Show D Dorothy orothy Dix Dixs Dix's s 's Letter Box Bo BoSHALL SHALL THE WOMAN OF FIFTY MARRY FOR A HOME WITHOUT LOVE THE BORROWING NEIGHBOR PEST SHALL SHE GIVE UP HER IiER POSITION TO MARRY A MIDDLE MIDDLE- AGED UNSUCCESSFUL MAN DEAR MISS DIX I DIX I am n a woman roman 51 50 years old and hue hale an to marry marl a man about the rho same age who Is well veil to do and acan tan can glee give me a good homo home I am not In III lovo Ime me with lih this man than and aud IU my i only beacon leaon for marrying him would be for or the sake sa CT of a home as mi ms health has liaa broken down don do n and I am t tg r g not able to nook 01 it at my profession at which hereto herey r y p fore lore I have made a good salary I J a lIo However ever It seems to me almost a Vo thing thine to merry just for tor a home It seems to 10 mo me moL moLi It i K would be hea heaven beaten en on earth to keep house houe for tor and be bes J with a man vou sou ou Toted loved and that It would be bo the other s place placa to 10 live with 1111 some somo one for whom hom you ou did not note u uy 01 r y tale cate e jFe f What do you vou ou think MARY D w V f t sy f Answer f y S t I think It Is a wrong thing for a young 4 gIrl S to marry a man for lor anything except love t a i but when a woman Is s 50 years old the situa 5 a 1 1 ton lion has entirely changed i III IIII i iv I The young loung oung woman who ho dos does not nol 10 love tole e hei het husband Is almost elmost absolutely suro uro to meet some man lUIn with whom hom she does fall head over heels In 10 love lose and then Ihen there is the mischief to pay and lu unless she Is a very strong woman with rock bottom bollom principles she Is h er apt to forget forlet her duty and follow 1 where here her fancy fane leads her And helhor she s with hr her or goes 0 01 off 1 with Ith the other oilier man n misery Is her portion But a woman fifty is past the romantic love stage of life She can neither feel herself nor Inspire In a man the grand passIon But she sho can have for hi him hill a very warm and tender and satisfying friendship and he ho can feel the same sort of of uh- uh camaraderie for her and their marriage can bring them both great ireat peace and happiness and content As a II matter of oC o tact fact whit wint e every erv successful marrage e has settled down Into by the time people are fifty years veara ears old Gone are e the the and I Captures of their Romeo and Juliet l b il cony da dasy dais s The They have become Darby and Joan with their feet Ceet upon m the fender fendel and the between them mutually tolerant mutually iy helpful good chums friend wile wife and friend husband If you hesitate to marry at fifty because you are thinkIng moro more of the home the man would give you than the man hImself you may be sure that the man is regarding his side of the bar bargain gain glIn with an equally material eye and that he is also marrYing for a home You want a house to keep and he wants somebody to keep house for him and one is just as necessary as a the theother theother theother other so It seems to me you will break even on that point As I see sec It it is 13 a good fair Calr bargain for both ot of you vou OU provided you OU OUplay play the game Ills His part Is to provide the home bome to 10 give ou oua oa II a decent allowance for far lour our personal expenses and to treat Ireat you vou ou kindly kindland and considerately Your part is to be a good housekeeper to 10 give him l lII food a clean ell ordel ed house and to 10 be amiable and good natured and pleasant i I Having been a business woman and known what It was to and Jolly along an un un control your temper and your tongue reasonable boss you should be able ablo to do this DOROTHY DIY DIX DIX i I S a aDEAR ICAR DOROTHY What DiX DIX n hat do you ou think of oC a n borrowing borro neighbor DEAR DIAR I want our honest to gOOdu goodness opinion A ANXIOUS Answer Well Anxious if I were to give my honest to goodness opinIon opinion ion lon of a borrowing ing neighbor it would have to be printed on asbestos It would burn ordinary newspaper up My opinion of the borrowing neighbor deleted as they used to say about the war dispatches that had the tho real pep cut out of them Is I that she Is a greater pest than flies or roaches or rats or mice and that we wo should be bo permitted by law 13 to drop a little poison polson In the coffee coffeo or the sugar that we are always passing across thet tho the t back fence to her and thus rid the tho world of a grafter who Ia 10 loI t Jut Just as a dishonest as any thief who le 18 1 locked u ui In a 3 Jail InI In the tho borrower not com commits com com- tome como ways she sho Is a It worse thief for only I mite mits potty petty larceny upon your pocketbook but cho the robs you of your time and peace o of 01 mind It The Tho tales I could coull tell Anxious about borro borrowing Ins neighbors neighbors s would woul wring tears of ot pity from Crom your lour our eyes and qualify me for a place among the tho martyrs m Par For I have base had bad ln borro borrowing neighbors who always elways ian tan In liA for lor a couple ot or eggs or a a bar soap so just in the the- midst of my most busy bus moment ot of a morning who borrowed the paper before I had time limo to t I had orn them and aud mv my new nev read It 11 who ho borrowed my M hats hals before worn to get the pattern who borrowed my automobile and broto bro o It ItI f There are people who ho have borrowed thousands ot of dollars from fromme me Be In driblets that they have never repaid I have a large library of oC o borrowed books spattered nattered about that I 1 shall never see again I Know l now all about how hoir murderous you i ou can cau feel Ceel when hen w hen you v ou w 1 wake ake up In the night with witha willa across the street has borrowed borrow ed edI edthe a sore Bore throat and find that the tho woman the cough medicine and rhen the butter gives ghee gh es out at dinner because the next t door neighbor has borrowed most ot or lour our supply to make a cake I People who borrow are nearly always ays deadbeats who vho spend j their money on self Indulgence and make other people supply them with their necessities They are always shiftless and poor managers They are utterly lacking In self respect and I am ami convinced we all encourage them in their vices when we wo lend i Wo We ought to refuse them and force them to be provident and self reliant but we haven't the nerve to do de it t so wo continuo to be the nanny of the borrowing neighbor Why dont don't you start a league of anti borrowers It is a grand orand field for a re reformer reformer reformer former and millions of victimized housewives will rise up and do DOROTHY DIX earl call you yu blessed If 11 you our opinion on I whether I 1 IL DEAR DOROTHY Please Ilea DIX tell me lour man who ho Is 64 years old a clerk in a L would be bo I o to marry a of ot them not married and ano anono three small sm store and 11 use live e children home of his Ills 0 own n no and I make 1 a month older than I am The Tho ulan nian man Is twenty t Sears i J ears month E D C A both bolh sides teaching There Is opposition on answer h If you are aro bent on committing suicide A Be B C cant can't you find some easier way of doing it t than this unsuccessful man with five step step- stepchildren stepchildren A marriage to a poor middle aged In trouble Is such a lingering ay wa y children throe thrown s lit m for tor good measure to do It II It is Js death dealt by slow torture and I should certainly prefer rat poison or some other qUIck the river ci et cyanide C ot of potassium or method that would get et the gong gony over with In a hurry burry Jesting aside A D C C what possible hope of happiness could you promise yourself In such a marriage It would bring poverty and hard labor and sacrifice and strife for t dren arc are hard to live IIvo with Nothing but a great overwhelming passIon for a man could such a marriage and It does that man nearly seventy years old not teem eem to me possible any can Inspire that sort cort of love in a woman womans woman's breast It ho does he Is a wonder Go to It Otherwise have a little sense DOROTHY DIX Copyright 19 1925 5 by Public Ledger Com Company pan |