Show r Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter pox ox I THE OLD OLD MOTHER IN LAW PROBLEM HOW CAN A YOUNG COUPLE STOP THE HABIT OF ARGUING OVER TRIFLES HOW CAN TWENTY ONE GET RD OF A GIRL WHO WANTS TO MARRY HIM R DEo D MISS DIX I DIX I have hale been married just one ona year and antI in m hus husband huSbands husU bands band s mother lives JIves with lIh us She does that th is to cause came trouble bet belli eon us She tells him hum that I am unkind to her that thit I gossIp about him all ll sorts of o untrue thIngs and Is attempting to run me mc out of my home borne Do you ou think that I should put pat Up tip wIll this I J Jlove Ilove r love lov my m husband dearl dearly but when hen I tell him how she shen ts does docs he on only I sa say a Oh Oh well ell thea she's old and that hot ho be t t sit k s vS 0 is her ber only child and there is no ono one else elso el o to take lake t he hea a caro care of her ller MRS sins J L o 0 w Answer The Th mother In law problem my dear causes more mor tears teara moro mor heartaches and mia mis- ml cry cry ery than any other ono on In the tho th world It to la I the theMore th More nor Inscrutable for It has ha a thousand differ ent ant angles and the tho th wl way to it Is generally gene generally y the way It cant can't bo be b solved v r fl J No two Women women and and especially no two t women omen who 10 love lore e the same lame man ought t e over eter er to undertake to Ih lifo 0 lI lIin in the same ame house together They are simply imply 10 It lug InC trouble tro ble to come coine In and camp on their hearthstone when they do They bring brine together all sort of jealousies and se set se an an- an antagonism an and different wa ways way a ot of o housekeeping and when these collide the home becomes become an understudy of oC a Kilkenny cat fight Therefore a man does docs a wrong wrone and foolish thing thine when hen he asks a girl to marry marry marr him when hen his hie mother must live with him and a woman oman takes a foolhardy risk on her happiness when nhen hen she accepts linn hum but it Is often otten a Question or of o no wedding bells or mother Then Th n If f a woman has accepted the situation and married tic a man mal knowing she sh must live with his mother It seems teems to me that she sh Is only playing the game if she sh brings all of her forti fortl- forties es gR tude and patience to enduring whatever she the has to put up with and using all the tho th tact and diplomacy of which she the Is capable In getting along with the old woman and if she shuts her teeth on her complaints and does not make her husband miserable by running to him with complaints of h his IS mother This isn't easy eay to do I J know but It can be done and It will III pa pay pavIn v vIn In happiness For It takes t two 0 to make a quarrel even with a mother In inlaw law It If you do not answer back when ben mother In law finds fault with you ou her criticisms will fall flat It Is I literally true tru that the soft oft answer turns away auay wrath and that there are very few persons that you cannot get around with a little Jollying After all the best way to handle a mother in law Is by mak- mak makIng mak making ing a friend of her You husbands husband's defense nf of his mother Oh she Is old sums up all that can be said on the subject The old make al always alays ays a call upon the patience of oC the young ounE oung for tor they are almost Invariably querulous and nagging and faultfinding fault Undine finding Cut But the tho young oung should forgive e 0 this because they are arc so pitiful and so to helpless We should find It easier to bear with the weaknesses of age v because some come time the young must be patient and forbearing with us and we should show chow to our mothers in law the consid that some tome day we shall pray a daughter in law to show to us DOROTHY DIX o 0 DEAR r MISS DIX My DIX M DIX M wife and I have hate been mauled man led thirteen months We argued from the first but lot lov ed cd each other just the same bame But Dut now we find that we e are quarreling all nil the time over trifles and we weare weare 0 are less lesa les and less guarded about what hat we say MY to each other and I am afraid that it Is going goins to wreck Heck our happiness hat do you ou think thinkA A F N Answer I think there Is no other such first aid to divorce as the ar- ar arguing arguing ar arguing guing habit and that any two persons who indulge in n this vici vici- vicious vicious ous practice are suro sure to come to hate hato each other in on the end There can be no peace and harmony In a home where every statement brings on a dispute and where everything one does or leaves undone calls for criticism and el endless discussion The people we like and whose society we enjoy are those who agree with us not those who antagonize us and who dif dif- differ dif dlf differ fer with us on every subject from politics to tople pie But Dut wh why why- argue No one is ewer ever convinced by an argument No Noone Noone one ever changes his point of view because of anything an thing thine yore vou OU sav say Fur Fur- Furthermore Furthermore Furthermore why should you sou OU wish to make every o one think as you do persons even esen husbands husband and wives Ives have hale ha e a perfect right to their 0 own n opinion and likes and dislikes I I should certainly advise you and your wife v to agree on this ono one on point not point not to argue If she says black is white let It go at that If she says Chicago Is the capital of Oklahoma per per- permit permit mit the statement to stand Try to get her to tobe tobe tobe be equally fair to you And if she stilt still persists in arguing dont don't answer r back and she the will wili be forced Into silence because you cant can't argue with anyone any one who wont won't argue back 1 DOROTHY DIXo DIX o 0 0 MISS DIX Ilow DIX How can I get rid o of a girl Sirl who ho wants to marry mo me me J DEAR and whom horn I J dont don't want to marry I don dont t want ant to marry anybody for tor I am only 21 and I hive have a good home and money and lots of com com- companIonship companionship so why should I tie m myself sel do down 0 with Ith a wife e But Dut this girl sirl girlIs eirlIs Is determined determiner to have me I have tried In ever every even way ay to show her that I am not Dot In love with her and don dont t want to 10 marry her but she pursues me and what hat to do is a crossword puzzle I cant can't soh sole e eIN IN TOUGH Answer You have hav my sympathy son You certainly are in dan danger er for when a girl Is la that determined to have a man she sh generally Bete him hm But I should say that the answer to your crossword puzzle Is in two words the first of four letters and the second of two letters letter which mean a getaway get DOROTHY DIX COP Copyright right 1925 by Public Ledger Company |