Show KATHLEEN NORRIS Failing Marri Marriages I I Bell Syndicate Features Feature By KATHLEEN NORRISA NORRIS NORRISA 71 MERICA comes first with me mein mein A in everything Ninety-nine Ninety times in a hundred she stands head and shoulders above the rest of the world In the hundredth hundredth hundredth hun hun- case I pass as lightly over her shortcomings as I can and hope hope and and know that know that coming gen gen- will correct them So one evening some weeks ago I was made really unhappy by byS J S I I me quite quie talk of a certain French professor We happened as we sat about a friends friend's fire to get on the subject of European marriage and the entirely entirely en different attitude in which young persons overseas approach this tremendous subject And as I listened I had uncomfortably uncomfortably uncomfortably to admit in my soul that theirs is a wiser attitude and a plan than ours andone and andone andone one calculated to build better homes and children better communities com corn and better men anc and w women men Accept Marriage Naturally Marriage with our women he said is an accepted state It is not an experiment The girl becomes becomes be be- comes a wife just as definitely as she is a French woman blonde or dark short shori or tall hardworking well well well-to-do to-do to or somewhere between Married she and her husband can afford so much or so little he needs her help in the shop or restaurant restaurant res res- or farm as a secretary or with the hospitality that maintains his bIs position They want and are expected to have children They face the facts he said sald They do not attempt to deny or elude them They make the most of what they have Our women like the quiet certainty of marriage marriage mar mar- dage with its plans protection and I 0 we ue feel hat feel that we ue gain more companionship It is not with us a springboard it is a deliberately chosen new way of ot life We give up much old much old ways old freedom old amusements But we feel that we gain more Alimony is low among the great body of ot Frances France's sober and industrious people of the great middle mid dIe dle class the class the people whose scheme includes villas cars and country countr holidays and a couple of steady family servants whose position i is quite as definite and respectable as those of their employers No Need for Pretense Youngsters she said ap approach approach approach marriage with care and with the help of family interest and advice Their parents know the young man his background and his record The girl knows what money she will have to spend and her mother and father Cather advise her heras heras heras as to outlay Everyone knows everything so there is small need for display or pretense Once married she Is married Is-married married Her house her linen her children and her hospital hospitalities ties are all ail tant to her Her husband comes come first He Hc must be comfortable he ht must be made to feel himself loved He has faults so has she But Bui tradition and training save them both from Crom many pitfalls that your young married persons know and of ot which they become victims The families and friends do not nol drop in on them unexpectedly during during during dur dur- ing the first year They are not nol expected to take groups of ot young friends to expensive ve night clubs club and foot toot the bill Children are ex cx expected and with the coming of children the woman finds herself more important than before She Is wife mistress mother house hous keeper That she remains balanced and self controlled and equal to doing her duty means that every everything everything everything thing else in the household goes well He told me that psychologists do donot donot donot not do a good business In France Francein in the or among Bel Belgian Belgian gian glan Swiss and Polish wives These are women with a job a position and affectionate home tics to keel keet them balanced Weigh these three elements and you will see what is lacking in the lives of so many thousands of our young married women Our young wives dont don't know where they stand And too often the husband is as unit nn un fit it for partnership and md as ns confused as the wife wire She wants amusement she wants her sitting room torn to pieces and arid done over she wants s rut fur coat What she wants has no reference at all to what money s sl las tas to spare for It ft She and I ter ler er husband go to cocktail parties aid ari bars quarrel come home sick naif-sick ick with a sense of frustration |