| Show L Dorothy Dixs Dix's Di s Letter Letter Box I THE SELF-CONSCIOUS SELF GIRL WHO V IS NOT A GOOD MIXER THE GIRL HE LOVES IS ONLY FRIENDLY WHAT DOES CALLING A GIRL A GOOD SPORT MEAN DE D EkR R o DOROTHY I DIX am a oung girl and a good god time just justas justas as much as In any other girl but when i hen I 1 am m out among others I 1 gin am toa self conscious I 1 never can 1111 think of ot au to to sa say My sweetheart never r takes lakes me among Ills his friends because he 81 easI s I 1 am not nol a good ad and that I aM an liko pouring 81 oil on water So I 1 am left much alone alono I 1 am r C 1 ono ouo harsh ord r V u brings u J QU tears i w What shall I 1 do In older to these faults SENSITIVE Answer The Tho he oily oly way to overcome self con con con- conT T is Just to quit thinking about e yourself Self consciousness Is nothing but butr buts y r morbid vanity the quintessence of egotism egotism egotism- f i Your mind Is occupied led with yourself how t t you look what people are thinking of you what Impression you re go Boing to make 1 Just keep keen saying to yourself over andover and andt it Nobody is la looking at ne rio t over ever again nobody is noticing what I I have on no no- no t DIX Da body is expecting mo to be witty ty or bril- bril bril Ilant SAnd And you will soon cease to be con can conscious of yourself Concentrate your attention On n other people and will never fail fall to Talk to people about themselves you Interest them Ask a l mother about her children TEIl Tell a girl eirl how pretty she looks ox or repe repeat t to her ber soma some compliment ou heard some come one pay her Start It a man oft off by Inquiring about his golt golf or his business or his clubs or whatever Cr his hob hobby b Is and all ou have to do will bo be to throw In an nn occasional exclamation ot of wonder onder or admiration to ha bale baie e him think that sou ou are a perfect spellbinder i iTo To be a good m mixer er you ou base haie ha e only to be bo Fall in with other olber peoples people's plans Go with the crowd croad Do what bat they are doing At least appear to enjoy what hM they me ate It If ou go to a dance refuse to shake a foot It If iou ou are aro with th people who bo liko like to sIng join in the tho chorus Eat Dat whatever is s set a au without So saving saing Ing that 3 OU au like UKe some other kind of ot food And cultivate some parlor Th Diary cry girl In these days should take dancing lessons until bhe is an expert dancer and should learn hoto how how- to playa play a good game of cards And for heavens heaven's sake dont don't show that sou ou are bored even It itou ou feel reel like i awning sour our head bead off oft Curl Cure yourself of sensitiveness as you would of come tome deadly ec Thir Jo through a life of torment imag imaging all In ing n that arc rot intended tended receiving wounds that hurt ind ic a-ic none the tile le less Iera because they are Imaginary Can your cr caro No other woman oman Is so EO unpleasant as the one whose hose IS gs arc always spread all over the place and who-Is who ai- ai al al Men especially hate moist ladies and so If Y DiJ you want to held your sweetheart learn to laugh instead of cry DOROTHY DIX C C S C C C I IvAn vAn MISS DIX I DIX I hae ha been in love with Ith a lady ladr for tor a number of ofA s i cars ears but cannot understand her I have asked her to marry me mo on vo t-vo vo occasions The first time she refused peremptorily The second Imo mc she refused but compromised by saying that wo WI o could talk the nailer ner oer later She Sho permits me to cal intermittently and then she has other of her family present so that I 1 neer ne e see her alone but it if I neglect her for tor two or three weeks I receive e a mild rebuke She ac- ac ac accepts my presents and attentions gracefully and aud at times sema to care for tor me but very is-very reserved with th me Do ou think she ehe loves loes me DISCOURAGED Answer I should diagnose the ladys lady's attitude as one Indicating friendship rather than love She evidently likes you too well to give you up entirely and yet as the slang phrase goes she Is not crazy crazy about you No woman woman who IS really is-really In love with witha a man ever has the family hanging about when he calls She shoos theM then out of the room when she che hears the doorbell ring womans real feel feel- There is us no better test of a mans man's and another than this desire to have him or her alone In ings toward U 1 knur i in a it little world v of two As long es as a man or woman wants to jun un with the crowd and have others about he or she the Is not really in love Cut Dut a wart warin friendship and companionship Is not a II bad thins to marry on hell people are not ery ery oung for that Is 15 what has to be the real basis of ot ever happ happy Passion perishes of o loc lo languishes under the strain of ot and then unless a it man and woman can give each other a it real friendship a real they have nothing in common and their marriage be a I I should spy Sy the woman who would be Friend Wife was worth waiting for DOROTHY DIX EAR DOROTHY D DIX DIX-A DIX A young ma maiji recently said to i a girl friend DEAR D of o mino in speaking about me- me me Ill Ill I'll tell ou OUt ou Carolyn Is just the best sport I know knO Someone said that this a II complimentary thing to say about a II girl Do ou thInk tho young men meant any anything thing dr hen shen hen lie he made the remark Just what In sour our opinion doe the term good sport mean when ithen applied to a girl CAROLYN ROLYN Answer Why Carolyn the young man was handing you the very highest highest compliment he had In the shop He Ho was waa trying to say that you were Just lust a little bit hit of all right I 4 He meant that e you were up to date that you had pep that you had good hard common sense that you were square and horest honest and loyal and true and to be depended on He Ia meant that you would stand up and fight the battle attle of life Instead of sitting down and crying and hanging on to anybody who would lot you He re meint that ou had the grit to carry catTy on wh when n things went Vent against ou He lie meant tint thit iou ou would be a good pal 1101 to o the man you that when hen ho lio made mistakes 1 0 ou would neer ne er re- re reproach re reproach him and say I told ou so He that you would never b be puffed up tip by good for for- fortune fortune tune tunc nor too much at last a t down by b bed bad d th that t you would never bra brag ien you won and never whine when you lost loot That Is being a 1 good sport The rho young ioune oun mans man's great would probably have said o oi great that sho iho nas as as an admirable young lady pOI pea ofIn of an In amiable disposition and manY virtues The of today 50 sass B that sou ou are aro a good sport But Dut it means mean the tha same thing DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1923 b by Public Ledger Company |
