| Show I I n Dorothy Dix s 's Lett Letter Box B x I I V HY THE WOMAN WEDDED TO HER CAREER COMMITS BIG BIG ANY ANY BY MARRYING A MAN MAI HOW CAN A WOMAN GAIN GAIM AFFECTION OF A MAN WHO DOESN'T LOVE HERl HER THE HUSBAND TORN BETWEEN WIFE AND MOTHER D DAn F Alt DOROTHY Several fIX DIX Several years Yeats ago go I married a young woman woman woman- was a teacher 01 0 course I naturally the she would the th kind l o of a wife wit who was a hm maker maKer and who wanted children and I find out thai that the only thing hint that sir she cares care for is her profession proCession She hates to keep house bouse She will not have children and she abe Is Ia 1 away awny from r borne bome now studyIng s so so that she the next nest year I am amply abl abI to support her In comfort and give her every she wants and I want a home d and a family What shall I do dog A DISAPPOINTED HUSBAND 1 Anwer Th The only ony thing you can do With a car career career- crazed r-crazed crazed woman Is a to f let her go and try It Sometimes when she the fi finds ds out out that the price iF she has ha to pay for tor a careE career r Is husband and home and babies she the realizes what whal a poor bargain she he Ii Ia mal making and turns back to the better worthwhile things thing and Is thereafter a contented wife wito and II l l mother Sometimes the career realty really does doe mean more to her than everything else in life If and nd In that case Call the th husband Is wise If he h Just Juit lets her h r go for ther thre is no happiness nor peace for a man with a time part wife whose who real Interest Is given to her outside work and not to t her home horn I IThe The woman who loves lo her ber dear public better beller than she does dues her husband who would r rather ther get the glad clad hand from the audience than hold bold her baby's hand and who Is absorbed in schemes for tor lus tag Ing the world orld Instead of ot plans for making her own home hone happIer Is not meant for tor domesticity and it is hopeless to try to ti tie herto her herto herto to her own fireside preside It is il one of the th tragedies of being a woman woma that a woman cannot annex matrimony to a career as a man can and add the Joy and delight of family life to the Joy and delight In doIng her life work as a man does I Contrary to popular opinion not every woman Is born with a passion for cooking and sewing and sweeping and mending and tending baby-tending and doing all 11 of the tasks that go to the th making of a home any more than every man Is Isborn Isborn Isborn born with an inner urge to be a carpenter and build his house with his own hands There are ar many women omen to whom hom nature gave not the talents or of domesticity but talents for tor teaching tea or business or executive work or acting and nd so on These women often otien spend years or of Woe and thousands of ot dollars fittIng themselves s f for r the work they were were destined to do and that they have a passionate delight in doing Th Then n they tall In jn bye lov and get set married and the jig jle Is up For they find that they cannot serve t two o masters They cannot manage a career and a husband and children at the same time They must sacrifice one or the other It Is a hard and cruel choice but an honest woman should make it before marriage and then abide by her decision She hasn't a right to sacrifice an innocent man and helpless lit lit- little littIe lit little tle tIe children to her ambition or to her love ove of her profession or business c k i The woman who has hs espoused a career should never 1 commit bigamy by marrying anian a man DOROTHY DIX 5 EAR dISS Do DIX DIX Do you ou think that it if I 1 will be bo patient an and try f bard enough I 1 can ret get the manS manSI man I love who doesn't love me What can I do to make him care bare care for tor me SUE i iAnswer Answer A man who is a patient woo wooer r and who assiduously pur pur- it suesa girl In spite of all disc discouragements Is very apt to win her n the end nd but such tactics are not so successful when practiced by a woman It flatters a woman for a mn man to run after her but it Is very very apt to a man for a girl to run fun after af r himI him I there Still Still there are exceptions to the tir rule rulo If t the man tion In tIE happens to be b either cither very timid and bashful or very con con- con cited The timid man always ahva's needs some torn one on to help him over the fence ence and nud he marries out of ot sheer gratitude the gIrl cirl who does most mosto or of the courting and because he hasn't the nerve to say no no The man roan marries the tb woman who lets him see that she lov loves im s tw because he ha thinks ho f-ho shows her superior taste and Intelligence Intel tn In preferring him So there you are Thackeray said that any woman who have an actual hump on her back could marry any man man she ahe chase chise ch se and certainly we have all seen that confirmed this theory Naturally eve every ry hunter of or men must Jay lay her own traps to suit own game came You dont don't catch lions and rabbits In the same sami snares o the th only advice I can give elvo you ou as to methods Is to study your Q larr and adopt the tactics be best beet st suited to the Individual man Some men should be jollied some flouted Some talked to some listened li to form ome men must be appealed to through the eye Others through the stomach Some men can be bt floated Into matrimony on a sea of Others have to be dragged Into It by the th hair of their heads But there Is generally a II way and the patient worker ti a finds It DOROTHY DIX us S I a S C CD DOROTHY DOROTHY r EAR DOROTHY DIX My DIX My wife wiCe hates m my mother so that she goes DEAlt D Into a violent rage rate even nen when I receive a letter Ietter from her She abuses buKes me and my coy mother applyIng every sort ot of o vile epithet to us usi s Yen ven en going so far as ss to strIke me My mother has done don nothing to nure my wife In any liny way On the contrary it Is my soy wife who has my mother i I i Now I love my wife wICe but I also love my coy mother dearly and I Io o 0 not feel that I should be he compelled to give up mother entirely ut because my wife wICe hates her I have a dear little child who Is by my parents They are ar anxious to see the child and I Im n in anxious to take tak ake It to their home for a short visit but my wife wICe refuses to let the lh baby go co and Is Is Is- violently opposed even 0 my going What should I d do PUZZLED HUSBAND i I It i 1 Answer f t You will show that you are of a very weak wak j character and a most unworthy son Ion If you let your wife sep lep sep sep- arate rat you from your mother i A jealous woman Is a II crazy crary woman oman and you ou with tour our wife wit any more than you ou could with ith any other lunatic but you 1 be bo as wrong to be b bound by her limitations as you would bo be beto boto to 10 let any other other person who had lost h her hr r senses decide a question Cf bt right wrong and for tor you ou What hat your wife thinks of your mother has haa nothing what ever ever to t do d with your obligation to the woman who wh bore bor you who nursed you who toiled for you who sacrificed for you who has haa surrounded you all the days of your life with a tenderness and devotion that you can never lIever repay you ou are ar married has haa not made your mother love you OU less It H has haa not tot made her ber less Interested In you OU or made her pine less for fora fora fora a sight of ot your dear face and the sound ot of o voice Indeed just you have hav the misfortune to be married to a bitter and ye- ye re v 1 woman makes her brood over you with that pity that only a mother can feel for her unhappy children ren So writ write to your mother often oUen g go to see ee ee her often andA and f by all means take your little child to se see lee her grandparents I Your wife vite has no right to forbid that And you may be sure lure of this that this that your wife will have more respect for fr you if you t defy her and do d what you know to be the right thing thant than she sh will have If you are ar coward enough to give in to t her and andI t I and let her boss you DOROTHY DIX I Copyright by Public Ledger |
