Show I D Dorothy ro thy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Box II I ADVICE TO THE BOY OF 23 WHO IS A BUSINESS FAILURE HOW TO ACQUIRE TACT DO WOMEN EVER LEARN TO KNOW THEIR HEARTS DEAR DOROTHY DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am m a young man aged 23 tingle single I hue have never ne amounted to anything In life lICe Have Havo tried business for tor myself my my- self ael Also working for tor the other Cell fellow ow Both Doth failures I have havo no trade or profession of any kind Would like to do something worthwhile but I haven't any patience r unless comes my yay ay y y V I am in fn love with Ith a sweet Girl eirl and would Ilk like very much to marry her What would you do In Inc c my position UNDECIDED s sWell A Answer Well to begin with I should have too much pride and manhood about me to uk ask a any girl to marry me until I made some some- something thing ome-thing thing of myself that was worth her taking and until I could offer her a it decent living i It If I loved a girl I would think too much of oC oCher o her to bo be willing for tor her her to marry marry a shiftless shirtless neer ne'er well neer well do-well who couldn't keep her In bread and butter DOROTHY DIX and shoes So begin by putting the marriage proposition out of oC your our head until you fOU have earned the right to mar marry Let this girl Irl be your goal and tho the way ay you hustle bustle to get her will be the measure of oC your our desire for tor her Then If I were you I 1 wo would ld sit lit down and have a heart heart to heart to-heart session with myself In which I would take stock of my abilities and try to decide on the thing that I had the most to aptitude for doing Next I 1 would go to work and learn how to be an expert In that line The day has haa gone by If there was WaB such a time for the lack of all trades In this thia thi day of fierce competition you mutt must know how to do some one particular thing it better than the other fellow If you hope to succeed Finally having decided on my trade or or profusion profession I would stick to it The men who ho are aro always as changing about from Crom one occupation to another accomplish nothing and get nowhere There Is more to learn about carpentering or the greengrocery grocery trade or law or medicine than anyone any one human being can eRn ever master In a lICe lifetime time even If It he lie de- de devotes de votes his hig entire time to the study ot of that one subject So It H you OU per per- perpetually perpetually shift from Crom one job to another you OU never acquire the skill or knowledge In Sn anything that Is worth paying for tor Nor do the men succeed who are always moving mo from Crom place to place and who Bho think they have riches waiting wafting for tor them In some some dis- dis distant dis distant tant place Opportunity knocks on just as a many doors at as It does doeR In la New York or London or Paris and just as many men make a a fortune at home as do abroad 1 I wouldn't waste waite five minutes minute looking for an easy Job be- be because be because cause caule there are no easy ealY Jobs Jabs that have a blue ribbon tag on them Every man who succeeds ds buys success with sweat and labor with self dental with weariness with the grim courage that made him hang on through anxiety and despair that ate out his very soul Every dollar of every fortune is wet with the life blood of the man that earned it it Nor should Nor should I throw up upa a job because I got tired of ot and It-and It It- It and and It ceased to Interest me and I thought I 1 would like something else bet bet- better better better ter There Is no work In the world of ot which you will not wear weary at times Anything by which you earn your you your living you OU do over and andover andover andover over again every day gets geta to be a deadly grind I There Isn't a worker who doesn't often orten have to force Coree himself to his labor But Dut It H he has the will power to do It the reaction comes and he recovers the joy of oC the craftsman and goes on to success while the quitter falls fails and goes Into the discard At At t 23 my boy your fate i is in your own hands You can cango cango cango go to work and make of yourself what you will Five year years from now you can be happy and self respecting self Or you can go on as you are now and arod be nothing nothing-a nothing a failure a loafer drifting about from paid ill Job to paid Ill Job The Ther r lt decision decision- Is up to you DOROTHY DOROTHY DIX o 0 e 0 e e eDEAR DEAR beJ DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am writing for tor Information regarding befog be- be J fog Ing