Show 11 Dorothy D Dx's Dixs x's s Letter Box BEFORE MARRYING A MAN WATCH THE WAY HE SPENDS MONEY SHOULD THE FAMILY SKELETON BE REVEALED BEFORE MARRIAGE TH THE IDEALISTIC GIRL WHO I THINKS HERSELF TEMPERAMENTALLY UNSUITED TO HER PRACTICAL PRACTICAL- PRACTICAL MINDED MINDED FIANCE EAR I EAR MISS pIX DIX What would you do it YOU OU went out with a oung D man who ho bo nl aa lets lela some oruo one els foot the tho bills FLAPPER Answer 1 I would certainly never marry such uch a man mano manfor 1 for he has ha shown that he h Is miserly and a aI Ij I o husband can have no worse worst fault than thIs i Indeed between a good moral upright man e- e who is stingy and one who Is a rounder and generous the rounder makes the better lovable and more pleasant pleas- pleas band and Is the more br M ft B ant l nt to live with RI J The Ito Ho of or the tight tIght nd lives 11 cs a life Ufo of ot and aDlI humiliation nagging and discord BES y tj JIsho She never has a penn of or her 0 own oan n to 10 spend as ii she sheI h I ii Tl pleases but she he has to go co like a beggar to her tier hue hus- husband hu Ky band for tor every even cent and then Ihen endure tho the Insult Intuit of o be- be beI beIng b B lK f log ioS questioned about what eliat hat she did with the tho quarter I S K Kl l that ho he give five her ber neck eek before last r Wi I This outrages es a woman oma s a sense of ot Justice uso bec I I I DIX DL she the knows s that the tir work sho the does dots In the home IsI Is le I I worth far tar more mor pay than her board and clothes which ja Is all II she sir gets geta ft cit ott of ol matrimony Niggardliness about money will kill love quicker than any anything thing else els In the world and I have never known a tightwads tightwad's widow who didn't wear a alook alook wife who loved him nor a tightwads tightwad's look of Ineffable relief and peace under her mourning bonnet A stingy mans man's man wife Bite lives live In perpetual strife because you cannot run a home horn on air It takes money to 10 buy food and clothes clothe and pay rent and gas and water niter and heat beat no matter how bow cleverly you manage manage man- man manC age C The first of ot the th month Is It a time of ot terror for tor the tir penny pInchers pIncher's Bite Ife because when hen ben the trembling wife te presents the Iho bills he h raves like lIker t r a mad man and treats her as aa a It she had eaten Or e every bit of or the food and andIS IS absorbed all the heat beat In 10 the household v a lou OU are aro a wise little flapper Clapper to observe the tho manners and habits 1 of the men with whom iou ou go because In tn that way you ou can make makeI makeI maka I I f a very ry ery shred d guess at the th kind of ot husbands they will Bill make The man whose hand Is always in his pocket and who In- In InvarIably invariably in invariably I variably pays for the th crowd will make mak the th too generous hus hue husband band He will Indulge his family In the th things thing they cannot af- af afford af afford ford and will want to live beyond his means He Is not a very good choice though he IS l preferable pr to the th stingy sting one who never pays pay at all Pick out the th man who pays his fair share who never grafts on anyone any one and who spends freely but not extravagantly He will be bo neither a miser nor a waster wast r and he will make the th best husband DOROTHY DIX C S S EAR TT MISS DIX I DIX I am enraged engaged to a splendid oung man who has r DEAR very high Ideals and who believes bell ves the th best of ot everybodY But my trouble Is ibis this My mother Is a wonderful mother to her children and alwa s has been but she sho Is not faithful to my father Sooner or later Inter siy my fiance flanco is bound to 10 find this out and the question Is shall I tell him before we e are arc mauled Telling him may make a In InI our as he h might think that I would be b like my mother But God I knows how bow much I grieve trieve over her or hoW bow dreadful It Is to sue me m that she he h has a le lover leer er What shall I do dot MABEL I r Answer 7 Ordinarily I am for keeping the th family skeleton closet L locked tight and fast But If the th door Is bound to be b opened It ItIs cAt r Is better for you to do It than for a stranger You can at least shape hip the grisly figure