Show I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Dix s 's Letter Box J THE MISERABLE WIFE WHOSE KIND GENEROUS HUSBAND WONT WON'T MAKE LOVE TO HER THE STARVED LOVE WIFE WHO STEALS STEALS AFFECTION FROM HER HUSBANDS HUSBAND'S FRIEND IS THE GIRL WHO DOESN'T THRILL REALLY IN LOVE DEAR DEAn D EAR T EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am married to one or of o the best men inca In the the the- world lIe Ho Is II I kind and generous and I am sure he Is devoted to tome tome tome me and appreciates all that I do for him for I am a good wife and anda anda a good housekeeper Dut But Miss Dix my hearts breaks because he never pets me or makes a fuss over me or calls caUs call me any baby names yet et before we were married nobody could have been more affectionate pt and demonstrative than he was to me Inc I spend days and nights bit my knees praying God to bring about a change chango in him Mm so that he will show me again that he loves me mc but my prayers are never answered lIe He just goes along the tho same old way ay Good to me but never saying to me the things that I would give my life Ire to hear bear And I 1 think It T it will 1111 kill me MRS RS C J B D Answer Answerl C My dear Mr Mrs C J 4 B 5 when I get let let- letters I t r like youre and yourt and hundreds hundred of other wo wo- women wo- wo women women men write me m virtually the tho th same am thing thing-I thing flEe Ul wonder which are ar the th most stupid and blun dering in their relation to each ach oth other other r hue hus- band hu-band bands banda or wives I wonder that men as a cia class never seem to realize that women put more mor tress stress on word words than they do on deeds The Th wife WIN wIll believe her husband huband loves her If he h tells tell her so ao and pays paya pay her a few compliments even if he beats buts and starves her and she the will wili doubt his hi af affection if he Is Ii dumb about It although he h work works his fingers finger to the th bone bon to prove his hi devotion And I wonder why a man who will do everything else els on earth to male make a II woman bapp happy who ho will toil toll for tor her ber and sacrifice for tor her ber berand herand herand and go hungry and cold for her wont won't make love to her he be is bound to know that the one on thing on on earth that would make her perfectly blissful is just to have him make mak a fuss over her and tell teU her that the she Is th the most wonderful creature on earth and that sho gets more beautiful every day and that he loves her better belter all the time I wonder that men dont don't realize that marriage doesn't cure a woman of her craving for admiration or for affection or for soft talk Rather it intensifies Intensities It and the husband who refuses to fill this need of his hi wife's soul soui starves starve her Just as ae much as a if he failed tailed to provide provid her with food for her body Most of o all I 1 wonder that mendo men not realize that a 8 a few kind words to their wives will make them eat out of oC o their hands bands and that the easiest way to work a a woman Is just by soft soaping her ber And then I wonder about women I marvel at their gen gen gen- ius iu jus for making themselves miserable ml rable about nothing I am tilled with amazement at the th trouble they th y take tak to find the crumpled rose ros leaf under their forty mattresses of ease Certainly the tho woman who has a husband who Is good and kind and generous to her and whose affection for tor her Is dally daily proved in a thousand different ways ays has mighty little to complain of She Is 18 going a long distance out of oC o her way to hunt bunt for trouble when she can make mak herself herselt wretched over the tho fact tact that he Isn't a glib love love- maker love maker and Isn't always telling her that her eyes are ar like stars and her mouth a a rosebud And I marvel at the lack of common sense sene that prevents a woman from ever understanding her hr husband and seeing the plain practical man no more mor considers It necessary to tell his hi wife every evry day how itow much he loves her than he hedon don does to go about announcing to all he meets mets that he Is an honest man or that he h always alway pays pay his debts He II thinks that his devotion his care his work speak for them them- themselves themselves selves and that words word are ar superfluous beside them then He says It with and new Dew hats and limousines And she khe goes around poor poor foolish soul beating beatin on her breast and walling wailing out her bet misery to high heaven because he ho has quit quoting poetry to her So So two people who ho love each other make mak each uch other mi miserable mis- mis erable rabi over a few word words one en want wants said laid and the th other oth r wont won't say ay Can you beat It It DOROTHY DIX S S S S SD SEAR EAR kEAR MISS I DIX DIX I have hav teen hen married for eleven and a half halt years DEAR D am 28 2 years old and have hav two little boys whom I 1 love lov very verr dearly My husband brings his pay envelope home bome to me m and tells me m that he be loves me but he be h never n ver shows show me mo any affection or takes me m to any place of ot amusement I am starved love at home borne There Ther Is a II man a 8 a friend of o my husbands husband's who has been In love with me m for ten years and I 1 with him lie Ho is married too but he h Is isas Isas as hungry for affection as I 1 am We meet occasionally and he h kisses and caresses me and says gays to mo me the tender things that every woman loves lo to hear and we w are lire passionately happy when wh n we are ar together Now do you OU consider it wrong for tor us to love lov each and it tr there tb r any harm In our little stolen Interviews our little auto trips and dinners 1 Can we w go on being just lovers Please Picas tell us what t to do as we have hae decided to go by your decision DROWN BROWN EYES Answer You Vou know very vry well Brown Eyes Eys that what whit you are ar doing i is very wrong and that no good can come corn of ot it You Vou an are being disloyal to your husband huband and breaking your wedding vows vow In spirit If not In fact Even If your husband Isn't Int affectionate and you ar art are hungry for love It doesn't give you the right to teal steal It t t And think of o your our children children You want to train them up being tine fine honorable men who will go 10 straight How can you do that If I you OU are ar crooked yourself How now can you OU teach them to keep their Ideals It if you OU bavo havo lowered yours ours and trailed them in the dust Every boy has a rl right ht to think of hi his mother u as a the th embodiment of all that Is I pure pur and exalted In womanhood but he h cant can't do that If his mother has been ben carrying on In- In In Intrigues with a married man and meeting him on the th sly You dont don't want your boys to be ashamed of you to have to blu blush h when your name Is mentioned as u they thy will if you continue on your present course because no woman can c being gossiped about who has has a lover 0 And wh what t happiness do you ou expect expect to get out of ot this affair DOl Do you and this man think that any peace and happiness will come corn or of o a alove alove love that Is built on treachery that goes In trembling fear ot or being found out and that is bound to result In the end In the breaking up or of two homes horn and the orphaning of o two sets ot of children My advice to you both is to turn back while there is still time tim and put this guilty love lov out of your hearts DOROTHY DIX S S S 5 EAR r EAR MISS DIX l DIX I am engaged to a young youns oun man who is a very DEAR D tine flue chap We get along alone well together like the same sam things and andare andare andare are real pals But the th girls that I 1 work with are aro always alwa's raving over their men friends and as I have hav no inclination to grow hysterical over mine I wonder it I 1 love lovo him as much as I ought to t to marry r him For I 1 cannot gush over him nor get thrills every enry time no ne at me I even see his bis faults Do you think 1 I am m In love lov or not PUZZLED Answer I You Yo must must or of o course be the lh judge of the state tte of ot your our affections I cannot possibly diagnose your case from these thes few t w symptoms But because you OU do not have havo hot and cold flushes and tremble at the sound of oC o a s footstep Is no Indication that you ou are not In lovo love with the tn young It only shows that you are not overly emotional Inability to thrill The Dont Don't be b discouraged by your are ar the th quickest to get g t over their love lov affaIrs affair Nor NorI NorIs NorI I Is it any sign Ign that you dont don't love the th young man m n because you youse see ee his hi little weaknesses The supreme test of love lov Is when you can say With au all thy faults I 1 love lov thee the still DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |