Show I I I Dorothy Dix s 's Letter Box SHOULD A LONELY WIDOW WITH AN INDEPENDENT INCOME LIVE WITH HER MARRIED DAUGHTERS THE WILL TOO ING GIRL WHO NEEDS MORE INDEPENDENCE TO ATTRACT MEN WHY MARRIED MEN SEEK MORE DATES THAN SINGLE ONES D homeL p EAR MISS ISS DIX l DIX I am a widow in middle life lire have a good home with a comfortable income butI but 1 1 am alone and feel reel I cannot en- en en endure dure lure living by myself I have two married daughters daughter Shall I 1 break breakup breakup breakup up my home borne and go to live with one of o them What shall I do A LONELY JONELY MOTHER l Answer ij Dont Don't break up your home Dont Don't w go to live with your children if you b value your happiness or their well well- being Arf e fc l Preserve your Independence Th t Sf'S is il the one consolation prize teal trat Is 1 K li iS-li left to a woman who loses her hu huI hus I I band and whole whose children have left the home nest and have gone about th the business of life for themselves Beli Believe ve me If you YOLI sacrifice your Independence because you are lonely you will pay a bankrupting price for companionship DOROTHY DIX Dont Don't deceive yourself by thinking you will be happy and satisfied when you go to live H In another womans woman's home even If it that other woman Is la our your own daughter It will wll be her house not yours your ours She will be the mistress of it not you Oll Her lIer ways will vill not be your our ways was She he will resent your Interference and scorn your advice ad No o woman who has run her own onn house for twenty five or th thirty II 11 sears HalS is ever happy outside of her own homo home She misses the author authority ity She misses the work She having something to do and think about and the ahe he becomes peevish peevish and fretful and a pest to everybody about her And no matter how much her children love o e her they would love hove her bel ten times limes better it if she kept her own home and was wa an occasion occasional al guest Instead of ot a fixture in their houses For Por 1 01 th there Ic are always alwa'S the in laws to consider and no man Cf craves t es having a 1 in mother mother-in law wish 1 herself upon him So my dear lady stick to your own home where you can have your own furniture about you and cook the things you like to eat And if you must have companionship take in strangers with whom it is it not such a heartbreaking heart affair if you quarrel Or if you are only middle aged why dont don't you you you- marry again Widows who are fair fat and 40 and who have I have a nice income of their own are matrimonial prizes And anyway you ou needn't be lonely in a world that lint is full ful ot of ofa oa II a million interests Join clubs Go in for philanthropies Take In some poor little homeless child and mother it it Travel Keep your yourself our self so bus busy you rou wo wont won't t have time to be lonely But dont don't give up your own home and dont don't go and live with your children DOROTHY DIX DIXi I S S S SD SEAR S DEAlt D r EAR DOROTHY I DIX DIX I ama am a a girl of 20 O and I have lIa been gon going goine f with a young oung man for a year ear During this time he has ha never I mentioned that he lie cares for me but I think he does lIe He Is very ery independent and thinks he lIe can make a date with me an any time he wants to Dont Don't you rou think I had better belleI show him that hat J I can be independent too DOT Answer Surely That sort of a chap needs a good hard jolt to wak wake him up and if you have hav enough spunk to refuse to tobe tobe be at his beck and call you ou will make him sit up and begin to take notice Men Ien take gills at their own valuation and aul when one holds bolds he herself self cheap boys rate her at a bargain counter worth also The girls who always say yes es and thank you too every time a man asks them to go anywhere are not the ones who have ha dat dates s Just the knowledge that a girl I Is sitting at homo borne walling wailing for for him to asit ak her togo to togo I go somewhere som where with him destroys destros every mans man's ninn interest Interest in her bet There is no pep In fn the willing too girl There is no thrill in pursuing a II girl who is chasing him It is the girl who doesn't care who flouts men who can net along per perfectly well without them that piques their interest It is the tho dates that are hard to get that keep a II man mon man on the tele telephone phone There is no policy that pays a girl so well in deal dealing ing with men as independence As for fOI thinking that a II man mall is in III love lo with you OU when he has ne er mentioned it you ou are arc kidding yourself my dear deal Theres There's noth nothing ing to it with When a man really falls in love with you he will tell you about it often and at great length There are no dumb lovers They are all alt phonographs that never run down DOROTHY DIX D DER kEAR ER MISS ss I DIX DIX I have been employed for fOl sL six abc years year ears where there are quite a number of o married men and anil a few single ones one The single ones pay me inc hardly any attention but I am simply hounded bythe by the the married d on ones ones s The single men seldom ask me to go out with them but the mai man led men are always alway inviting in me to theatres theatre din dinners ners and an and to ride I I do not accept these Invitations but I get them and ad I wonder why I am apparently more attractive to the married than to the he single HARASSED I IAnswer Answer Probably the situation in which you you- you find find yourself Is acci accidental dental I IThe men men The single men with whom you work inay may be younger than you are or engaged to be married to other girls eiris or the they may not be earning arning enough to afford arford matrimony therefore they steel against your our charms and avoid sentimental entanglements entanglement with you Not so the tha flirtatious married m men mn n They kno know that you ou know that they are already married and that you OU cannot expect them to commit bigamy r for r your our sake and so 10 they feel reel free tre to enjoy as much or of your society as you ou will bestow upon them That is precisely why the mar married married man plays such a low low- lowdown low down down game when he tries to Inveigle a young girl into a alove alove alove love affair with him He wins her heart knowing that he has nothing to give In return He compromises her for the pleasure he gets geh out of a clandestine romance romane and when It ItIs Itis itIs Is all over and he h has grown tired of her he calmly chucks the whole business and and wants to know what she expected anyway She kne knew that that he had a wife and kids You are a good girl and a wise one to turn down the th married philanderers invitations The girls who accept t them buy their fun too high DOROTHY DIX DIX- Copyright by Public Ledger |