Show i Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Leite Box J IS IT BETTER FOR A WOMAN TO MARRY EVEN IF SHE IS NOT VIOLENTLY IN LOVE THAN TO REMAIN SINGLE CUR CUR- CURING ING A BOYS BOY'S VANITY WITHOUT CURBING HIS AMBITION DOES IT PAY A GIRL TO BR BR- GOOD AND HAVE NO DATES r EAIl MISS DIX DIX Is Is It best for a woman to marry or not to 10 marry f I mean of ot course when she the Isn't violently head over over bead heele In love but Just lust likes a nice man nun fairly well and realizes realize that ho he la is most likely her her last chance That's my case and andI anI I dont don't know wl what at to do BACHELOR GIRl r w Answer ate Oi Mr Punch said long ago that get get- getting getting 1 ting ling married was one of the tho th things that you regret If you do and regret if you dont don't do And that probably sums cum up the tho th matrimonial experience t I of most people and especially of the n c fi fin fit t feminine contingent Only a very s few find In their husbands the tho th Prince r Charming of their dreamt To To very few i is matrimony a strewn flower strewn S M pathway r FM y F I To the great majority of women a marriage is II a hard and 1 rocky road that they walk in company with a aman aman ta man who gives them n neither corn com com- DOROTHY DIX nor appreciation nor af- af affection af affection The average married woman has to work ten len time limes times as hard bard In lili b br home as ns the single singh woman works In an office orfice or store and she l w no pay envelope tn elope for her labor She works literally for tor her board and clothes She has lias no union hours but begins her ber days day's toll before the rest rett of ot the family Is up and ends end It long lone after memo item b be a 8 are abed Her lIer husband seldom treats treat her with the courtesy that thai b br r employer would show It If she were a competent business or pro pro- woman It If she is married to a 11 poor man she can have bave none of 01 the pretty prelly clothes and little treats that the woman has bas who has a good food job So far as at material thing things I are Ire concerned a woman makes a poor Investment when she marries unless she gets a hus husband band who is i well off financially and who is kind and gener gener- generous ous oua But the spiritual values are arc different A woman may love lo a man so much that she finds her her er highest by in sacrificing herself for him In such a case a woman is hap hap r Die plc married to a 1 man who balf starves halt starves her than she would be If it she shere re a millionaire old maid 1 who ho sat down every da day das to a banquet Just JUlit for one Nor or do wives wires require to be paid In dollars and cents t tAny Any woman married to a man n who Is II I a perpetual lover pities every spinster from the bottom of her heart And there arc are the children They are the consolation prize that God gives to many a woman whose whole marriage is a bleak and bitter disappointment They fill her empty heart They give her something to hope for to strive for and give a meaning to her life that life that the unmarried woman never has hal Furthermore without doubt marriage Is a developer de o of character U II brinGs brines out all that is best beat in people and as a general thinG thine the thew woman w man who has been blen through the experience of ot wifehood is more more unselfish than the single tingle woman who has never ne had bad to give up her own desires for others But whether it is il s best for a woman who isn't particularly particularly particularly in love with a man to marry or not depends altogether upon how much sporting blood she has If she stays single she plays sate safe If she marries she takes a hundred one to-one one to-one to shot at happiness but there is il always the chance that she will make a killing DOROTHY DIX R DOROT DOROTHY iY DIX I DIX I have ha a young youns son who Is always alwa's boasting SEAR DEAR DE bout what he be is going to do There is nothing I dislike so mucha much a egart bi-egart How can I curb his egotism A WORRIED WORmED MOTHER J Answer A little wholesome ridicule Is perhaps the best beet remedy but his hil schoolmates will probably probably deflate deflate his swelled head as there is nothing that boys are so ruthless In dealing with as vanity But Dut your our problem Is not quite so simple as It seems because In tr Ir fug ine to 10 impress the virtue of ot humility on your Jour son you ton you ou run the and de eloping In him the inferiority K It or of killing killin his self e complex that hat does more to 10 make failures ot of o men and women than Iban else in the world For or we can only achieve the things that we believe we have the ability to achieve We have to be sold to our our- ourselves ourselves selves as the commercial saying goes goel before w we can sell to others Our belief in our own powers sets the to mark to our ohr aspirations The timid the fearful the self self- deprecating stif-deprecating deprecating never do anything worth while And so I think parents make a great mistake In putting too severe sever a curb on a childs child's vanity tl 11 may offend your good taste laste to hear Johnny boasting that hat he heR hea hei R a going going- to be president pr when he grows crow up or a n millionaire and ride Ilde m th tb finest automobile that was ever made or that he is going to 10 tobe tobe be a general in the army But how do you know what fate has in store for him himor himor or what powers and abilities are hidden in to that tousled little his his hie And of one thing you may be that sure sure that he will never be anything if you destroy his hil faith in himself Old fashioned parents believed belle It their duty duly to ket keep p their chil chil- children children dren faults fault before their eyes They never failed ailed to tell Mary how homely she h was and John how awkward hi he was to remind Tom ot or his Juline and Jim or of o his hi carelessness with tho the inevitable Ine result that the hp intensified all ot or those these faults They made the children believe that hat they had handicaps that they could not overcome and they sur- sur to tale fate without ever eHr pulling up a fight The self-conceited self are arc ar hard hard upon their fellow creatures the tho th DOROTHY DIX but they are getter go-getter go getters e t 1 EAR MISS Why DIX DIX Why do boys boy prefer girls eirls who ho drink and smoke DEAn ane an pet pet pet and paint to nice quiet modest girls I work In a store hero girls around 20 years of or age are ed and almost exception those or of o us u who are quiet staying home-staying girls have no 10 dates date while th the giddy girl girls tave c date dates dales to burn Is it any wonder that we w ask does doe It pay to be good good good DISCOURAGED Answer I wish wilh I 1 could answer your question my dear but I cant can't Nobody j knows why men are k attracted fr fl by Lf the lq i very qualities In girls that they wont won't want their wives to possess ess But they are arc No one of the tho th men who pick out a girl because she he dresses like a fashion plate and who enjoy her society because she the is if wild and gay and goes the limit will want he her herto to act that way after he is II married to her He Ho will want his wife to tt be discreet and domestic and thrifty And when he be finds finds that she knows more mor about buying ban Iban she he does doci about buying butchers butcher's meat and is more mor expert at lancing dancing the Charleston than at cooking and that she ho think thinks the only purpose e ot of o home homo Is a place to 10 change your our clothes he ho will want to ul orce her It is il no wonder that girls wonder if It pays paYI for them themi i to be b wt sweet and modest Certainly they dont don't get much en encouragement along those lines from men DOROTHY DIX CopyrIght by Public Ledger |