Show Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box HOW THE MOTHER OF SIX CHILDREN SHOULD TREAT HER UNFAITHFUL HUSBAND HOW HUSBAND HOW CAN THE SECOND WIFE DISPEL THE GHOST OF WIFE NO SHALL 1 1 SHALL SHE WAIT FOR HER BOY SWEETHEART OR MARRY MOTHERS MOTHER'S CHOICE DEAR BEAR MISS DIX I DIX I have bave bar good goad reason for Cor knowing that my husband busbanI le la unfaithful to me I hat bin base e six children the oldest 9 t years ears cars old We live lino In a comfortable home borne with ft a fw few luxuries and all modern Improvements although I 1 do all the th housework My husband con coi con conIs Is I a lines to give dye me m 80 SO per coot cent of o his hi weeks week's pay just jui ti 0 as ho he always has He Ho also seems as Interested In 1 H kT r 1 H the th children ae 18 cy ever and Is 1 pleasant plant and affectionate affection il l ate toward me He H used to rue rave about the house Y i f hold expenditures bills etc but lately he h I ole y J B these thes entirely and told me that he be h thought I was ry ryr F J H capable of managing the home horn finances without his hisM hi M r interference HI Here Her is II I what puzzles puzzle me roe Shall i I tell my m mH H H HJ J husband that I know of at hi his affair or shall I keep xe i Quiet and end Just sit pretty Evidently ho he h consIders consider Wa Kv y himself In Jn love Shall I shAtter his hi dream of secrecy y jN J Do you Tau think tb Dk the th affair will die dlo a k natural death 1 t What attitude altitude shall I take tak toward any all one when who H tt f M they spring P oe this thin on we flies m We live In a small com com- community con com SK and some som one on some som time will Trill see se my hue hus band and this woman and Inform me m JULIA Y lUt Answer Sit pretty Julia alt pretty and tight You Yu have hav your Ax alx little children to t and u as a long l ng as a their father provides provida a good home horn and a good gd living Jiving you yu hive hv no n right to t break brisk up your home and deprive them of f the tho th food and clothes clothe and edu education cation that he h gives give them Nor would you yu better your own condition by divorce A w woman weman man trying to t support a family of ef little children h has ha to put up with far for worse things thing than the th philandering of a weak w k and foolish man min Pi- Pi r yr n Pin i From your letter I gather i th r that you have haTe haT enough wisdom to realize that and that you sou au are not thinking of leaving your husband Also AI-a Al o that thaou you au have hare enough humor to perceIve p that his hi conscience Is making him bim treat you with more mor consideration and generosity than he be b did when hen he was waa walking straight That happens over and over again Julia Many a witts witt's Jewels and furs and limousines are arc bought with con con- money Inasmuch as a you yu have no n Idea of f divorcing your husband keep silence concerning his hi affair with the ether ther women Dont Don't let It him know that you know It In that way you yu save sav your yur face No good could come corn of f discussing the th nothing matter matter but hut bib bit bitter ter quarrels quarrel and recriminations recrimination And it will be easier for tor him to come back as he be h assuredly will for Cor these cases of at Infatuation always alwa l s wear themselves out It he h does not have to humiliate himself to you and be b officially forgiven Above all dont don't tell any human being that you know It it Dont Don't discuss It with your neighbors and If they thy say anything to you about It laugh It off ff If It is 10 I possible to t meet the th woman on social grounds ground Invite her hr to t your house houle hu and have hav her hr around That will not only do d more mr to surfeit your yur husband huband with her than anything el else lie but It will stop top the th tongue of gossip for fort forc t even ven a scandalmonger cannot believe that there It U anything It 4 wrong if f the th wit Is I on n visiting terms with the th woman weman DOROTHY DIX tl kEAR DOROTHY DIX About DIX About ten years ears ago 0 I married a widower er widow er because because be DEAR cause caus I loved him And I still love lov him but during all this time Ume I hue hate felt that I was Urine living with a bigamIst because my predecessor Is pr eter present filth with us My husband discourses about her and her hermany hermany many perfections morning noon and nightOn night On every social occasion she th Is really the hostess and not long ago a f guest tuest told me m ne that she sh was coming back to visit me m some time Ume and not wife wit No 1 I know from tram members member of ot the family that my husband husbands s first ar ar- ar le was a tempestuous tempe on one and