Show Dorothy Dixs Dix Talks Talk s THE MOTHER LAW THE MONEY QUESTION THE SELF SUP SELF PORTING WIFE ARE ALL FIRST AIDS TO DIVORCE BUT THE CHIEF CAUSE IS BECAUSE MODERN COUPLES WILL NOT PAY THE PRICE OF SACRIFICE AND COURAGE FOR THE PRIZE OF A HAPPY MARRIAGE A A WO WOMAN wants to know what ono one thing above all others causes cause the Increasing ever number ot of divorces No Xo one can call answer this question definitely and say lay that this 01 or pat that hat Is first aid to divorce r A million different factors of temper and andt t temperament of creed and caste uste of laziness and luxury morals noral and manners enter Into the and every fighting couple who r I break their marriage marriage bonds have a different personal personal reason reason for doing so 10 Statisticians Statisticians Statisticians however tell us u's us that the head of the wrecking home home wrecking crew Is the moth moth- in er THEY THEY say Bay that the average young oung couple get J along well ell enough together K It they can go off art to live c liv by themselves They have their tiffs ot of course but bu buK K tr no one Is la around to pour oil on the flames of o their theil theu anger the man says sas he lie Is a brute and the girl dis dis- solves In tears and they kiss and make up and no ni harm barm Is done But If II there Is la a law mother w on the premises to interfere and bid her lier daughter stand firm or urge a son to show that he is the master ot his own house the spat develops Into a fight that ends in 11 inlove love being slain between een the husband and wife Particularly prone Is Isher brides bride's nerves and fill her with her husbands husband's mother to get set on a nen nerves s jealousies and resentments and so t to cause the estrangement between betwee a young young couple that ends In divorce In i Another potent cause of divorce I is the money question It Itt Itis Itis t 9 is too bad t that at loves love's young dream has to be properly financed or else Ise one wakes up from it but su such h alas Is II unhappily the theRN case V THE halcyon halcon days dan of at courtship a youth and maiden feel reel that I RN IV they can subsist 8 upon bread and cheese and kisses that they care not where here they they live so that they may be together and that the mantle of ot at romance will suffice them them for tor clothes Th They y marry on this platform and to their amazement t they dis dis- dis discover discover cover that love lent Isn't enough en u b and that you ou have just the same hanker hanker- hankering hankering ing for tor the flesh pots alter after marriage as as you had before e marriage They have the same ume appetite for caviar the same desire for a good car and a good house and good clothes Marriage hasn't made a cheap brand of tobacco have the flavor of a afine afine afine fine one to the man nor made the woman prefer a 3 hat to a 30 one And then unless the man and woman are of the big big type who are really capable of the grand and passion passion and that kind of people are about as rare as white they crows crows they begin to count the cost ost of their bargain and to figure out that It isn't worth worthwhile while and that they got stung man mall begrudges the money It costs to support a family and THE NHE thinks what a fool roo 1 he was not to stay single and and- keep his wad to toV Y V spend upon himself The woman oman becomes bitter bilter and dt disgruntled and feels reels that she Is nothing but a slave slue bound to a whom wham she comes to hate hale Each feels reels that the other tricked him or her somehow Into the uncomfortable position they occupy The result Is that and recriminations fly ny back and forth continually Quarrel Is super super- superimposed superimposed imposed upon quarrel and at last comes the day when hen they can en endure dure It no longer and they petition the court to give them back their lost freedom The emancipation of women has hu also something to do with the Increasing number of divorces Patient Griselda passed from the face of the earth on the day on which woman got gother gother her first paying good Job and found out that he could support hersel herself IS OLDEN times when beo a husband mc meant meant ant her one and only chance IN at t a ameal meal ticket a wife wire had bad to endure any treatment that her hus lius lius- lius husband band accorded her no o matter how mean m mead an and cruel and brutal be was to her But Dut nowadays nOl ad s 's when any bodied able lady l dy can get out and i earn her own bread and butter butler and perhaps as u much cake as her husband gives her wives wont stand being beaten and abused The patient humble wife who suffered in silence is as ex- ex extinct ex extinct of doesn't hide as the dodo The used Ill woman today her sorrow lorrow in her heart hurt She tell tells It to toe divorce judge and gets alimony TInS TIllS refusal of or women to be tyrannized over and Insulted and spoken to as no would dare to speak to any woman In his employment who could give notice and quit and be forced to work without even getting the wages of a servant Is la undoubtedly swelling the list of divorce cases caBes But Dut in the end It will diminish the number ot of divorces for tor men meo treat women omen an as women demand to be treated and when men find out that the only way to keep a good wife is to be just and kind to her they will VIII conduct themselves accordingly and the domestic Nero will go to Join poor Griselda among the shades However I think that the chief cause of o-f divorce e is be- be because be because cause people do not enter into matrimony In the right spirit They do not make the marriage contract with the same sense of its being a binding contract that they will have to stick to whether It comes up to all their rosy hopes of it or not or whether they like It or not or-not not as they do when they buy a house or go into a business partnership TIlE THE back of or their heads is th ought It-ought that K it they fall faU out of ON Is love or gel tired ot or each other or 01 see nee some gome one they like better or marriage doesn't prove as alluring as fh they y thought It would be that they will Till renege on their bet and call it off olf So they dont don t really try tl to make mako a go of It They dont don't put allo all ail allot ot of the intelligence they have hue into solving their personal problem In marrIage They dont don't use any diplomacy and finesse In trying to get tJ rA along with each other They dont don't show the courage ot of a mouse In enduring whatever disappointments are their lot What What What wonder that marriages entered Into so casually fall fail Any man who put as little real thought and brains into trying to make ke a suc success ess of his business as he does t to o try try- trying ing to make a success ess of his marriage would 59 bankrupt In six months Any woman who dealt as tactlessly with other people as she does with her husband would never be In Invited to another bridge party or ele elected ted to be doorkeeper In a club It It It Is horribly true that nearly nearly all divorces are home homebrewed brewed ADD A ADD DD to this the fact that we arc are not willing to pay the price o on or of tL n matrimony We Ve are not willing to make maka the necessary sacrifices The husband wants to continue cont continue nue his philandering utter lifter marriage and spend his evenings away from home bome The wife doesn't want to be tied down by babies and domestic duties and what wonder that the two who only meet to to quarrel agree to separate I It Is because we are soft and weak and selfish and fool foolish ish enough to believe that marriage Is the one good thing thing In life for which h we do not have to pay the price that there are ares areso s so many divorces DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger Company |