diplomatic and tactful Is It a 11 gift or can It ft be cultivated I am am told that I lack tact and I to correct my fault Cault it if J 1 M MSUSAN SUSAN can can a 06 c F V Answer Tact is II simply limply the golden rule put Into execution It la Is lat t treating others otherl as we would like to have them treat us UI Ot Of course In la its highest expression tact Is a gift ot of the gods some ome persons persons are are born with It u They have a sixth sense that makes them knoy Intuitively how bow to keep oft off the grass of o our tender feel feel- teel logs Ings They never never never bring up unpleasant subjects They never offer gratuitous criticisms They never say the unintentional unkind things that that cut cut cut you like a a knife They never get Into arguments They They ey bide their time and wait for the psychological logical mo me moment mo- mo to ment to come when you will beg beIn in a mood to listen to their advice and suggestions and take them Instead of being offend offend- offended offend ed ed by them They are always welcomed for Cor their presence Is as soothing as oil upon the troubled waters of dally daVy life lICe Un On the other other hand band the tactless person Is always like Ilk a bull In Ina ina Ina a china shop He am smashes ashes things right and left leCt He offends with with- without out out Intending He hurts where he ho means to be kind And jid he up strife strIte wherever he goes The tactless woman can never resist talking about dishon uty esty to a woman whose whole son aon has defaulted or telling stories of faithless men to a wife whose husband Is II a philanderer She tell tells I the tho mother ot mother er of a delicate only child that It looks tu tubercular lar and Jokes with the woman of f 35 about becoming anold an od old old maid Sho She as the JOlt fat woman if she tha hasn't hunt put on ten pounds pound and tells the sallow woman how unbecoming her new green hat hit Is II to her She can cant can't even give you a present present with with with- without out making It an Insult an and anci she 11 4 h asks her husband for money Just before dinner She may be he the best and kindest of ot women but she ahe Is a a hu hu- hu man mad steamroller that flattens out everybody In her pathway and she sheI Is feared and avoided accordingly Of OC 0 cour course course they hey nry very best brand of oC tact Is that which comes by nature but c can n acquire It H if gee e ne has only to say uy to ones one's self seif Would I like some some some one oneto oneto oneto to tri tb or say uy that to me met Would 1 I like some lome one to tell m me that my new new frock Is la top young for me or that I am not rea rear rearing tag ing my children chilar n right or that they have heard hard the story story- story 1 I 1 a am telling 11 before And Ad if the nays have it then thin suppress your undid candid CI d d opI opinion lon and keep silence And on the other hand It if there are certain things that you would like to have bave said Raid to to- to you then they are the things to say to other oilier persons DOROTHY DIX IX I DEAR r EArt MISS I DIX DIX I am a girl of ot 18 lS and r am going to be married The They tell me me that I am too young to marry that I 1 don dont don't know my own mind I 1 t resel this for tor In affairs of the heart there Is no woman who knows her own on mind regardless ot of age No Na woman knows but that tomorrow her heart may set her mind In an entirely different angle from Crom what It jt Is today In tact fact I think that the older a woman gets the more foolish Coolish she bec becomes mes I I would like to know what hat you ou have to say along these lines ANNA NA T M Answer Perhaps there are girls ot 18 who have rea reached hed their full Cull maturity who know all that they are ever going to know and Ideals and tastes tasteR will never change I hope you ou are not one of them Anna because to to have lavo reached the the limit of ot your development nt at 18 would put you In a a 11 class ot of high grade morons I I trust that you are going on growing m mentally chang ing changing your viewpoint getting broader outlook so that In five or ten years year from now you will look back on what you were at 18 with as much amusement as you do now at what you were at at 8 And then you will wonder at the things that in- in intrigue In Intrigue you so ao now just Juit as as s now you you wonder that you could have been so interested in playing with dolls And And you arb r mistaken Anna Anna In thinking that the older woman a-woman a gets ets the more foolish she gets gels Just living Is an education In itself DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger H H |