figur within It In whatever excuses excuse and ex- ex extenuating ex extenuating circumstances that your affection for your mother can conjure up And It will be better to do it t before you are ar married than afterward because It will show how the th young man Ian that you gave him a square deal If he finds find It Impossible to overlook your J mothers mother's conduct and It shakes his faith In you it will be b less Iese I sorrow for you to give him up now tha than It t would to live with I continual continual reproaches and suspicions Of Ot course courte the old saying Like mother like daughter Is general general- generally generally ly true and vou ou cannot blame blam a man for tor being af aid ot of a girt girl whose hose mother Is lacking In moral principle and who not only has ha not been reared with an Ideals Ideala of purity and Innocence Innocenc but has haa ha been taught by example to follow her own Inclinations Inclination But nut very ery often a mother molher Is not an example that a daughter follows but an awful aVo ful warning earning to her not cot to do certain things Many a girl Zirl eos her hr mother s a fault tault ko bO o clearly that she sh file tiles to the th opposite I Just as ss among men some of the most fanatical prohibition prohibitionists IsIs are ar the sons sona of dl lathers fathers so some of the th most discreet and austerely women In the world orld are the th daughters of weak loose loos living mothers Indeed there Is I a proverb among amone women that a lazy mother makes an Industrious daughter and that the thriftiest housewives are arth the daughters of ot shiftless housekeepers housekeeper U I Your sweetheart need have no fear that you will follow In LII xa your mothers mother's footsteps but you cannot expect him If ho he h does v Il-v marry you to want you to be b much with her hr nor to be b under under- under I her hr Influence Stilt Still less leu Iss will he h want his hi children to be b brought 11 up at the th knees knee of a grandmother whose petticoats petticoat are mud be- be bespattered bespattered be bespattered spattered You say your mother has been a wonderful mother to you Perhaps for your sake ak and to secure cur your happiness she sh will be willing to sacrifice her own guilty love lov and turn back to the straight road DOROTHY DIX S S CD C BAR DOROTHY DIX Whilo DIX While In college I fell 1 in love with a ed co-ed DEAn D J She Sir returned my affection and we w became engaged enraged and for a wo we were very happy But Dut later laler on oo she h broke brok the th engagement because she sh decided d that we were temperamentally unsuited to each other She Sh said that she was too hIghly Idealistic to marry a n man who was as a practical as I am Personally I think that most girls are idealistic by nature and that men are ar more mor practical dont don't you And inasmuch ase as e e have hav tho same tastes In books and amusements and many other things this should separate us What do ou think J 1 0 F Answer I I think the tho th young lady Is I kidding herself Lots Lot of women like to think that they thy are ar all soul and that they yearn after the of the th what and the tho th of the tho th Tie and they af- af affect af affect to despise as materialists materialist everyone every very one on are ar on the ground instead of dangling from the th clouds cloude i But It Is I all tommyrot Just a pose pOlO pos When you come down downto th to brass tacks these transcendentalists hanker after the th flesh flesh- fleshpots fleshpots flesh ieSi pots pot Just a as much a as the th remainder of us They como come corn down th out of the th ether for three square squar meals a day and are ar Just as a ak keen en about good clothes and good cars and good houses as the go-getters go who are expected to supply them Personally I think that you aill escape a lot of trouble It if you miss getting the Idealistic young woman for tor a wife But you wont vont ont Just 1 give her time tim and she will have a gleam of sanity in which she nih ft ill see seethe seethe 1 I the advantage at rg having a practical husband The Th Idealistic men who are ar the tho soul mates of the Ideal Idealistic women never have enough money mony to get married on DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1924 by Public Ledger Company |