Show Box I Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter defter HOW TO TREAT A WIFE WHO IS HOMESICK FOR THE OLD HOMETOWN HOME HOMETOWN TOWN WILL A HEARTED GAY GIRL MAKE A GOOD MINISTER'S MIN MIN- MINISTER'S MINISTER'S ISTER'S WIFE CAN A MAN WHO SHOWS NO AFFECTION REALLY LOVE EAR r MISS DIX l DIX I am a oune oung marrIed man with a a wife wit and one DEAR child Liver Ever since sine we wo have h v been b en married we i e have lived near our people but now we w have hate moved to a distant town where here I can mae more money than I did In tho the home town and have bavi much better prospects pro My wife wICe however Isery is very ery d and wants i to go BO back to the th place where the she knows know ever everybody bod and she sho says Bays say she sh would rather do with less le t there ther In r her homo home to town tonn n and even would rather work and sup sup- support port herself there than stay b here re n with lIh ith me WORRIED r Answer An wr Stand pat where you are Stay where C f you yu have hav the th best beet prospect I 4 Many a weak man has hos let a foolish Coolish woman roman oman blight his career by forcing him to go co back to Main street tree to live There was nothing for tor him on Main a little clerkship while there thero were boundless y in fn the tho world orld beyond But Dut tho woman roman cried to togo togo toCo go back to mother and the lh man went sent although he knew it t was nas a foolish thIng thine to do Dont Don't make this thi mistake If a l woman Is I II I worthwhile If she Is any sort rt of f a a helpmate she th Is I I ambitious for her hus hus- husbands husband bands band s future and she sho eh Is willing to t go g wherever his hi Interests call him Ruth had the real wife stuff tuff In her when she the said cald Where thou goett I I will go g and thy people shall be my people and thy God my GodIf God If I I were a a man nan and had a a wife wit who wh thought moro more mor of mother than she sh did of f me I would let her go back home and stay And If she the was such uch a poor por sport apart p rt that she wasn't willing to t stand standby by b me when I was making my fight in a new place I I would think that she th was wai email emall loss lOll l f But Dut first I would try to make mak her realize that homesickness wears ort oft In a little while and that It if she ib would make an honest effort to adapt herself to her n new w surroundIngs she would could soon toon have hate ha 0 friends and pleasant acquaintances and that she would se e to pine for her old home bome And while this adjusting process was going on I would let lether lether lether her back home to visit as a often as possible This would grad grad- gradually gradually wean her away because It Is I amazing how h w soon scon we w drop dropout dropout dropout out of the life of a community when we leave It and how alIen we feel when we go back You can never take up old ties just where you lay th them m don do down ti n and this makes It al always allays a s a disappointment when hen we ne go back to the th old home Something Intangible has go gone cone no out of ot the tho old life that we cannot can cannot cannot not recapture again canI I As for tor your wife's threats to go back and go to work and ond support herself let her try it It wont won't take her ber long lone to decide that a husband with a good job even in a strange town Is s preferable to makInG her ller 0 on n bread and butter butler But it t all comes down aith at the last ast to the th question qu n of f whether whether er er your wIfe loves lovs you If she sh does doe she the will want to follow your fortunes fortune which are also alio her fortunes DOROTHY DIX e T E R MISS DIX I DIX I have havo a son ion who nho is h i studying to become a minister R DIo J He Hc will finish college In June and aud then he ho Is thinking of getting man led to a girl who nho seems very unsuitable in my ees e es She Is la only 19 and very cry ery frh frivolous olous but she the Is la very beautiful and fascinating and she has one admirable trait a big ble heart I IDo Do you think that after acter marrIage this girl will quiet down and I and be- be become come serious minded What can I do My son Is Infatuated with her herI herand herand I and nd will not listen to an thing thine I say tay MRS F 0 D B 1 Answer If the th girl has a big big bg heart and loves lve your yur son con he can make makof of her anything he will It le Is I the th little mean women who never think of f anything but themselves who are hope less leas I Ir II I I r think that the greatest asset aret th that t a ministers minister's wife can possIbly have Is a gay and an Joyous spirit Heaven knows she needs It and she he h also als needs need ned to have a the th size Ize of ofa ofa ofa a telephone post For FT the lot of the clergyman's wife II I ono one n In which a woman must mut mu t either laugh or r cry and It Is I better to t be beable able ablo to laugh over one ones one's ne troubles trouble than to weep She must mutt be able abl to make mako a jok joke of poverty for tor most preachers pi eachers J Jare are sadly underpaid She must be able abl to see lee the fun In church squab bles and choir fights and to be able abl to extract humor out of ot the tho bores ho camp in tho parsonage room She must be able ablo to wear the smile that never Direr comes off oCt through many a hard year vear ear and a 0 wife lIke hike that Is Indeed the th gift girt of God Cod to any 3 oung oun g ml minister TI Time and responsibility and care are car will quiet your yur light heart hearted ed girl soon toon enough so dont don't worry about that Anxious Mother and dont don't bo be b afraid for fr your yur son on to marry any girl who has a abig abig abig big heart The greatest of f all the th virtues virtue especially In matrimony matri matri- matrimony matrimony mony Is I love DOROTHY DIX nEAR EAR EAR MISS fISS DIX l DIX I am engaged to a young oune oung man who nho s he loves me but that be he does docs doc not believe In fu making a fuss over OVeT a person He thinks think that any out outward ard sign of ot tenderness or affection I or S 01 Is If silly and babyish I dont don't want an anybody hOdy hanging hancine around my neck all the time but I certainly dont don't think that a man has much love In him It if ho cant can't show It at all aU Certainly I cant can't understand a man not shoeing show Inc Ing a little tenderness to the th girl cirl he be Is engaged to Can you ou SALLY Answer I cant can't Sally and I huld hould o think that such uch uch a clam dam on on Ice Ic ce would make mak a highly un era ra a av aHe husband f v He H should not marry a really human girl eirl with lIh a natural human longing for lor affection but should wait walt until ho he finds another frozen proposition lIke himself tIP p I do not believe bellev that any woman can bo be b happy or r contented with a husband who never shows show how her any affection who never pets her or caresses caresse her or r pays her hr a compliment These thIngs are the breath of f life to t a woman They are the pay that a wIfe gets get for fr the tho th work and sacrifices that she the makes for her husband They are what makes marriage worth while and If they are withheld she sh feels feel cheated and defrauded and resentful w The cold men say ay they love You have to take their word ord for tor It I they gh ghe no visible proof Perhaps they tell the th truth but t ht Is the good of having money in tho bank hank It Ie there Is li no pos nay av of drawing a single sine cent of ot It out and buyIng with It any of the tho thIngs thine you iou OU want You mIght dIe dl of oC o starvation If ou coul couldn't nt cash casha a check and man many a woman roman married to a cold man perishes of ot heart hunger Myself I I take tak no n tock stock In the th theory thery that cold undemonstrative undemonstrative people love lovo lv I I think thy they do o not nt show shw their affection because they have hav no n affection to t show how Their hearts heart are as lempty empty of f lv lovo as a an empt empty vault Is of money Ice water In Instead stead of f hot red blood runs run In their veins v ln For FT when wo we w love wo we Jut just Ju t naturally desire desir to t tell till the beloved ono one on all about abut It and to t kiss kill and caress carels care the th dear ear one ne That Is I nature and there I is i no n going behind the th evidence DOROTHY DIX by Public Ledger Company |