Show co col l Dorothy Dixs Dix's D x's Letter Lette r Box BoxI I THC THe YOUNG BRIDE WHO HAS TO DO ALL THE WOOING WOMAN WHO FLED FROM TEMPTATION INSTEAD OF BREAKING UP TWO HOMES THE TWO YOUNG MEN WHOSE MOTHER TRIES TO DISCOURAGE DISCOURAGE AGE MARRIAGE DEAR D BAR r AR MISS I DIX DIX I ba have e only boon married a n fe few Ce month months but I am confronted with a puzzling and disquieting problem that I do not know how to solve My nature Isery Is very ery ery e and affectionate and as I am very Cry ery much in 10 love loo 0 with my husband nd I quite CI want ant ant to kiss him and as tho the ex pres s-e s aba slon goes mike m a fuss Cuss 0 over oer er him hUD lie He docs does return my caress lie nets acts bored and pee peevishly In- In InI Inquires Inquires I quires why can an t I I let him him alone But Iut lt It I do and act as ho does utterly f a ent he be becomes sulky and sullen and wants ants to know t 8 lat Fat Is 19 the matter with me and why hy hy I am so cold col Bwy and distant KW 5 i 7 1 Nov t Miss lIss liss Di Dix Dh what l Is h a poor bride to do I yv PUZZLED WIFE S pS Answer toy z SM Of course If you treated him Mm as he de- de det dc t 3 Ki I serves to be treated you would give your hus- hus band a dose of his Ms own medicine You would t i 1 m lit refrain from kissing him or caressing him and showing any tenderness and let him do his Ills chare hare of the courting If there was any billing and cooing In your love nest But Dut K Ir ou treated lour our husband this way and gil gao 0 him back cold coldness coldness coldness ness for tor coldness the chances are tint thit sou ou would our 10 love loo e to t death and very soon Boon ou and he be would become one of or those estranged couples who seem to be perfectly Indifferent to each other and aud ha hao hae hano e no tie that binds them together except the matrimonial loke oke You will find find as you Journey further along the matrimonial pathway little bride brode that Justice has no place in married life and that husbands and wives cannot be dealt with as they de- de deserve de deserve serve to be dealt with You cannot measure the patience and r forbearance the tenderness and love the caresses and endear endearments ments that you get and say that you will give back only so much as you have received You must give all that is in you without counting the cost or asking for a return Certainly It hurts the pride and amI humiliates a woman oman for her to 10 have to organize the potting petting party parly and assuredly It Is a chilling thing to have to kiss a mansho man who sho gives no more response than a graven gra But Dut because a man is a dumb lover 10 lo er is really no indication that his ar af is a warm luke-warm one Sometimes a cold exterior CO COers covers ers a arm arm healt just as there are under ered snow covered mountains Some tunes a man is morbidly Bh sll and self seH conscious and ami Just doesn t I know how bow to be tender and 10 loving losing and show what hat he ho feels Often It is Just a mans man's vanity that makes him force his wife to do the lovemaking He likes to feel that he Is the grand Pasha who throws the h handkerchief and she his humble handmaiden who picks It up If your husband complains that you are grouchy when you dont don't caress him It shows that he likes it and misses it So my advice to you is Just to laugh at him and tell him that you see through his poise pise and keep on being demonstrative Ice melts in the sun if f it is exposed to the warmth long enough DIXS DIX S S S S SD SEAR EAR MISS DIX I DIX I m married fifteen bears lears ears ago to escape an unhappy D Sj home life lICe I made a mistake and have al ala a a been miserable for tor forI I am married to a clod But Dut he loves 10 es me I A few Cew years ears ago I I was as as thrown thron n into the company ot or a mar married ned man The call cal and answer of or our souls each for fOI the other oLber was ag I I I was aa as almost s swept sept ept away by oui om 10 love Ime e but I put miles nilles I between us ns and am tring tr ing to make nalce the best of or life Am I I wrong rong rong and anda anda a h In 11 living liIng Ing the tho lie that spells spens happiness to m clod and the thelIe ire lIe ot or my 10 loser er THIRTY FIVE Answer No You are fine tine and brave and honorable and are arc dOing the straight thing for in the end it will bring you a peace and andL L Joy that will be more enduring than any happiness you could have found in taking your own happiness at the expense of others You lOu did a great wrong to our husband in the fust place by marr marr- marr Ing ng him without 10 love lose C Just because he be om offered red ou a a home and and it as was easier casler to be supported than to Ho lie has kept kept faith with ou and complied with his side of the LIle bargain and ami It I seems to me that vou OU would bo a quitter If lou OU on your palt pait i of the trade Having embarked on a career of deceit It with It him it IS up to you to go on deceiving log Ing him until the end nd and making him believe ou ha have hae e th the affection toi fOI him that he thinks you have liae ha e I I i Moreover I do not believe that any new home that is built on tle the wreck of an old home ever prospers I do not believe that Se I e love that disregards everything but itself ever brings brongs real y i peace I do not believe that the man and woman who break old ties who are false to their marriage vows and who forsake the old wives and husbands of whom they are tired are ever blessed I I think that their consciences always trouble them that their lives live are arc poisoned by remorse and that In their hearts they always have a secret contempt for themselves as weak weaklings lings who did dud not have the strength to stand up and do a hard thong thing when they knew it was the right thing to do Evidently sou ou aie ale not of or that breed You aie ale one of oC the tho strong ones who ba have hae e not only courage but wisdom for when hen ou fled Ci horn om temptation ou fled Cled to righteousness ness It is easier casler to resist the one we 10 love Irne e when ahen hen we are far Car a away anay ay from Crom the physical atti action ot or the ten tender tender tender der hands handi that caress us and the clinging lips that kiss We forget easier when we se e do not have the dally daily companionship that is like bread to Lo oui hungry souls Love comes unbidden and unsought to many men and worn wom en when It is too late May your example Inspire them to take the hard way of duty rather than the easy way of inclination S S S SD SEAR EAR DORO fIll DIX We DIX We are two o oung men who ho would like to to-f to DIAR D marn but the tho double Is that we ha havo hao o A s good mother a mother who I took a II lot of o trouble to rear us and she finds fault faull with every evry girl e elike elike like and sad makes life lICe so miserable for or us that we sacrifice our oung Ot omen friends for tor the sake of oC peace at homey home borne y 1 Don Dont Don't ont t you think that wo e hive he a right to marry and pick out our elves Ives for D AND D B Answer You certainly have You mother Is very much at fault I Many mothers have ha this Jealousy ond nd n d break up every match malch that their sons co contemplate making until finally they are aro forced Into old I bachelorhood Thereby sho she does docs them a great ron wrong rong for Cor a man Is not only happl happi happier happler happier I er but be makes a better man and a II better citizen It if he marries and has children hasI I Marriage is such luch a personal thing so much a matter of Individual taste that no human being has a right to select a amato amate I mats mato for another Certainly no mother knows what will appeal to a man In a girl So beyond satisfying herself that a girl Is of good principles a mother should keep her hands off her sons son's marriage Let those who have to live JIve with them pick them IsI I DOROTHY DIX CO right 1925 by Public Ledger Company I I II |