| Show Dorothy Drothy D rothy Dix Talks ON ONE WOMAN BACKED HER HR HUSBAND TOO WELL WELI- SO THAT HE TURNED TURNED FROM HER AS FROM A TASK MIST TASKMISTRESS ONE TASK MISTRESS ONE ESS-ONE ONE WOMAN HELPED BY BEING A BURDEN BUT BURDEN BUT THE THIRD MADE HER HUSBAND A SUCCESS BY BELIEVING IN HIM p EVERY FR 11 woman oman who ho Is la a woman and not a sawdust dr up doll doH doll doll- wants want above everything else to be of or some real assIstance to her hor husband assorted one woman looking very tery capable caP ble and smart In a green treen sports dress But there Is no other olber problem on earth so great greal as how to do it fl Beside r the be question or of o how bow tt ib lb help II a a husband the sphinx becomes a conundrum so simple that a child coult guess I II IL Right agreed another who had on a agay gay cay yellow flannel fannel You cant can't do your duty a by your husband huband without spoiling him S N None ne of us likes the th people to whom whom- whom we we are under obligation added another aMther who was lovely In a big picture hat and 4 the minute a knows that h he should be b grateful to his wife he begins to hate her Did self seIf you ever see a poor patient wife who worked her fingers to the tho bone to her husband who wasn't neg neg- neg ilY DIX and mistreated I I HAVE just been thinking said the woman In green Ereen about some somei friends ot of mine who have recently struck disaster Their case shows what whal a 8 difficult matter malter it is to help a husband and how a wires wire's very zeal ze l to todo do do the best for tor him may be her o n own undoIng The womans woman name Is Alice and she sh he Is a remarkably pretty intelligent and attractive o young oung woman tn every way brImful way brimful of o en en- en ercy cn-ercy orgy ergy and und ambition About ten years yeara ago aeo she fell ell In love with lIh a er very average young oung man and marrIed marked him He lie was a lawyer ot of o mediocre ability with wilh au an u easy going slothful uninspiring disposition lie came camerom from poor poor parents and knew l little tUe litti ot of tine fin manners None of us could understand what Alic A Alice saw in him to fancy fancy but she she was carried away with him and from the moment she married him she bent every effort of or mind and body toward advancing him SHE SI CUE helped him study up his law Jaw cases she made clients for tor him 3 she has ha stood behind him pushIng him on She has scrImped and economized that he might be perfectly turned out She has made madea a beautiful home for tor him Sho has bas done clone ev everything that a woman can possibly do for a man and has bas literally lifted him Into success You wouldn't know now him today as the married The reward for all this devotion Is Last week he told her with brutal frankness that he was tired of her and had fallen in love with a younger woman He H wanted her to go goto goto goto to Reno to get a divorce so that he can marry the other woman e OO Alice is heart broken When she told me about it she kept POOR moaning over and over again I cant can't understand it ft for tor or I tried so hard hatch to help him And I didn't have the courage to tell her hr that that was just the trouble In trying to help him she has set a pace at which his lazy pleasure loving nature rebels She has become b come to him mistress a taskmistress task prodding him on so that he has turned from her to a woman who wont won't urge him on en to the th struggle or hold him up to high standards while the wife who has given the best that was in her to building him up is di discarded carded for her pains We should and we want to help our husbands yet how can we do it t without driving them from us 7 I j I SOMETIMES IES think said sad the woman In tn yellow rello lit that the only way ay to help a man Is to bf bp a 8 hindrance to him and that tha that the a burden a woman oman Is to 10 her husband the more she strength strength- strengthens eris ezis ens him That Is paradoxical but it seems to work out satisfactorily toni In life If Ir you notice you will see that the women who have money always have husbands who can make it while the women who can do without things rarely have them Let Let a woman show that she fhe can support herself and many husbands will let her sit down and do it wh whereas rus the wo we wo- wo woman woman man who cant can't even keep a house decently has a husband who gets up and hustles ITS ITS a discouraging fact tact agreed the woman In green that the 41 more moro useless the be more spoiled and babyish the wife the Ibe better her husband loves her r I 1 think that I bal e solved the lh problem remarked the gentle gentle- Voiced woman In the picture hat I married a young man who has hns achieved success I 1 have helped him do It but bul I have Ita dono It fo eo that he ho does not realize that I have bat had bad any hand in it so he still loves me What Is your asked the other woman The way for a wife to help her husband she he answered it t to believe in him and expect much of him IJ ay I HAVE VE made m my husband feel that I 1 thought he was Uia the most roost an and brilliant man of the ago age atil that there was was nothIng from being president down that he could not achieve achlen If It he so de- de tired de-tired ired Then I have hae made for tor him a 11 comfortable home In which he found peace and rest I have ha built up lip hIs bl body and spirit for foe the just a as any engineer stokes his furnace for tor a big bit run inn Finally I have held the ideal of s success unwaveringly my husbands husband's eyes He knows that I I expect him to achieve it and nd nd that if he h doesn't I shall consider him a quit quit- quitter quitter ter I dont don't stint my praise and I assure anure you that the most Intoxicating brand of flattery is made home-made though women haven't always wit enough to know it 1 YELL said the woman In yellow seems to lo me that trying to 10 o V TV help your husband Is like fooling with dynamite It may elevate rou ou Into heaven or blow you Into loto the other place DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger S |
