Show I II I Do Dorothy rothy Dixs Dix's Di Dix s 's Letter Lette r Box I ITHE THE YOUNG BE BRIDE WHO HASN'T HAD HER FLING SHALL SHE GIVE UP HER SWEETHEART TO PLEASE HEI MOTHER THE ENGAGED GIRL WHO BORROWS TROUBLED TROUBLE DEAR D EAR r EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am eighteen years old and I am about J getting married The young man to whom I am engaged Is 16 a splendid fellow fello and I am ery fond ond of o him but every enry now flow and then ij I just long Ions to go about and play around with the theother theother theother other bobs ho bo s and girls and I used to and to go to the sho ho q and dances and have havo good limes with Ith ith the bunch I ont dont do it It because It would mako make my fiance so o angry ango that I Bould lose him lum and I 1 dont don't don'tS S want to do that But mit wh what t keeps me from being y a 1 perfectly satisfied with him What keeps mo me nant HI log Ing K to go 6 sith the old gay SW crowd Instead of ot just Jek J K wanting to be bo with one What makes me mo so soB B ANXIOUS TO KNOW t Answer I 4 t Youth my child It is because e you I have not yet vet had hadl your fill of the playtime i y ASt n of life Your feet still ache to dance You Yo R crave amusements lights crowds JQ aK laughter the Joy of living DIX The gan ganc spirit belongs to youth No young oung person ants ants to do an am thing by himself or to go lone The oung must go In crowds they must do hat nhat the crowd oes It IL is s only age that makes us seek solitude Y Believe me my dear you are too young to m rry because marriage means that a man and woman give up all the re remainder re- re remainder of the world for each other and m make ke a little world for themselves To be bs happy they mutt mut be sufficient to them themselves selves and able to give each other what they need of com corn companionship You cannot do this when you are eighteen You still want the theS S gang You still want to flirt with the bo boB bos s and have all the innocent Iky ky larking that belongs to your girlhood You want to bo tree free and un un- un as the tle other girls are It you marry while you are still just a girl in heart and spirit you m find yourself wanting to do all the things that your friends do ring dotra-ring CraTing all the pleasures of ot girlhood and ad when you cannot base ha hlL e them you ou will be very Tel bored and miserable TJ TEat Thuat lt Is why wily they Is such an enormous percentage of dl among couples who marry young The boy husband and the girl Ue elfe cannot endure the restrictions of or matrimony They want all the pleas pleas- pleasures tires ures and privileges and freedom of ot boyhood and girlhood and hen hen ey take tae them trouble ensues Dont Don't marry until you have had your fling ling Dont Don't marry until you are fed up on flirtations and all that you ask IS love of ono one good man Dont Don't marry until you are tired of dancing and gadding about and are ready to settle fettle down Girlhood doesn't last long at best belt Dont Don't be In a to give up yours your It Ji is the happiest time of a womans woman's life DOROTHY DIX S S C C 0 DEAR D EAR MISS DIX DIX-A DIX A Acry cry cry 01 dear of ot mine is engaged to a fine J oung man whom she loves ery cry dearly The young man is Ie of ot good landing and do well and would certainly make her an husband But Dut not long ago a question arose with regard couples couple's future over which the mother and her Intended son in law dIsagreed f and ud the result was wa a a very serious quarrel between them Since then there here has bas been no peace In the home for the girl Her I mothr Insists tipon her breaking the engagement saying that the oung man mali will hever treat her right since he Insulted her mother and that she must lave nothing further to do with him The girl loves her mother and hates bates to marry a man her mother 4 does oes not like yet she loves her ber sweetheart too much to give him up The question Is shill sh the girl give the man up and make him and miserable rable for the rest of their 11 es to satisfy her mothers mother's rudge or shall shoJI she stick by him for better or worse as she elie promIsed I trust that the two she he loves will make mako up In the end A FRIEND Answer Who Is to marry the man the fhe girl or the mother If It It's ItIs Itis s Is the girl she surely has the right of choice and It Is II her taste end nd heart that are ore to be suited not her mothers mother If a mother opposes her daughters daughter's marriage e to a man for I I any good reason realon If the mother mothe can prove to the girl that th the theman I man is II Immoral or a drunkard or that he Is br brutal 0 or that he cannot make mako a Do living loving then the daughter should III- III Ii lis listen ten to the maternal counsel which Is backed up by her own common sense But a girl Is foolish who lets her mother keep her from marrying the th man she loves for any frivolous reason I know a mother who once broke off oft a most moat desirable match for Jer Iter daughter because she did not like the mans man's nose And she lived to see the gui livIng in abject poverty with mth a noer neer well do-well husband the man with the nose rose to the height of his profession As for the man quarreling with the girls girl's girl mother when she tried to map out their future for them tl that t speaks speak well for him Instead of III The bossy bOllY mother law breaks break up mote mors homes than any other one thing o so the divorce court courts courtl says ay and perhaps It la Is I just Juit u as well to settle wo who II If to be the head of the house before marriage o u as a after It In lit this thle particular case ease I should say eay that the girl would be wise to togo togo togo go along and marry her sweetheart Mother will come coma around and there will probably be no more love lost loat than there is between the average veragO mother-In mother law and son In law DOROTHY DIX t S S S a a a nEAR AR MISS DIX I DIX I am a t girl twenty years fears of ot age and am engaged Lf to a man three thirty He seems devoted to me and tells me that he loves OB toe better than anyone any one on earth but before I met him he had been going with another girt girl for seven years fears Do you think this man really loves me Could a a man give up a seven leven years friend for tor a girl he has baa only known two years yeara Do you think that after atter we were re remarried married be he would think of her and wish that he be had married her and be sOrry tony that he married me I am m so BO miserable I do not know what to do LEILA Answer As a trouble you are arci a worlds world's wonder It you TOU are going to make snake miserable speculating over something that might happen It If something else elso happened that hasn't happened you are In for a nice dark blue existence So cheer up and take the goods goode the gods provide and let it go at t that The best belt proof that th the man didn't want w nt the seven IOven even years yearl lady Is I l that he ho didn't marry mary her So forget that And as fora fora for a man being able abl to fall In love lev In two years ye r why two min utes Is II I ample time for It it So 80 that's that that Furthermore It doesn't make a particle of difference whom a man loved In the put past All that count counte Is II I that he loves lovea love you now So can your tears and buy your wedding dreu dreis DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1923 Jy by 1 Public Ledger Company |