Show DOROTHY DIX TALKS TALK Hy nr 7 I nIS IX II the Worlds World's t l Pal raid Pate Woman Wrier Wr-Ht FUNNY HOW WOMEN LIKE TO BE PITIED TH THEY PITIED PITIED THEY Y ENDURE UNHAPPY MARRIAGES BLAST THEIR CHILDRENS CHILDREN'S CAREERS CAREER AND GROW CROW MAUDLIN OVER BEING MARRIED OR UNMARRIED ALL UNMARRIED ALL FOR SYMPATHY WHY WHY have hare women romen a morbid yearning to be pitied Since pity always Involves s a c certain condescension c ion of the th toward the one who li Is I pitied pitied-a pitied a recognition of the th fact that the th poor unfortunate creature with whom B one sympathizes sympathize It Is I less leu fortunate than one l is i oneself oneself-It oneself It would seem teem that a woman with SS AS m any respect P t and i pride would resent pity 3 B as a a deadly Insult Such I is I far from fr m being ft f- f the case however She simply laps It up and jd H begs beg for more and she will go to as shameless shame shame- Jud B less lets lengths to get more mor as a a drug addict HL J will to get cocaine cocain or morphine dy BACK RACK of nearly all of the wails walls of rom women en at the hardships of ot their lot Is this curious longing tobe to HP i be le pitied Take the case of ot the working woman asan asan as S S an example In reality the average woman woman likes H mr- mr to worm won outside of her home She Sh enjoys enJo's dolling her her her- EE gl s self sel up P and going down rn to the store or office In 1 which she sir Is employed She Sh likes the seeing of ot new uiA ut people the th barter and chattering chaffering of ot selling goods roods the delight of ot handling beautiful and delicate fine feminine fripperies the orderly routine of ot the office The Th sense sens of herto independence and the handling of ot her own on pay envelope envelop thrill her to the marrow of her bones But just about one woman in a thousand will admit to lo liking her Job and nd to having hiving the time Urn of ot her life Ufa earning her own living The Theother Theother Theother other pull a long face and moan over the hardness of ot their lot be because cause they are ar poor working girls girls Actually they are not sorry for themselves They realize that they are having a better time more fun and more beaux than the rich girls have hav who sit at home horn and wait for a stray man to happ happen n to stroll their way for they are down In the places where men abound and they have first choice at the getters getters go-getters go getters ad hustlers hustler None the less leu they feel that they have to put up their whine for sympathy though why they wish to be pitied Instead of envied heaven alone knows IT IT IS womans woman's Insatiable appetIte for sympathy that explains why a many wives endure endur the martyrdom of ot unhappy marriages All AU of us know wives who support trifling account no-account husbands who are so un un- ungrateful ungrateful grateful and nd abusive that they are like snarling dogs that bite the th hand that thai feeds them and we w have marveled that their wives did not chuck them out and lock the door behind them All AU of ot us know Women omen who come and weep upon our breasts and tell us that they are married to men so surly and tempered ill so stingy and hard that they make their lives a purgatory on earth and we have ve lain awake at night speculating over why they stuck to It The simple explanation Is la that they were amply repaid for whatever woes they endured by the pity they evoked The sympathy their pathetic fates called forth was a sweet morsel that they rolled under their tongues and they wouldn't have traded off their drunkards or their loafers or their grouches for the model husband of the community FOR the woman with a real bona fide bona fide A A l 1 grievance that everybody recognizes at sight as a genuine grievance and that calls forth the public sympathy has a a never ending source of o bitter pleasure that thal gives her a kick she never gets out of any mere placid everyday every happiness Nor does this avid appetite for pity satisfy Itself on the handout we give to those rom women en who have really made mado unfortunate unfortunate unfortunate nate marriages and have havo got cruel husbands It causes the women w who o have nothing to complain of to also make a bid for our tears lears Women who wh are married to generous kind men who are aregood aregood aregood good providers women who live In new houses and ride around In limousines and wear Imported frocks and who live on n the fat of the land are forever bemoaning their destinies and appealing to to US us to pity them because their husbands are business men Instead of poets or because they have hav magenta longings longings that their husbands do not share or the aura of their husbands souls doesn't match theirs or because of some other i THE extent to which women will go In their mad desire to be pitied finds Its fullest Illustration In the fact tact that they will even sacrifice their children cl to It It It Is the commonest thing Inthe In the world to hear mothers complaining of their children and telling how ungrateful they th y are and how much they sacrificed for them and how h w little their sons and daughters daughter do to repay It Worse still a mother will sit ait up and traduce traduce her traduce her children n just just for for the pleasure pl asur of having some som one on poor Mrs Jones or poor Mrs Mra Smith her EVERY E VERY day I hear some mother tell how extravagant and selfish Mamie Mamle Is and how she can never neer never have hav any new clothes because Mamie lamle runs Tuns up such terrible bills bill at tho stores that It is all papa can cando cando cado do to pay them And how Sally lies In bed b d of a a morning and she has to take her breakfast to her though goodness knows she sh is worked nearly to death with all she sh has to do but she doesn't dar dare daresay daresay say a word because Sally Is so high tempered and makes such scenes it 1 you cross her Or she rhe th tells how Jennie runs with a wild crowd and Is out auto auto- until all hours of ot the night Or she ahe tells how worried sir abe Is because John wont won't work and Tom will drink and shoot craps and oh dear what a terrible thing It Is 18 to b be a mother And the poor foolish mother doesn't realize that she ah le I paying for the sympathy thy she I Is begging by blasting chances of marriage and blackening Sallie character and ruining her boy boyt opportunities of getting In with worthwhile worth worth business men BUT the tb worst phase of ot all of ot women's mania for being pitied Is that thai if no one else will pity them they can get absolutely maudlIn drunk on self pity A woman can sit down and get actually dopey thinking how sad It Is fa that she sir has to put up with a husband who Is Just a a human being Instead of a a movie movi hero helo and how terrible It Is that she sh has to fo take care car of ot her children and keep house Instead of always alway standing on the stage star In the spotlight or being the queen of Sheba She can reduce herself to t a II sodden odden pulp If she he Isn't mar married sled ried by dwelling on her lack of f husband and home and dren And she he can dissolve Iv herself Into a perfect hydrant of tears by contemplating the miseries of either being a domestic woman or a business woman And either way she has a per per- perfectly perfectly perfectly grand time being miserable and feeling herself an ob object of sympathy who doesn't get her Just appreciation In this cruel world r FUNNY r Isn't It how women like to be b pitied Martyrdom Is their r favorite favorit Indoor sport DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger Compan Company |