Show I Dorothy Dix s 's Letter Box I WILL THE SELF-MADE SELF r MAN AN WHO MARRIES ABOVE HIM PULL THE GIRL DOWN TO HIS LEVEL SHOULD HUSBANDS AND WIVES OPEN EACH OTHERS MAIL ADVICE ABOUT BOYS TO FOUR GIRLS OF 13 DEAR D MISS DIX I DIX I am engaged to a girl sirl who Is a good tood bIt above my station In life lite I have ha often otten been beon told that It K a girl marrIes above her she can come cone up to the thi mans man's level hovel but hut It she marries be be- beneath bi neath her her husband will drag drai her down I love hove lov this girl so much that rather than thin Injure her I would give her bet up Please Pleasa tell me It if It Isn't I for me m to work up to her position Instead ot of o Ing her down to mine KENTUCKy DERBY DEnDY Answer Certainly you can rise to any position ion you wish The Th sky Is II the th limit In this thil land landof landof of opportunity of ours You may become b comi whatever ver you wish It I Is only a question i t of and ambition and ability 0 As n II matter malter of ot tact fact it Is far easier casler tor for a man manto to climb to a higher social level than It Is 1 for tor a r woman because all doors open to II a a man easier casler than they do to a a woman Also Mao tar far ar less leas In the way of at o fiX lUX l i ierace graces erace and charms are demanded ot of a a man than are ot of a II woman A man may bo be a very rough routh dla dia roond mond and be admired and sought after atter it if he be h has native wit and In- In in and has bas achieved something worth while but the th female rough diamond i Is scorned and ostracized Women make mak society in this country and ill as a there Is I al- al al always ways a shortage of mon men they turn a lenIent eye on shortcomings shortcoming whereas they casta I keen een and appraising glance at every woman and she h has to know all the tho th signs and the passwords before she he h can Into the lodge ledge of the th elect That Is I where tho the self seU made man has the th advantage of at o tho self seU suede made woman Give him a smattering of ot table etiquette and a II suit ot of klassy kassy kut clothes clothe and he lie can make a good appearance but it ta takes s 's years ot of study before a woman can know Ill ll of or the rIght thIngs for fora fora fo-a fo a woman to do or how and when to wear the right richt clothes clothe So dont don't be afraid that you wont won't b be able abl to live liv up to your wife Mr Man and dont don't be too proud to taka take her help If she cr se has had better advantages than you have had Dont Don't feel feal l that she sn Is being superior when she correct cornet your gram gram- grammar grammar mar or shows hows you ou how to use a fork or spoon Nothing I Is so 0 unfortunate all as a that the vanity of most husbands and wives des not permit them to bene benefit it by the th things that they could teach tach each other Any man who has enough intellIgence ence to make a living can learn to speak correctly and und eat properly and acquire the th polish ot of a gen gen gen- tieman ien-tieman So marry your girl and make her proud of you DOROTHY DIX C C S S SD SDOROTHY I DUR D DOROTHY DOROTHI My DIX DIX My husband and I 1 have been happily mar mar- marri rl ri d for tor three years ye earB r Until now we wo have hav opened and read each i letters but lately he ho has come to lo tho tim opinion that it should not to le done Every one olle has ha a rIght richt to lo their own privacy ho he says and that should hould not be bo infringed upon by anyone I feel teel that husbands husband and wives should be partners in every enry thought and deed and that privacy is the beginnIng of at o Then Thea comes lack or of o confidence coldness quarrels and perhaps separation What do you think SALLY Answer I think your husband I Is right and that he h takes the th at attitude of a gentleman toward the I can think of noth nothing ing more Ins insulting and offensive than to have any on one open my letters and read them before I I do And I I should con con- consider sider aider that I I had committed a breach of trust if I I permitted such a thing because the writer of a letter latter Intended It a as a personal communication to me m and not to the general public As for tor a husband and wife sharing In every thought that is an impossibility Every soul has its ita own secret chambers Into which no noone noone noone one else ever penetrates penetrate No husband tells his wife I everything he thinks No wIre wife tells her husband everythIng she be thinks and this Is 15 lawis wIse and right because It Is not given civen to any of at us fully to under under- understand understand stand another or to be all in all 1111 to another I I think that so far from undermining matrimony a con con- consideration consideration consideration for the th individual privacy of husband and wife strengthens it For the most people one of the tha th greatest draw draw- drawbacks drawbacks backs of marriage is its lack of privacy its lack of decent reserve its utter lack of all individual freedom Not to be able to have ones one's own room sacred to oneself nor to have a brush or comb or garment carment that no one ono els else is privileged to use not even to be able to open ones one's own letters is certainly a grievous price to pay for matrimony Moreover it is the things that get on mens men's and women's nerves neres and that make maka mak them quarrel and fight So believe me Sally your husband has the right Idea Nothing will do more to preserve your romance than Just to swathe it in individual privacy DOROTHY DIX S S C 0 S SD SEAR EAR r EAR MISS DIX Wo DIX Wo are four girls dri 1 13 years of o age and wish to toJ DEAR D ask ask ask J you these theses questions First Io I-Io How can a girl sirl be to boysT boys Second How can a girl eirl ot of 13 win a a boy ot of o 13 love hove Third Should a gIrl eirl of or 13 drop a bo boy bor of at o the same age se who Is abroad for tor another boy who is at home Fourth Should n II gIrl eirl of or 14 11 have dates and go o riding and to dances with boys hoys Fifth How can a girl tirl bo be popular A CLUB OF OP FOUR GIRLS Answer I 1 am inexpressibly shocked by your letter My dear chil dren dont don't you realize that at 13 you are too young to be bethinkIng bethinking thinkIng about boys boy and considering whether you attract them or notT not Your mind minds minda shouldn't be b filled with beaux You should be having a It perfectly gorgeous time playing all sorts of out out- outdoor outdoor door games and reading thrillingly absorbing storIes and b boys y as a a sex should not exist for you They should be Just as arc are I wish I could make you OU see what a terrible Injustice you are do do- do inc do-inc lag Ing by this premature womanhood you are so foolishly reaching out after atter Try fry to see it for tor yourselves To begin with you are aro robbIng yourselves ourselves of ot all your our childhood which Is the only care care- carefree carefree are are- free tree time tim you will ever have hav In all your lives And you are ar robbing your womanhood because you are arnot not ot developing slowly and naturally like fruit that ripen ripens In Inthe Inthe the sun un You are ar forcing yourselves and you will bo be b like flat fiat tasteless stuff tuff that ill Is I grown under glass Also you are robbIng yourselves elTe of an education For For after arter R a girl gets It Is a waste wast of ot money even to send her to school She Sho learns learn nothing when her head and her Interests are arc all ShIed filled with dates and parties and mushy sentimentality If you start out as at a young lady at 13 you will be b an old maId bythe time tim you are ar 20 You will have hav been about so to long lone that people will credit cr you with being belne ten years older than Ihan you OU are arc and before you OU are really ready to beGin life ute you will have worn all the th bloom oft off It So my dear d ar little girl girls I I beg of you to put all though thoughts of boys and dates out of your head heads for the tho th next three or four years of your life lit Be D content to be b sweet unsophistIcated un little schoolgirls and In that Way vay you will keep yourselves and your hearts fresh and when you are aro ar grown up you will bo be alluring to men because you have hav kept yourself unspotted from the tho th world Instead of being tarnished shopworn good goods that have been in the th windows too long DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public c Ledger |