Show I Do Dorothy ro thy Dix Dixs Dix's s 's Letter Lette r Box I I WHY DONT DON'T MEN APPRECIATE HOMELY COMFORTABLE WIVES THE FICKLE GIRL WHO HAS NEVER LOVED SHALL HE MARRY HIS ILLITERATE SWEETHEART EAR MISS DIX Iu DIX Iu a t recent article voir OU- OU OUsa OU sa There Is a lot of DEAR D peace and rest In a II hu husband band that other women are not try try- tryIng trying ing lag to get away from you Undoubtedly this is true but Isn't the same principle equally applicable the other way ay about out Wouldn't a man ba have hate e the same samo comfort In marrying a woman who Is la ag as by weight handicapped vou ou might Eav III ia age and lack hack of complexion and who vho Is no o oh of temptation to other men 4 a HANS 4 ps io B Answer Undoubtedly But the trouble Hi t R with poor weak humanity is that P B S 'S H none of us wants the thing nobody H else wants and the more other people peo- peo Pit pie desire a thing the more we weI f Sy y S crave It It We let our neighbors HF j t write our price tags for us And AndI I K Sr t this IS ls true even In ln husbands andL and wives L Women Vown who ho are more astute astuto In mat matters of love than men are often realize what fat at bald headed windowed bay husband a blessing blessing- It is to have bave a II nice DIce who Is out of ot the Lothario class but no man ever sIts down and thanks his gods that he is married to alfe a wife so 50 old and borne beme homely ly Iy that he doesn't ha hat have e to keep an nn e eve e 0 upon herMen her Men arc are like lake sheep about women They always follow their always has many beaux or no leader Thus it is S that a R girl she he either has her dances cut beaux at all and at a party Into mincemeat or else she papers the wall Apparently no noman noman noman man has the courage to risk own his-own taste and judgment about a womans woman's attractions He has to have them backed up by those of his fellowmen Perhaps the reason that widows can many all around young gIrls who have ha ha II o twice t their looks is the mere fact that one man I IlIas has lIas shown n that ho he considered her suitable for a wife enhances her value in all uI other masculine eyes Of course generally speaking a woman oman who bo Is ie lacking in not is la apt to be a preferred matrimonial y f tude tuile and who vho IS s so BO young risk because she realizes that cb has to make a good wife She has to tobe tobe tobe be meek and mild and pleasant and agreeable and a II good housekeeper Ito to offset her lack of charms Also her husband can go his way unI un ua untroubled I troubled by jealous on her account for alas the wives lVIS whom other steal flam their husbands are not the patient as nor nOl the rood cooks but the preachy young oung who ho are out tamping am ping tu n their thell 0 own n account Surely there is rest iest est and comfort for the soul in a homely old wife who is safe from temptations but I 1 have yet to meet the husband who ho properly appreciated his blessing DOROTHY DIX a a S S S a aDER EAR DOROTHY I DIX KIX I am a reader of your column and am f DEAR R D wilting willing to 10 ask voul advice ad a fickle girl What hat do iou vou OU think of a girl 1 who ho likes a young man very ery much until he likes her then doesn't care a 11 thing for him Now Nov dont don't get me wrong I 1 am noman no man hater I like men mend But I have Rave never been in love lovo with any man although I am nineteen eara old FICKLE FLO PLO Answer Why I 1 would say Flo that you are too young to know what love is anyway and that you are just using a girls girl's privilege of shopping around among the men looking them over sizing up what they are worth whether they are genuIne genuine ine inc or shoddy and generally getting their number before you make your decision and take lake your pick of them And so far you haven't found anything that you particularly care for Tor a Nothing that ravishes your fancy and makes yo yol feel that you ff must have it or else is not worth living What you call fickleness Is jus t and it IL is la a tine line quality oi a 0 young girl to ba have base e because e it enables her to make a much more judicious choice or a husband than it if she took the first t man who of- of offered ot feted himself Dont Don't mind being called fickle Dont Don't be afraid to change sour our mind about a roan man up to the very ery steps step's of the the altar It If be ceases to appeal to you let him go It Is a lot less messy to break an engagement than to get a divorce As for voin 11 OUi only being interested in men until they are interested In you that is Iq partly the spirit of ot the chase partly the human reactIOn that makes the most desirable peach the one that is highest t on the tree and most out of our reach and partly because the right man has never co come e along heathe does you wont won't fall out of o love with him because he has falle fallen n in 10 lose lo e with you ou On the contrary the more he is interested in you the themore mort mori you will be interested in him and you wont won't tire of his society but will want more of It For real love is the cure for fickleness DOROTHY DIX S S e S S S S S kEAR EAR MISS 1158 DIX I DIX I am a young man twenty four vears ears old and DEAR D earning a good salary Last eai eal I met a young girl In 0 whom hom I Iam Iam Iam am interested and would like to marry but she is rather 11 il it illiterate literate I 1 tre treto tr ed to hp ht have her ie er overcome this by going to night school but she ehe could not learn although her teachers said she tried very hard I la have hate e been told that there is a taint In her blood which may account for tor this mental menial defect Am I taking any chances in m mam marring Ing such a girl What Is your advice in IU the matter ROBERT RODERT ROBERTi i A Answer chance Robert of hap hap- happiness happiness You wouldn't have a sporting any in such a marriage The odds dds are all ail against lOu you A beautiful moron very often oCten makes a v t ery cry strong appeal to a man Dan because of her hel ph attractions and because one doesn't expect much Intelligence of a young girl At nineteen or twenty It doesn't disgust us to find a girl lacking in knowledge of what goes on in Ia the world or one who vho has bas never neter read anything Her very ver artlessness and Ignorance are arc and entertaining like lI that of a little tUe child But look ahead fifteen or twenty years and think how bored you will be with the daily dally companionship of a woman who has no Intelligence who Is not Interested In any of the tle things that you are interested In who doesn't even understand any con con- conversation conversation that is In words of more than two syllables And think how ashamed you would be bo of a wife who was Illiterate and at whom people laughed If It the girl has lias tried to overcome hei hel lack of ot education and has failed it shows that she abe belongs to that great and pitiful class dass of the mentally deficient lent That makes it a crime for vou OU to marry her You have no rl rl ht to bring minded feeble children into the world for the children of ot mentally DentallY mothers almost Invariably Inherit her misfortune It taketa takes a lot of sense and aud poise for a woman to make a II good wire wife and a good mother Robert nobert Why hy marry a fool tool who vho will dlag Ou down and bear you idiot en hen there are so many pretty smart f girls In the v a Better a il little heartache now In breaking off with this girl girl S is who attracts you than years and years of misery with a wife so 80 undesirable DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1923 by Public Ledger Company |