Show R M u tl III A 1 P A DI r 7 R 1 r 1 S S JG rs T S CHILDREN SHOULD HAVE A HOME companionship parents often fail fall to give to their children ail all that duty dem demands ads the last day odthe state teachers association like the preceding days of 0 its ies session slon ia Is proving to be a most busy gnp one several section meetings were held in the different churches this morning and a general session addres addressed sod by I 1 miss sarah louise arnold on the essentials of the liberal education mot met in the opera li house fouse the election of officers ot the association for the ensuing year the se lection of a place for holding the next association and superintendent cool eys ays address at the grand this evening will bring to a close the best attended and most successful convention in the history of the association some of the delegates eje gales who live in the southern portion of the state left for their homes this afternoon but the great majority of the teachers will remain for the lecture this oven ing and depart for their homes on special trains after the exercises or on the early trains tomorrow morning the parents section held in the first methodist Aleth odIst church this morning was perhaps the most enjoyable and profitable of the section meetings the large auditorium was crowded with parents and teachers who paid the closest attention to the addresses of the speakers the two speakers were judge henry 11 and david 0 mckay principal of the tho weber stake academy judge spoke on the responsibility of parents in hr the moral education of children and his speech which here bore follows Is considered by thosa those v ho heard it to be one of the moat practical and helpful addresses of the convention the great berhe once stated that all persons po possessing any portion ot of power ought to be strongly and awful ly I 1 impressed pressed in with the idea that they act in trust and that they are co account tor for their coni conduct luct in that trust to the one tone great master author aid ed founder of society lie ile made this statement in relation to the response ability that attached to tho the conduct ot of the french leaders before and during the abst unfortunate revolution tho the world worm has ever witnessed 11 As we naw view it it Is quite apparent that this truth was not understood der stood by those rulers and that neither the aristocracy nor the subsequent leaders of the commune appreciated pre precia elated ted the fact that they hold held their power ers and their positions in trust tor for the beat best interests of the french people and the peace of europe or that they in any sense felt that they had to account for their conduct to society at largo or to the divine foundation oun dation wall of nil power given to man and betat the baffle same the period of those luxurious sa indal gent revels of the french kings icings or 01 during the carnival of outrages committed by his associates the question had bad been submitted to them as ao to whether they were individually responsible tor for the moral or immoral framing training given to the I 1 french rench by the acts and conduct of their loaders leaders the rely reply would doubtless have been bean an admission admi stion of such responsibility and an insistence by e each ach in their thele turn that they were using the proper methods toward de ve loping for france and ana europe the very best citi citizens of the future and I 1 cannot believe that th this statement they were ivere wh wholly olly insincere thero there Is no reason to doubt that they had not each convinced themselves that talby truly loved france and her hot people and anti ware anxious to secure honor and standing for those they governed but the trouble with cheso ailese leaders waa was that while they possessed those beliefs and wishes yet in Teal itYs they wore were primarily bartly thinking of of th their belr powers and of the pl pleasures e resulting leaving the peo pic ale and their interests wholly gnat tended to and An dAfter after a while the result of this OAS inattention was A H ff ed the people could no longer be reached by words of propriety or governmental ern mental restraint they had been neglected by their leaders leaden and they took the reins in their own hands and seeing only the examples set them they became first truckling slaves then barbarous tyrants and ultimately a reproach to civilized society in tb thinking inking about the responsibility of parents for the moral education of their children the foregoing thoughts came to mf rny mind and I 1 wondered whether or not there is any similarity between the conduct of these various french rulers toward their people and the conduct of pres ent day parents award hpward their children and whether or not the parents appreciate the truth expressed by mr burke that the power we hold as parents is given to us its in trust for the specific purpose tf making our out children not only like ourselves but better than ourselves and the further fact that we must account for our conduct not only child itself but also to society and eventually to the divine fower power that gave those souls into our caro care doubtless aUa arents like french lea leaders derd ia xe perfectly willing fo 0 o theoretically palt that they are responsible for the moral training of their children but bih I 1 submit that in reality and notwithstanding this admission the grda greatest test consideration parents give to cuties as such stich is ts to secure ways and beaus by which the training of their children whether physical mental or moral can be transferred to the responsibility of somebody else we have become lm imbued aued with the idea that wo we are at perfect liberty to discharge our parental duties ditties by proxy broxy and that our practical al res ability consists in furnishing money enough to liberally pay kiy such proxy for his or her services and to defray the incidental expenses necessary to carry on such training we pay a nurse money for accepting the responsibility of advancing the physical welfare of our infants wo we pay money to a governess or a teacher to accept the responsibility of the mental training of our children wo we contribute liberally to our sabbath school and to the church to accept the responsibility of giving moral security and development to our young people we withdraw all limitations upon home and family expenses and having done so wo we complacently sit down and applaud ourselves for the superior advantages wo we have given our families or go to our club and over a cigar anda glass of wine bemoan with our follow fellow citizens the fact fart that the morals of tha the present generation are not lie keeping pace with general human development but in the meantime meant what have we really done toward tho the giorl education of our families individual ly and personally absolutely nothing As well might we admit the value and responsibility of an c home and family life and then in tho the ill di e of that responsibility rive give to our wife and children a sum of money and say to them to seek their lodging at the nearest hotel and their meals at an adjoining restaurant money alone will not furni sill moral education without the personal active interest of every parent in the moral training of their children at homo home and without a personal individual knowledge upon the part of parents as to the moral environments of children away from home there can be no moral development among the children wo we parents havo something more inore to do in lit the discharge of our responsibilities ties as such than the more mere furnishing of competent teach toachi orf and com competent potent they ther ire tire good they thoy are needed for tho the childs development but beyond that tho the child needs