Show I ll I Dorothy o wi Dixs Dix's Letter Letter Box I T THE PLAIN SPOKEN WOMAN WHO IS UNPOPULAR HINTS FOR FORTHE FORTHE THE MAN WHO DOESN'T MAKE A HIT WITH GIRLS GIRLS- SHOULD GIRLS SHOULD A HUSBAND AND WIFE WHO BRING OUT THE WORST IN EACH OTHER SEPARATE DEAR D MISS I DIX I am nm VeT very good looking and well welt ted tad and seem to be liked on on- fIrst by the women I meet Thea I am no longer lonser noticed I hive have no women and am never In In- In to make one ot or the UtIle little groups ot of women who hayS havo good times together and o ot course every wom worn woman an wants women omen omen friends Do you think that the reason reaton thai that I am un un- unpopular unpopular because I plain 1 popular with women Is la am and not nol double faced raced LV L W V ANSWER 1 I do Indeed L W I can think of no 0 other one fault that la Ja auch uch an l efficaciOus firt aid to unpopularity as a the fatal habit of telling every woman you meet Just exactly what think about her That I Is II some some- some you a thIng that human l vanity cannot stand We are co erect ered with little prickles o or at egotism that requIre to be handled with velvet gloves and when an Individual refuses to do thIs and tramples DIX BIX roughshod over our OUT self love why wo we have as little littleto littleto to do as possible with her or him The Tha people whom we like whose whole society we enjoy and whom we choo choose for our friends are the suave the diplomatic those thole with finesse those thole who say pleasant and gracious thing to us ue who put the loud pedal on ourI our I vIrtueS virtue and the soft loft pedal on our i ulta at least when we are face to face with them The people whom we avoid and with whom we associate only under compulsion are the uncouth the conversational blunderers the brutally frank who I tell us the things that we would rather die than admit even to ourselves Plain spoken people always account plain speaking unto them them- themselves selves solves for tor or righteousness and accuse those who are not guilty of ot It as beIng h but this a very lopsided way to look at the subject Y YIt It If you are asked your opinion o ot 01 a subject truth compels you to give an honest answer anster but when you are not pot asked what you think of at a It Is no part of o your duty to volunteer a criticism I Yet the plain spoken woman can never see your new hat without telling you that It Is ten years yearl too young for you or your ring without saying that there is II a flaw Inthe In the diamond or your cherished only child without telling you that it t looks tubercular or has adenoids All of these things may be true but why remind you of ef efthem them Why say the thing that hurts hurte your feelings and that takes the pleasure and pride out of your possessions You will have to cure yourself of ot sal ing unpleasant things to women it I you want to be popular with your 0 own on n sex LV L W V for tor there Is this peculiarity about the plain spoken woman oman oman She never feels called upon to say nice nico things to people or call attention to their virtues She never rubs the fur tur the right way She always ays claw DIX DIL C 5 0 5 C s 04 0 DEAR D ryAR EAR DOROTHY DIX DIX- DIX I am a young man ot of tw tWit enty tur t f ur Ur but I ant am amnot not popular with the girls I dance danca nicely have pleasant try to be agreeable and am about 0 average good looking I asked an older man why I didn't make a hit bit with the girls and he said It was because I didn't have a dominant expression about the eyes and Ho He said my ees eyes looked too kind Do lou OU think he Is right 1 A M IL H l ANSWER Nonsense Women like men with kindly eyes No woman wants to be scowled at and dominated and any chap who tried glarIng at a flapper would be more likely to get a hit In the eye than make ake a hit with his eyes As Ae for or a man expression cutting any ice with his popularity that's too silly to discuss The only difference in expression that a girl ever eHr notices Is whether a man looks wide awake and intelligent or like a fatuous fool So my advice to you Is la to quit studying your reflection in the mirror and nd turn your attention to your characteristics to seek the cause of your unpopularity with girls Ask yourself these questions Are Arc you self conceited Do you consider yourself a second Rudolph Valentino Do you pose around and expect every girl to burn incense before you Girls loathe the egotist Are you condescending In your attitude toward all women Do you sneer at their opinions and wax sarcastic over the way they drive an automobile When you take a girl out do you act toward her as if f you thought she should be doing of gratitude before you for your kindness Theres There's nothing girls loathe like having a man patronize them Are you a tightwad tight When you take tak a gill out Jo do o ou choose the cheapest place you can go to Do iou ou order hilt halt portions at a restaurant and the least expensive drinks drunks at the soda Nice fountain f Nice girls are not gold diggers but they like to feel that a man Dan aloes alucs theIr company at more snore than thirty cents an evening Are you a bore Do you spend hours along about yourself and your affairs and think that a iI girl should spend a Joyous evening hearing bearing all about your flivver and what yu said to the boss bOls and the boss said laid to you 1 The tedious talker mak makes a girl mighty weary Do you stay too long when then hen you go to see a girl Do ou linger 00 and on until the clock yawns ya In face ace and the tho girl girt has to ge get up and walk around th the room to keep herse herself anake ake There Thero I Is no surer stay for tor or a man to himself unpopular than to outstay his welcome welcom Perhaps among these suggestions you will find the answer tO ta the problem of ot why OU QU are unpopular with girls DOROTHY DIX DEAR r EAR MISS Do DIX DIX Do vou OU think It best for or a man and wife He to sep ep arab arate when ben there Is no hope of o peace In lo the home My wife quits me periodically and has slone done so during the last eighteen years Dur During ing lag these mad niad periods she tells scandalous and untrue tales about me and tries to prejudice my children against me and Is most unkind to tc my dear old mother molher There Is no cause whatever for or my wife's cool dict but I have hate pu put up with It for the be sake of o my children whom hom I Ilove Ilove Ilove love dearly But they aro are now grown and away front froia home and self sustaining and I do not feel eel that I can bear this any longer What should I do A S 'S H ORmED HUSBAND ANSWER I belle believe bellee e that so long AS ns people have small children they should endure almost anything from their husbands and wives for or the sake ot of keeping a home together and giving the children the benefit of at both botha a mothers mother's and rather father fathers s a care and Influence But after afler the children are reared and out on their own this thie obligation ceases cease Then I think that an uncongenial man and woman have a right to go their own way and seek seck their own peace and happiness I do not net see e where any good purpose Is served by a man and woman being tied tred together who have come to hate each other and who bring out all th that f Is s worst In each other DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1924 by Public Ledger Company |