Show Dorothy Dix Talks Talk ARE YOU TIRED OF LIVING WITH UNCONGENIAL RELATIONS ARE MOTHER IN YOU FACED WITH THE DREAD MOTHER IN LAW PROBLEM ARE YOUR DISCONTENTED WITH HOUSEWORK AND TENDING BABY TRY THE SIMPLE REMEDY OF SEPARATION r D DID you iou o ever consider how little intelligence we w display In dealing with ith the th spiritual sIde sid of ot life Ufe and bow much unnecessary fret tret and worry orry we endure just because we w are ar too loo stupid to apply the obvious remedy to the th ills from which we suffer and which rob us of all peace and happiness We are ar clever enough about material thIngs W We can call find a a way out when things are ar wrong there We a dont don't torture our bodies When we get a pebble In our shoe we w dont don't go eo limping along alone In Jo agony mile alter after mile We sit nit down and take tak It out and pursue our journey In comfort When we have a door that creaks ie we dont don't let lt it rasp our nerves until we are ready to scream We W get tet out the th oil can and apply appia a little lubricant where it is Js most needed 1 But when It comes to the th spiritual side Ide aA aAM M of our dally daily lives the things that make u us far more mor wretched than any physical discomfort discomfort discomfort fort could do d we w dont don't even attempt to rem rem- remedy remt remedy t edy the th situation We Just submit and suf cut suffer fer Ter We dont don't even try to save live ourselves DIS Take family life as a vivid example of this UNDOUBTEDLY U T the th greatest source of misery In the world Is the th enforced living liviD together of uncongenial persons There Ther are chit dozen w who have hav not one on thought or taste tute o otheir or r desire desir In common with theIr parents There are brothers and sisters who are born to each other But because these people belong to the th same family they often go on living together for thirty or r forty or r fifty years year destroying each eath others other's happiness bringing out all that I Is worst In each eath other hating each other more nor day by day It seems Incredible but there th re are thousands o of men and women who are thus thul unnecessarily Just because they have hav not enough Intelligence to perceive that the th thing for them to do Is to fo part and go as far as u possible from thou those wito w o make their lives a torment to them th m CLOSE T CLOSE range ranee mothers mother's nagging drives Mary frantic Fifty miles mile AT A away she sh can see It In Its true tru light as a perverted expression of olove lo love Sharing the same sami room Jenny and Mary Mart have hav their backs back up perpetually and spit and claw at each other like two cats But when they marry and so go their different ways ways they feel an affection for each other that grows crows deeper the more they are ar parted And John and Tom who fought all through their boyhood never really elate each other until one settles In California and the th other In New NewYork NewYork York and they meet once a year on all Mothers Mother's day or Old home week Separation What a simple remedy for a terrible evil HAT folly for tor us to have all the th peace and happiness of o our lives WHAT W destroyed by livIng with those thos who rub our fur the th wrong wron way and keep us Irritated and ill tempered when all that is needed Is for forus forus us just to have enough sense sens to part And there I Is the terrible t mother mother law in law problem that wrecks more mor homes than drink or gambling or Immorality Why cant can't we w solve that by the simple simpi expedient of never nev r It fit fit- fitting l ting t-ting ting It exist Experience has haa shown that not once nee In a hun hun- hundred hundred dred thousand times can a mother law in law in-law and a law daughter daughter r ln In law live In peace and harmony under the same ume sam roof Almost Invariably they make mak each other perfectly miserable with their Jealousies and suspicions and ane they tear to pieces the poor men over whom they fight like tike snarling dogs over a bone EVERYBODY knows this Everybody has seen It happen over and andover andover t over agaIn Everybody Is perfectly a aware are that there Is no other bitterness equal to that engendered by a family feud Yet otherwise sane une people deliberately precipitate a catastrophe which they mIght per per- perfectly perfectly well avoid by not attempting to live together And while of course there ther are situations in which It it is Impossible to escape living with uncongenial people or r in laws most of the the time It could be easily eully wl avoided jf w hd had had had- any nerve there are ar the quarreling husbands and wives The Th husbands THEN and wives who begin the day by a spat over oer the th breakfast table who ne nag Da and fret at each other who criticise and find fault and argue and who spend their time tim wondering what the th fool killer fool was doing that It didn't get tet them on the day they were married Why haven't they enough brains to perceive that when things get to that pass pan pas between a married couple the remedy Indicated Is temporary separation They Th y think that they have ceased to love lov each eath other but that Isn't true Tile The Th trouble with them Is that they are ar fed up on each ach other They are bored They Tiley have hav got to the th place where they get eel on each j others other's nerves and If they only had sense enough for one or the other to buy a a railroad ticket Instead of consulting a lawyer It would save tenths nine of the th divorces di OMEN 1 have more mor time tim to brood over their disillusions and wrongs WOMEN than men have for tor It is the th curse of housework that it occupies your hands bands and not your head So It Is generally the th woman who gets disillusioned first and who starts things by being peevish and fret tret fretful I ful tul and hard to get tet along alone with and takIng It out on the poor dub she marries for tor not being the hero of her ber girlish dreams woman gets gt get In this mood mod she he sh can see aee nothing but her husbands husband's faults fault and ane weaknesses yet a three thre weeks absence from him alters her whole perspective relights the fires of romance In her heart and chang changes her back Into the girl with whom he fell In love Surely the th time will come when husbands perceiving that their wives are ar becoming loss len alluring and more mor given to t argumentation will have hav enough Intelligence to say My dear I think you yu need some lome new clothes and a little litti trip A AND ND the tho th same sam remedy would apply equally well to womans woman's dia- dia AND content content- When a a woman oman gets ets so that she slaps the baby and tt |