the practical mental and moral of an in interested father and an In terestea d mother if we fathers and we mothers expect to obtain results in n tho the moral education of our children wy we must part and parcel of their lives we must be able to income acorne young enough to participate in their sports and in their amusements we must be able to bo lie acquainted them to enter personally into their desires and into their tro troubles we must be more than the mere treas frers of their funds and more than their bugaboos buga boos or santa alnus chats we must bo be their fri friends endis ahelf their intimates not oven even parental love Is clont clent that exists in almost uny family it is that very love for or our ebil call aran which prompts ua us to JQ give tc to them everything we possess we lead uy ily surrender sur renden to abom means and it it bec becomes onles necessary we arc are even willing to surrender pur ronder to them for them our reputations and our lives nil but such sacrifices are much less needed than the giving to 0 our children a sufficiency fici ency of our personal pors onal friendship if we cap secure that we have 1 accomplished the greatest step towards forming the characters of our children into that mold which we ourselves exhibit albit and which presumably y we most mait desire but such friendship cannot bo be secured in a moment or by merely deal desiring ring it or by ostrich lukse persuading ourselves that it does already exist nor until we realize that it involves muta ual relations and mutual sympathies indeed we have not secured the friendship of our children until we and they have reached that mutual understanding which emerson calls the highest compact of confidence where the parents and the child in their conduct toward each other dispense with all evasions and with all mistrust and say to each other let there be truth between us two forever more I 1 rely on you as on myself if you did thus or thus I 1 know it was wag right such stich friendship can only bo be the result of constant and growing lovei respect and admiration lowing flowing from one family soul to the other if it must be nursed in the home life of happiness between the father and the mother it must be widened by the sympathetic exchange of home experiences it must be nurtured by little acts of mutual home devotions to ward each other it must be founded upon love and reverence for divine home inspirations and it may be strengthened by participation in home trials and sorrows or as beautifully expressed by a noted author once onci let friendship be given that is borno borne of god nor time nor circumstances can change it to a lessening it must be e mutual growth increasing trust amp nang faith falth enduring patience forgiving love unselfish ambition and an affection built before the throne which will boar bear the test of time tivie and trial when friendship between parent and child chili has been thus established from infancy to manhood then it is a power of strength in the moral education of ta the I 1 ochi children loreli ld reli and then the sur bur est bulwark against evil Is that friendship thus created it Is truo that up to A certain age parental I 1 loye 0 m aided by proper environment may be sufficient to safeguard the moral conduct of our children so long as the child Is small enough to twine ita its arm arms around our neck or so long a as it can with comfort and ease sit upon our laps fo so long the strong bondy of parental love may be sufficient to guide its footsteps but when tit the child gota gots old enough to long for personal companionship and has a destro to begin to form its own career then it need needs parental friendship in the life olevery of every young man and every young woman there comes a time when the mere loving and fondling between I 1 parent and child wholly falls to meet the require requirements of the occasion at such time the gentle words of the mother maj kiy be plea pleasant tant to the heart but unsatisfying to the existing needs and the generous kindness of the father may be fully understood and appreciated and yet that child hungers and thirsty tor for A being to whom in absolute cohil confidence dence and intimacy it may disclose the troubling secrets of its heart and receive from that being not a 0 parental pe rental blessing messing or a parental admani admonition flon but the counsel and ad vice of a friend aho vho Is mentally young enough to appreciate youth and to sympathize with its desires and emoi emotions lons but unfortunately it happens that when the child has lias reached this cil period in its existence it dis discovers coveri to its sorrow and disappointment that father and child have grown apart and that they inove in entirely different worlds in hj anxiety to secure lioney for the physical vical welfare and the lug ing of ha his child the parent has become absorbed in tile flie accumulation of or of power and in the alon oi of it has bc become oine a slave to other Influence a wh whether etier of lovo love tor for indulging easo ease or of worrying activity and through it all the personal handling of the affairs of his children has become and anti good but nevertheless effectually distasteful and repugnant to him and finding this condition tho child Is coin compelled to drift and to drift alone to seek amongst sd Oh angers algers or the natural integrity of his own heart the moral development for or the success of which the parent originally assumed primary responsibility and it la 13 at this tinie too that children ami and especially boys bonyi are o berot on every evea hand with trials and temptations not temptations that are or temptations that are sigr pleasures and allurements allure ments which to the boy licy seem wholly unobjectionable and therefore more effectual in gradually dragg dragging lug him down to ruin and wh when e it that ruin in whole or in part haft has come it is then too late for the parent to assume the praet practical ical as distinguished from the theoretical res responsibility of developing the moral training of his child his words are then words only wild as waves that wash no shore his influence has viLnIs vanished hed his threats are empty the parental responsibility exercised by proxy has developed into a condition that produces power and influence only by proxy T r 0 x y doubtless you have all found th the e existence of just this condition in many families the parents are axe powerless to influence the actions of their grown children but true to their early ay proxy training and environments the children respond most readily to the warning and admonition of strangers this is indeed a sad ending of a parents responsibility tor for the moral education of his big child but he alone is to blame and to him must be applied the word of the poeta thou wilt vilt lament hereafter when the evil shall be done and shall admit no cure principal spoke ou on how parents and teachers ajay cooperate co operate in the moral education of children this address the greater part of which appears in this paper contained many valuable suggestions which could be put into practice by parents and teachers and which it if done would bring about bettor moral conditions among the sch school schol ol children ot of the state after each speaker had bad c concluded thirty minutes were given on the topics for discussion several teachers parents and school spoke during those these general discussions the opinion of nio most at of the speakers was to the effect that there is too little coop co op oration between parents and teachers in the education of children I 1 it t was suggested that this condition may be largely overcome by social intercourse in the form of visits and talks with parents concerning their childrens deportment and work in school |