left him with shattered haltered nerves nerve with which I have to battle I know he h loves love me but how am I to prevent him from tram continually humiliAting me m by b giving the tb Impression to tc strangers that he Is still mourning the th departed ADVICE SEEKER Answer You will have hav to t follow the example of f another an her woman wm n I knew who was wn sic also married to t a man who continually held up his hll first wife wit to t his hll hi second wife wit as aa a a model of f all virtu virtues Finally one day this woman burst burat Into Int uncontrollable weeping and her husband asked her what the she was crying about abut Oh sobbed the woman I 1 am weeping for f r your yur first wife No- No Nobody No Nobody body else elle In the th world can possibly regret her hr death as I do Thereupon the th husband sa saw a great creat light and be h never mentioned mentioned his s first wife Ife again You would auld think that a man who bad had once been married would have learned enough about women not to throw one on woman In another womans woman's teeth so o to speak k But ho he t Virtually every very widower I 10 toes goes a courting tells the th woman oman he h is wooing that she sh reminds him so much ot of his ba h dear dead Merla Marla and the poor simp hasn't enough gump lion to know that there her Isn't any other woman oman who ever Ih Hied ed that a woman oman wouldn't rather resemble than the first wife ot of the tb man she loves Why men do this the th good gd God who wh made mad the poor por blun blundering dering things alone alon knows knowl Perhaps It Is conscience for mighty few men ever think about abut their first wives without a afew afew afew few twinge twinges of remorse Perhaps It I 10 I a sort rt of f atonement Perhaps It I Is la a sort ort of superstitious effort to appease the Jel Jeal out out ghost nh t that make makes a man tell his second sec nd wife wit what a grand housekeeper his hll hi first wife wn was w and how hw little money she th spent pent and how hw tweet sweet and reasonable she ws wu Certainly It Isn't Int because he loved the th first wife better or was happier with her than he h Is 10 I with No N 2 for second mar are notoriously successful I 1 think that It Is I lust just plain dumb that makes a man fail Call all to realize that a second wife wit Is always bound to resent a little that she the th freshness ot of her h r husband s a first love hat lot that she h SIts sils In at atthe atthe atthe the second table tabi and partakes partake ot of a over warmed love lov and rehashed at af- af afi a- a i so to speak w Now the only way to t ring a dumb dumbbell bell is II I to give It a good goodhard goodhard hard thump so Just tell your yur husband how hw you fl feel abut about It and that henceforth hene irth and forevermore you yu are going to te t have no nomore nomore more ghosts ghost camped on n your our hearthstone DOROTHY DIX EAR T MISS 1 DIX DIX I have a pretty little Utti daughter of ot 20 She Sh has h l a J a DEAR host of o admirers but her heart Is centered on a young yount college lad who will not f Os able to marry for many years She Sh has haa an excellent chance to marry a man who Is le fine tine In every very way and I Is going to be somethIng worth while My husband and I have hav tried to reason with her but sho ho not listen to us My mother mad made my match natch and while I will admit I did not love lov my mT husband until long loni after acter I was as married to him bun I have hav been ben very TOry hippy happy But Dut my daughter says aYI she abe sh wouldn't take tak such luch a chance and that she the will wait walt for tor or her boy sweetheart swe theart What do you think MOTHER Answer I think your yur daughter Is I right I believe that nothing but love justifies marriage and an that a woman will be b happier with the th man she the loves lov and an love live on n bread and n ch and kl kisses than she ahe h will be b with a man she ahe th doesn't care car for fr though he gives her hr millions n I do not believe bellave that mothers mothe have hav any right to te t make their match matoh for fr them Nr Nor do d I 1 believe mothers mother's Jug Judo ment t to b be Infallible I 1 have haTe seen many a mother marry many her dau daughter ter to a rich young Toung man who lost bl his money by the th time tim he h was as mIddle aged and i I have hav seen t many a poor man whom a mother refused to let lit her daughter marry rise to high l lh places and fortune And that Is I only enly the tho th material side aldo I with no n reference ne to the fact that mothers mother tutu tate and ind demands demand In a man nan may be totally from the th tastes tt t and demands m n of f her hr daughter DOROTHY DIX Copyright by ly Public Ledger Company |