesn t mind my driving the th cows and pigs pig and chickens but tut he be h wont won't let me m drive the ts Ford How can I persuade him to let me ne use St It COUNTRY Answer It Just It and drive Dont Don't ask uk him to let you use us get pet off ft before he h can say Scat As his hll wife you have hav a half Interest r t In It Any woman who wh drives the th livestock on a II plate placa to water and the th pasture has earned the th right to t drive II a Royce Royce Rolls t to say ny nothing of a Ford Frd DOROTHY DOROTHT DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |
