Show I 1 I Dorothy Dix s 's s 8 Letter Box THE FOLLY OF A BIG WEDDING FOR THOSE IN MODERATE CIRCUMSTANCES THE YOUNG GIRL GIRl- WHOSE PARENTS HELP TO ENTERTAIN HER MEN CALLERS WILl WILl- WILlAN WILLAN WILLAN AN AMERICAN GIRL BE HAPPY MAR MAR- MARRIED MARRIED RIED TO A FILIPINO I DEAR EAR r MISS MSS DIX I DIX I am engaged to be married and my wants us g to haic hage a big church wedding while nile I 1 prefer to be q quietly mar maried ned at home Neither of ot us Is rich so dont don't you think it would be best to have a less expensive wedding and save u iv our money to put Into a comfortable little home LUCY C Answer I certainly do Lucy I think of althe all al the foolish ways In which money can be spent t none is sillier than to throw It away on a j show chow wedding where for ten minutes pomp you pay a price that frequently bankrupts bankrupt the the family for years I Ot Of 0 course t tie the e rich are are- area a law unto themselves I tt g- g git It those who do not have bave to ta count the cost desire to spend their money on a display wedding it U is 1 e i their own affair though why any one ODO should want wanto ant 1 to make malic a spectacle of ot the most sacred and critical critics 1 mx moment of o their lives Is a mystery past lading finding out It would not be more more Incongruous to Invite strangers stranger in la to see you born or to see you die than It Is to see you married In reality the Ideal marriage ceremony I Is II where a man m nand and a woman who are taking each other for better or worse as aI as life shall chall last and who are going to take the most colemn oath that human lips can utter go with only one or two of or their nearest and dearest to the church and there therewith with no fuss and feathers to distract them no gaping curious crowds looking on and criticizing criticising are married narrIed to each other Perhaps if there were more marriages celebrated In that way more of of them would take You are certain certainly an unusually sensible girl Lucy to perceive that a show wedding Is the height ot of folly tolly for p pe people plo In moderate cit clr The R average verago girl feels that life lire will be cinders ashes and dust if It she docent doesn't have haye a wedding with white satin and und orange blossoms and bridesmaids and ring bearers and all aU the tho remainder of othe the flummery So only too often she the works herself nearly to death and her poor old father Into debt to pay for her bar splurge up an aisi and down again while white her dear OO friends gee gos gos-dp gos tip cip In the pews and say My but did you ever see her look so ugly And Is that le shrimp the bridegroom Why do you suppose she picked him out out And how do you suppose they are arc ever going to pay for all of ot this grandeur Everybody knows they cant can't afford It It I Is all nil over In ten minutes except ept paying the bills Fi Figure re it It lout out and see it if you think It Is III worth the money For what the useless bridal costume cost what the flowers Clowers cost what the music And the motors and the presents and souvenirs souvenirs to bridesmaids and usher and ring bearers cost would start a respectable account in la a savings bank that might grow into a I home or ora a little business ot of o your own And tell your fiancee who wants want the show wedding that he is making a 1 poor peor investment for In a display wedding no nobody body ever notices the bridegroom He is merely an excuse for forthe forthe forthe the wedding He doesn't even get a run for his money DOROTHY DIX S S a a aD BAIt MISS Our DIX DIX Our home borne Is small We have haye only one sitting D DEAR room a and d when I 1 entertain my gentlemen callers my family has hasto hasto hato to be with us That Is all Ight but on other nights nighta my father anti and an mother molher retire early I but ut when I have company they sit up until the th company goes and monopolize the conversation The result is that few young oung men ever come back What can I 1 do about It LETTY Answer Why If It I I were you I I should hould have a perfectly frank talk with my p parents and tell them thorn that the young me men came um to tono no sev me m and nd not to see lee them th-m and that they were werl queering my Chances chancel Undoubtedly they are for too much family Is a handicap too heavy for any girl to carry In the race for popularity It is a hard thins thing for tor older people to realize reallie how they bore young ones Father never never dream dreams that young Smith doesn't put an extra vat vat- var ulah on his hair halt and doll himself up In hi his stepping out clothes for forthe forthe the purpose ot of spending an enthralling evening listening to him dis- dis discourse dis i course coune about the state ot of the grocery trade or to his reminiscences of when he be was a youngster or to his opinion about the political situa situation tion and how they ought to settle the League of Nations business Nor does It dawn on mother that nice Jones Tonea boy Is la yawning hi his head off while she tabbies babbles along about the Ule price of ot butcher butchers butcher's meat and what happened to her second child when It had bad the measles Older people are crepe hangers In any assembly of ef young people They take all of the pep out of the occasIon And It Isn't because young people want to do anything or say any anything thing that the severest chaperon would condemn It Is I Just Ju bec because Juse they feel constrained In fathers father's and enother's pr pret pretence ence and they cant can't do and say the foolish little things that they would If they were alone In And loves love's young oung dream ha has to have the proper environment which to flourish nourish It has baa to have the solitude of two with the cr certainty that nobody Is within eyeshot or Is listening In It withers and dies in the family circles At least the American variety doe doc doCi J If father and mother want their daughter to be an old maid take 0 of achieving that result they can no surer way than by sitting with her company And that Isn't maybe DOROTHY DIX D DEAlt BAIt MISS DIX I DIX DIX- am II a college bred 1 girl Irl in love with II a FIlIpino character r and ideal Idea from Croci He lIe Is highly educated a man of o splendid every standpoint My parents object very much ciuch to the match but they have found fault with every man I have ever liked so I am noli not going to listen to them What What- do you think thick of ot It p PERPLEXED Answer Anwer A They used to call carr the FilIpinos our little brown brothers If I were you would I let Jet the relationship go at that and not not not- take one for a husband For East is East and West is West and never the twain should hould meet at the tho altar This man may be all that you OU say say- he is but behind him and be be- behind behind hind you lie centuries ot of difference In race in in breeding In morals In customs In point of ot view yiew and It is utterly impossible for tor you to tee tee- reconcIle them Goodness knows there are enough things In matrImony for tor a hu husband band and wife to spat over without them dragging in the whole issue of ot of civIlization and savagery I I think think that you will be miserable if you marry your Fill Fill pino pine and I I think that he will be utterly wretched If It he mar mar- marries rles ries you for It Is not possible for an Oriental mil man to regard regarda a woman from anything but the Oriental point of view nor is isit isIt isit it possible for an American woman to submit herself to the Oriental viewpoint and to suffer uffer being treated as Orientals treat their DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |