Show kathleen norris says the wife who chooses unhappiness bell features Ft ure 0 ae r 0 ive watched dina as parties so closely as not to have any fun myself by KATHLEEN NORRIS EVERLEY is a very B BEVERLEY young wife not yet 20 her husband dana is 10 years older he was the football hero of her small girl days even more her idol when in his navy lieutenants uniform he went away to war he came home covered with honors ribbons and battle stars and beverley went straight into his arms they were married just before her birthday anniversary in a setting of june roses and white uniforms and crossed swords and so far everything was perfect but then came trouble and lots of it dana left the navy and went back to managing his fathers big department part ment store but it that his father married a young thing of 20 and eventually there were three babies thus deflecting from beverley and dana not only the family fortune but some of the spot spotlight light but it that beverley never had learned how to cook or manage a house and as they get help at prices a good deal of discomfort ensued but it that ill admit I 1 was spoiled and inexperienced writes beverley but I 1 am learning and dana is angelically patient but ruining our lives is that im jealous insanely jealous and my mother was before me and hers before her its in our blood and we cant help it and there you are unfounded jealousy from the beginning ive tried to come between dana and other women ive watched him at parties so closely as not to have any fun myself I 1 know he knows it I 1 call him at the office and ask the board operator if he is in consultation with anyone and if its one of two special women buyers im miserable tor for hours I 1 try not to meet him when he gets home with questions and suspicions but im so wretchedly anxious all the time that he soon suspects it and after a few minutes it all comes out I 1 imagine his coat smells of perfume I 1 imagine the persons who call him on the telephone are women who are in love with him and he says now that his men friends are beginning to joke him about being tied to rny my apron strings that is because when there was a duck hunt planned I 1 told him he could not and would not leave me and I 1 dont believe he be would have even if I 1 had ask asked ed him to another thing dana Is anxious tor for a child tor for children I 1 am not I 1 am only 19 and children age a girl and separate her from her husband too the happiest couples I 1 know are those without children and I 1 dont want ant any obligations that will separate me from dana you see the letter rather pathetically ends 1 I do love dana so desperately desperate lyl life looks so long ahead of me to our golden wedding and im so afraid of other women older and more fascinating women for he notices them all and they adore him worrying about it keeps me nervous all the time and yet as I 1 told you my mother was jealous to the point almost of insanity and it is in my blood I 1 cant help it even though I 1 know that I 1 am doing the very thing that will lose danas love and respect indictment of 0 mothers BIot liers in answer to beverley I 1 would like to indict mothers those av A raining our lives Is my fia amy MOTHER TO BLAME it may be a plain woman it may be a much m uch older woman but bul some woman always can get a man away front from a cusp suspicious suspicions P watchful jealous wife that is the warning sounded by miss norris in article which combines advice to a frivolous young bride with an indictment against modern mothers terming mothers spiritually and morally lazy miss aliss norris charges that they ignore gore the all important question of character building while taking pains with their childrens riding and dancing lessons teeth manners and frocks beverley who admits she was spoiled and inexperienced when she became the bride of her football hero and glamorous naval officer foresees the wreckage of her marriage because of her own insane jealousy A wise mother miss aliss norris contends could have built up Bever leys character to the point where she could have averted the impending catastrophe spiritually and morally lazy mothers who take such pains with their childrens riding and dancing lessons teeth and manners and rocks frocks and leave the all important question of character building entirely to chance we are all jealous dishonest untruthful rude lazy we are all everything that is wrong when we are small children why Is it so many mothers are so super lous about correct posture correct speech correct clothing and never realize that there are corresponding niceties of soul that need cultivation too what sort of a mother tells a sensitive child that jealousy Is inherent in her that it blighted the lives of the said mother and her mother before her and that there is nothing for wretched little beverley to do but fall a victim to it too dont mothers teach their children to light fight human weaknesses and overcome them to avoid coarse language reckless scandal cheating at bridge selfishness rudeness extravagance jealousies do they let them undertake the serious and infinitely delicate business of marriage just as they came from the nursery fighting tor for their possessions furious if one gets a toy or a piece of candy more than the other letting someone else wipe the dishes make the beds grabbing everything ery thing and giving nothing A wise mother could have built up Bever leys character to the point where it never would occur to her that the young loving charm that r first won danas attention could not hold him through all the ups and downs of married life A wise mother would have taught her that to become happily absorbed in her own proud position and duties as his wife would be the surest way to give dana his own anxious twinges as to the danger of losing his little paragon of a companion As it is here is one more marriage potentially so rich in happiness gone on the rocks it may be a plain woman it may be a much older woman but some woman always can get a man away from a suspicious watchful jealous wife |