Show ts V Vi i 4 r 7 MoY TALKS UX ml n I MAN WITH A NAGGING WIFE WOULD HAIL WITH DE HT HT A SILENT PARTNER BUT PARTNER BUT FOR PURE CHEERFUL I NESS AND COMPANIONSHIP A CHATTERER CHATTERER IS ISI I PREFERABLE TO A DUMB WIFE I YOUNG YOUl UNG man writes me that He be is Js much attracted to a girl who ho Is beautiful and amiable and sensible and domestic but ho ho Is li lit lit lit- lit lit-i lIy a dumb belle The young woman Oman oman is Js not dull nor stupid On the I the she Is Intelligent and veil ell educated but she str tInes docs not possess the gilt of or gab tab In company she h t WJ t up serenely silent and lets people propio talk lalk at her Instead S tt or O With her and hen shen he and she are alone Mone together l lr he Is forced to do a monologue until his whom whole conr con con- r 3 B Q jl Is e exhausted 1 k teal And he hc wishes to know what hat sort of o wife this ji Q y a q lady will Ill make mak I J lt Well for one thing she would be b a most unusual one son Something rare and unique and in wives that will cause 7 many another man to t envy you For the thing that most men object to In the th women to whom they are united in the th holy bonds of 1 matrimony Is not that they talk too little but that they talk too much and too continuously DIX DI And arc are all your yur sisters dumb like Ilk you asked d Rip Van Winkle V of the dwarfs he met the met the mountains mountain And then he added wistfully My my what I es es they would make SO 00 0 I IN his heart has lias said many another man as he be h burled his Ius head In ed tj the pillows S at 3 a m in to try to shut out the sounds of or a II curtain lecture that seemed to Ita liar e no end or when hen his frazzled nerves gu gito 0 war t under Ur Ule assaults o of a n perpetual motion tongue tong that just talked Ike 1 and talked without e eer er er sa saline saIng Ing anything my thine ion au should ask a man married to a nagger or a chatterbox what bat h ought or of o a II dumb woman oman oman for a wife he would auld ouId tell iou OU to STab grab h Tind nd lush to the altar with th hei hC and that she sh would make the th kind or of wife Ife whose price Is e abo rubles ruble C 0 Undoubtedly also iso if ii a man marries a woman who Is If con conversationally vers slow on the trigger r so o to t speak he h Is I much more likely to be the th head of the house and have his way about things than he Is If he h marries a lady who is a glib and fluent talker The reason that the woman almost always wins win out In the th family debate over any subject In which thel e Is a df dif dif- dif ference of opinion between husband and wife is because the th I man cannot hold his own with a woman when it comes J to 0 talking ii He H lacks swiftness and staying powers and so the decision goes to t her But with a woman who was slow of speech who had difficulty in expressing her emotions emotion and who didn't like Ilko to talk or enjoy arguing the man would have hi his Innings and andI andul I rule the th roost k DR n I the egotIstIc man who ho hk likes to t talk about himself a a silent wifel wife Iq l i assuredly the Ideal The real reason ehy by so many men menI menk J plc k awa aa a a from their own hearthstones Is because they want vant wantI I I m m dy to listen to them and amI because they are ar noer able to break to t the e con com er creation atlon at home homa VICe Is monopolizing that and she pa fl the slightest attention when hen hubby tries to tell how great ud nd wonderful lie he b isI is I Most of us feel that It is mole moie mOl e bl blessed to give than to receive con con- con and undoubtedly domestic lire life would take on a now new at at- at at I ra It if a man bad had a wife alfe ICe who sho ho would listen with Uh bated bl eath land and absorbed Interest to his account or of o what he be said to the toss and the boss said to him and the wise vIse Clack ciack he made to Jones counterIng with ith any wearisome ot or her adventure with the butcher and baker and candlestick maker and her troubles with lb the children It is not to be disputed that he woman who has a talent for silence possesses a great and shining virtue but there Is another an other side to the question and that is the lack of companion companion- companionableness companion Try as you will you cant can't chum up with silence You cant can't get close to It You cant can't warm up to It No matter how much we may respect and admire silent people eOple we w never really love them They are aTe no more human than oysters on Ice iceA ic D Al A ND after acter a they bore us because they contribute nothing to the subject under discussion lon We W strike no lire fire out of them We rouse no enthusiasm in them Every very topic falls dead as soon oon as It comes under their blighting influence There is no give elve and take In small talk with aith them no spirited tossing b back ck and forth ot or a blIght ball and after a bit we grow crow tired ot or trint trIng tr Ing to entertain them and irh gh ghe e it up as a a bad job joh Now the principal Indoor amusement upon which husbands and wives must chiefly depend is conversation and a happy home is one in which a man and woman Homan never weary of each othel's society a an in which they c cin cn n talk by the yard to each other and yet not talk out But this requires the co operation of both parties No man or woman Is spellbinder enough to todo todo todo do it alone Therefore if youths youth and ana maidens maiden were wise wit in selecting their life mates they would pick out those thole who carried an en entertaining line of conversation and who would be b sure ure to be InterestIng companions companion with whom to spend the next forty or years years vet ct beIng a good gossip at the head or of o the list ot or the de de- de 3 qualities a wIfe should possess And undoubtedly there hero are areno no more charmIng and cheerful households than those thoe presided 0 el b chatty challY ladles ladle who ho ho gather up little budgets of or pleasant ne news nes s which they I retail wIth wilh animation 0 o o er er the dinner table There Is 18 I much to be said for and against women's talk son but personally I would rather have a chatterer than a dumb one onee e Even canary birds are cheerful things s to have hav around the th house DOROTHY DIX r 5 CopyrIght 19 1925 5 by Public Ledger Company I |