Show Letter Box HY WHY WOMEN HAVE THE RIGHT TO PICK our THEIR HUSBANDS OPENLY THE WORKING GIRL AND HER MONEY BORROWING FIANCE THAT YEAR DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE DL ll I am very much In love with a man but I know In my m heart of hearts that he does not me a thought be beyond ond This world arId was surely made mado for tor men 1686 1188 DIY It If a man loves Ions a girl he be at least has hall a chance of oC winning her but a girl must lilt back and watch another girl come along and take the man she loves NANCE Answer I agree with you Nance that there Is I nothing else In the world so unfair and so 10 unreasonable as the convention that prevents a woman from openly seeking the man she wants for a mate u As you say when a man tails falls In lo e love with a girl i he can at least try to win her He can attempt to sell lIell himself as they say In business to her He can bring himself to her notice lIe Ire can tell her of his affection and loves begets love He can tell DIN her what he has to offer her and try to make her hersee hersee see that she would be happy as his wife But the poor girl In love can do none of these things It If she shows sho tho man any attention people accuse her of tinning after him and It scares scales him off And II if she should summon up enough courage to pop the Question she would frighten him so that he would either drop dead of the ShOCK or else say No Ko in a panic for tor fear fears fearsome s some me woman was marrying him against his will Yet there would be many more happy marriages than there are now If women could take the Initiative In Ing lag for women have ave more discernment In matters of the heart than men have and would make better and wiser f t 1 You would never find a highly intelligent educated woman picking out a minded feebleminded boy for a husband for Instance just because he had eyes like a dying calf Nor Nori i would you find many rich old wO women marrying college boys bOYI r- r rin In the belief that they had Inspired a passion In the Jelly kl beans hearts j Yes Yes there would be many more happy marriages if IC women could do the courting because all that many a man needs Is just to have ha the matrimonial matter put up to him in the right light to make him yee ree what what a suitable wife some woman would make for tor him of whom ham he never thinks himself himself Think what It would mean If some middle aged woman with an unsatisfied ed mother yearning In her heart could go to a widower with many children and say to him I am the woman you a wife Marry me and let me mother your little ones and I will make you ou a happy and a comfortable home and bring up your children to be fine men and women whereas you will be perfectly mIserable and the children and their stepmother will be In a perpetual fight it If yoU that flapper you are thinking of Suppose the lonely old maid maid could go to the lonely old I bachelor and l say y Come on leVs letl get marl married d We lIk like cook the same ume things We have the same ume Interests I am a good cook good meals for a man who would en- en enjoy en R and just long to get up joy them Lets Letl pool our loneliness and make a twosome of It and set up J i home Suppose the rich woman could say to the poor man I love lovo you I have scads of money that brings me no happiness Marry me and let me s act t you ou up in busIness and save lIa you tram from the years of hard ship that are killing you ou Lets Let's get married and enjoy life together Dont Don't you believe that these men would be glad enough to say Tee oYes Men uy say these things to women every ever day Why shouldn't shouldn't women have the women say aay them to men Why right to pick out the men they want for husbands It makes whom she marries than It a lot more difference to a woman does to a man because she she is III always so much more married is than he Is s p Twenty years from now we shall have equal sentimental it Will be just as al much a commonplace for a Wo woo It le Is for her to vote And J man to pop th as now nobody will think it any more unwomanly DOROTHY DIX DIX- S e e e EAR T MISS What DIX would you do it your our fiancee made mado a month and you made and he be continually borrowed money tram from you and never mentioned payIng it back Every week the young man to whom I am engaged comes to me and tells teUs me th that t he be had hai overdrawn hIs bank account and asks me for money This nearly worrIes me to death Dont Donl you think that If he be worries me this much before marriage that I will fill have some real worries after marriage CONSTANCE Answer n-Iwer n I certainly certa do Constance Constnce Const nce I think that after marriage yoU will have troubles trouble II aplenty and that you ou will In fn all probability have to support your our husband It seems to me that any man who will wheedle the hard earned money out of a working girl is II just about as con can can find tind In the length and breadth a grafter as you of the land and the fact that he uses her love for him to make his touch is II all the tle more dastardly He might at least hold up another man Between t the man who borrows borro that ho never even tries to reo re- and that he a could repay by makIng a sacrifice of some of his pay expensive tastes therea and habits nand and the the man who picks your our pocket there Is no difference One Is just as dl dishonest honest as the other Ono robs you ou just as much as th other and If anythIng or orbe professional your Is a amore more more honest man be fuse he does not pretend to bo be our friend If your fiance were sick and unable to work and In need In him last lut penny but when you would be Justified giving your he Is II well and strong and earning more than twice what you are you are foolish weak easy ealY mark to give him a cent Certainly It Is a poor prospect of happiness that he holds out for your future for It for it he be cannot live on his salary as a single man how bow can he expect to do so as a married man The old adage says saYI that If you lend a frIend money you and friend This goes double when lose both your money your a woman lends to a man Nothing kills a mans man's af for a woman and makes him hate her so 10 quickly as owing her money DOROTHY DIX e a a EAR MISS You DIX are wrong In saying saying that twentythree years IJ I is III too much difference between age of a husband and a wife Ife When a girl she wants to settle down and she does docs not ex ex- ex expect to go to parties s and anI places of amusement and sh Is glad to have ha a husband who Is tired of running around and who wants to stay at home of nights JOHN F Answer Alas John I fear you know little of the modern woman Not many of then them are ready to be nothing but fIreside corn com as soon loon as they are married They still want to Jazz and go around a bit and no complaint is made more fre- fre frequently fre than that they have stick stick-in the mud husbands who will not take them out at all And It if this Is true when they marry young men how much worse must it be when they marry men who ho have had their fling and who cannot realize that their young wives want also to have havo a bite at the cakes and ale of which they have eaten their till fill DOROTHY DIX Copyright ht by Public Ledger |