Show I I I I Lo Dorothy Dix Dixs Dix's s 's Letter Lette r Box I WIDOWERS VERSUS BACHELORS AS HUSBANDS TH THE LONE LONE- LONESOME LONESOME SOME YOUNG WIFE WITH A CLAM ON ICE HUSBAND THE GIRL WHOSE FIANCE IS JS SEVERAL SIZES TOO SMALL T-kEAR T EAR MISS DIX Can DIX Can a 0 young girl hope for or happiness If K she marlles snarl man Ies Ie f DEAR D a widower or would she bo be happier bappler K It sho aho ho married a young man manof manof of her r own age I have two offers of ot marriage marTlage and am much perplexed about the situation- situation What would vou OU advise me to do TROUBLE Answer J Marry the one you love the best and andT i Nothing else elso W K who Is 18 most mOlt congenial to you S t really counts in marriage but that But so 80 far as wIdowers d ers are concerned j matrimonial risk and are a preferred t ley y other things being equal make better bolter hue husH bands bande than men who have never been married mar mar- marl t ried 4 l 1 You see a oung man thinks that lie ie knows know t f all about women and how to manage them and mij he hei i 13 set on ou being the head of the house and cd He has fl figured out on paper just lust how jr y I much money It Il will take to live on He TC that a woman can do her Q own an n housework and andal am 1 always al ays keep her bel hands in lu a nices co co- co vi DIX Dl and year ear ear pretty clothes and meet him wIth wItha witla a glad sweet smile and that she will wll spend her tune tIme telling him Mm how grateful she Is to him for tor having haYing married her herand and giving her hel a nice easy job where here she abe doesn't have base ha e an anything thing to do dibut but cook and aud clean tho house and sew and patch and darn etc the specifications of o the And so when hen the wife doesn't come up to oun mans man's fancy he gets grouchy and grumpy and there are scraps and aud he knocks because the bills s are big and tells her she looks sloppy and there Is generally a pretty stormy time Urne while the two are getting adjusted to each other But the widower has hat been through all of this preliminary training He is house broken He has found out that It takes money to run a house and he doesn't have a fit when the bills 1 come In He Ho has lost hl his ambition to be the family boss and andi like Kipling's hero he has learned about women from the ther r rw v one he has been married to and has hoe found out that the way to get along with one Is to Jolly her and not try to drive her You will often hear people say how much better a man treat his second wife than he did his hla first It Is le Just because his hi matrimonial experience has made him wise and given him patience and sympathy and understanding of women Of ot course It if a widower has children that complicates the situs lion It takes the wisdom of o Solomon and the patience of o Job to dear deal with stepchildren and no soung oung woman should undertake such a re But Dut the childless widower makes the best of husband and lucky Is the woman who Is Invited to step Into No ls l's eel well ell broken shoes DOROTHY DIX 0 0 0 0 0 0 S 0 DEAR D EAR r EAR DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am so BO unhappy My husband Is s so cold and J and hard to me He never show ho hoss s me any affection or tells me that lie he loves loyes me and when hen I try to make a 0 fuss over him he be pushes me m away I like to be petted I am only one twenty years old and pretty I 1 kno know a young oung man who Is very kind to me o and admit es me meery cry ery much and I I hae have ha e been thinking of going him If It I do not get any love loe and tenderness at home borne have I not a right to get It else else- elsewhere elsewhere elsewhere where LONESOME Answer I INo No Lonesome Wife you cant can't feed your starving heart on stolen love without having to pay the penalty for It it Because your husband doesn't make a fuss fuse over you you cant can't listen to other mens men's lovemaking without lovemaking Without bringing tragedy Into your life Ifo Because your husband neglects you you cant can't play around with other men without smirching your good name It is liard hard to be young oung and pretty and to crave love and and admiration and to be married to a a dolt who ho ho never notices what bOil OU have hae on o 01 how hove 5 OU on look 1001 or makes vou OU a nice speech or shows ou any affection and It Is a great temptation to ha have hae e ones one's fling with the men who ho are aro always al as willing nilling to give glye a 0 good looking marl led woman II a good time But Dut it doesn't pay It is better to be lonesome than It Itt Itts is t to be the heroine of a scandal But I I always wonder what these clams on ice husbands are thinking about when they leave a pretty young wife to her own devices and ond if they haven't enough sense to know that when a man quits making love to his wife while she che he is II still young and attractive some other man begins And I also wonder If tf any man is vain ain aln enough to think that any pretty 3 oung woman oman oman hungry for love is satisfied just to sit up and think about him when there az- az azas ari ara as many fascinating men In the as there are And most of all I I wonder that men are so stingy with love talk when Just a few tender words keep a wife satisfied and happy DOROTHY DIX S S S S S S 0 DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am In love with a man who ho is everything P DEAR D that a a man should be except e that he Is la shorter of stature than I and when we e go out together I al always alnas a s imagine that people are laugh laugh- laughIng laughing ing log at us because he is smaller than I am Do you OU think that in time I 1 will ill II get used to mv my f lends joking me about marrIng Ing a little man manIs Is It ft foolish to gh ghe e up a man vou ou 10 love loo e because e of ot size A READER t Answer 8 If a man has a small heart or a narrow mind or a hUl little brain It is a good reason for not marrying him but his height has nothing to do with his desirability as a husband Some of the biggest finest looking men are nothing but brutes who beat and bang their wives around and who haven't Intelligence enough to make a decent living while there are plenty of little men who have great souls and who are arc so strong and stead steadfast fast and dependable that they make the best and of husbands Many any of o the greatest men in history have been little men Many of the most successful men are arc small men In the days deys when a 0 man defended his wife Ife and family with his good right sight ana arii It as aas desirable to marry a giant But Dut now when hen e a man protects hia oWn with his ins wits It Is the size of o his brain and not his biceps that counts Nobody but fools find anything humorous In a wife being taller than her hat husband You can afford to Ignore their cackle so 80 go along and marry the man you want without regarding his hla height DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1923 by Public Ledger Company I |