Show the ideal in marriage allt professor wor of psychology of the university of pennsylvania 1 sar so that there is but one chance iii la a million of a young man or woman marrying i his or her ideal person this 11 1 1 based upon thousands of questionnaires sent out and returned lib lit says art soung people conjure up in their mind a picture of the toul male mate they arc are looking for and almost invariably find that the one they be u lect elect doe doer not fit it the r when the said that there was not oti one e who waa was berf perfect beet lie out of MA a far fat greater experience than a oung professor cw cin from questionnaires the chief trouble with those who seek an ideal in marriage is that they do not first undertake to make ideal the one party to the marriage roni ait lias ns as much right to an ideal partner as the other marriage is a give and take proposition on 01 a strict 50 50 basis on any other basis it is likely to become more or less irk and unpleasant and to end in tit either a it long E life of as or the divorce court it is tius 1104 lack of mutuality more than any one line thing dec 1 I disrupts disrupt i tho the dom do circle especially when it is not a circle at all but a two 0 sided banul and N when hen it in is not domestic in its character but of the apartment house bouse the blindness of love loe is proverbial but iove 1010 ie not really blind it is iq not so much that ono in love loe is ii blind to thy tho faults of th lovid one ene its a that he invests her h attributes she does not posses he lie sees too much rather than too little in his prospective mate later he that the halo lialo ho he saw sais around her head was mai a mirage 0 and that ahe she is just an tin ordinary women and not a great exception to lier ter fix made b the creator especially for him and be it said just tc ole ordinary is ii good enough for any man particularly the ordinary mai both morall and spiritually site stands on a higher plane and she is not as inferior intellectual as roan man in his ignorance and arrogance has hai assumed in the past she is proving this in an extremely practical w u ny ay in these modern da s the secret of a happ marriage is to enter it without an exalted ideal and with irith full realization of the fact that ns ai lucli is due in consideration patience 10 lovi L and forbearance from the one as ai from lie the other juit just as truly as it takes two tiso to make inake a fight it also iso takes takei two to make a happ marriage |