Show DOROTHY DIX r l I nix time llio World l HIsie I Ill hi nom tomia rIU UNLESS A GIRL FINDS FINOS MR RIGHT SHE IS BETTER OFF SINGLE THAN MARRIED AND IT IS A CRUEL THING FOR MOTHERS TO TAG OLD OLD MAID ON THEIR DAUGHTERS AND NAG THEM INTO MARRIAGE are arc parents so anxious to get et their daughters married 1 EAVE knows It is not because they are arc an any Illusion that HEAVE H matrimony is an nn Into which a girl enters and is safe s ife for for- fore e elmoro from all the cares and troubles of ot life liCe Their The 0 own oun n o e than not has been a bill I i one and when hen the look 1001 mOlln mound atoned l among their acquaint mecca ances they cannot point to half halt a dozen couples couple who hose F l marriages ha hae ha e been happy and successful tr Nevertheless S they are eager for their si til daughters to marry and at a II wedding Ing you I neVer have any difficulty In recognizing the ther I L r J brides bride's family They are the triumphant ones I- I r whose faces are wreathed In smiles and who 1 li wear the look of the cat that has just eaten I Ii s 1171 l the canary Ic ii Of 1 In the past h n J girl was a para paIn I ii is site upon the paternal boughs th tb reason why her ber r J family desired to free tree themselves of ot heras her was as ob fous I They The rhe wanted anted to shunt her t on to some man DIX mx n a as quickly as possible But Dut that e of fathers and mothers are so craz crazy to mirry mury oft hYI daughters does docs not nol suffice now I IFor For in these days of female emancipation a daughter Is not nota nota a liability She Sho is an asset Nowadays there are arc Just as few dependent daughters as there are nt sons and In every household where the financial question is an acute one daugh daughters daughters 1 are far more apt to be bringing In money than to be graft grafting ing na upon the family purse I IN N ESPECIAL iou OU would think that a mother would oppose her daughter's daugh daughter's ter's tors mal unless she sho were ere ery cry ery SUI Buie suie e that the girl girls s Prince Charm CharmIng Charming CharnIng Ing bad had como come along and that she was HIS madly In lovo love with him You 1 could think that the woman oman nho ho had herself kno known knon n the pAin and sac the trials and tribulations that marriages lne inevitably tably bring to t asery cry wife and mother would oud lock IonIc at the Iho girl who ho was care carefree Cree and In InI Independent I dependent with her bH good job and her own pay envelope and aud bid her ber berthin thin think long and carefully e she exchanged these for or a wedding I ring I But Out this Is not the case The woman whose own marriage has brought her nothing but misery and poverty and work and struggle is me willing to precipitate a similar fate on her daughter It is literally true that the average mother would rather have her daughter marry any sort of a makeshift man than than- than not to marry at all and that she feels it a disgrace if her girls are old maids there is no position more cruel and md humiliating Ulan titan T that In which most unmarried girls find in their 0 on n families am Illes after aCter they are arc 25 5 years ears cars old It If they ha have hao 0 money mother hawks them about In the matrimonial market maret and makes blich huch efforts to rope In any eligible man I that the tile girls feel that they could die of shame It If they are poor t a mother badgers daughter Incessant about not catching a husband and sonders onders why shy she hc cant can't get set married when hen all the girls are lIre marry lug Ing off In n vain ain aln the tho girl protests that bo ho doesn't want to marry that she hasn't found an any man who ho either came canto up to her Ideal or fi flied filed d he her fanc fancy Mother Iother gloomily her head am and does not hide bide from daughter the tact fact that she considers her a failure and a blot on the th amily escutcheon Of course a girl should have sense enough not to mind twitted by her family for not marrying and jo eil ea about becoming an old maid and she should have backbone enough to tell her mother that if she Is unwelcome and a burden In Inthe inthe inthe the home she will go elsewhere to live but this takes an amount of courage that few young women possess Moreover we are arc all strangely sensitive to the strictures and ridicules of our own families So thousands of girls literally let themselves be nagged by theIr mothers into untimely marriages with men for whom they have no real affection and who are arc utterly unsuited to them n IAMIE comes coms to the tho point where hore she cant can't stand st any longer listening 1 to mothers mother's querulous v about why she Isn't attractive to tomen tomen i and Janie Janle and Mimi have men and why by she hasn't married as Sallie So Ii iu she bite marries the tho old beau bau who ho has been hanging on since her high school la las dais s and who bores her to extinction or she takes the widower Ido er with sh six st children and 11 lives es miserably oer c er after And the only happy person Is mother who feels that she can hold up hec lad h ad ad in the company of other women all of whose daughters are married mothers should what hat they Inflict upon their S SURELY daughters bv by making them feel that the they are so an anxious lous to get rid ot of them that the would hand them over to any man who would take titans them But Dut mothers do thil every Cry day and many a woman oman married to toa toa a brute a roue a a drunkard 01 os a neer ne'er do well ell has kno known n that her mother precipitated her unhappy fate fato upon her ber just because she could not bear to have an old maid daughter Dont Don't nag your girls about getting married mothers Dont Don't make them feel that they are arc not wanted at home Dont Don't hu- hu humIliate hu humiliate them by reproaching them with lacking charm and at- at attractiveness attractiveness at attractiveness for men The secret no of that cuts a girl to the soul and she ehe cannot bear to have it thrown in her face AVE Vr enough intelligence to that unless a girl Sir makes the lerAl er erbest 11 HA H HAVE best sort of a marriage unless she ho he finds a good man whom shorn Iho eho loves lovs anti and respects and who ho loves lovea and respects her that she i is h a thou thousand thousand thousand sand times better oft ort single than she site would be bo married Have your girls taught some gainful occupation at which they can be self supporting and so not be a burden on you and then keep your hands off of f the marrying proposition You will not net need to urge that on them when Mr Right comes along DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1925 b bv Public Ledger Company |