Show KATHLEEN NORRIS S Some Advice from frown Golfer Hogan NE REASON that women swarm O ONE to the offices of ot psychiatrists Is that they dont don't like their jobs Marriage is a job a tremendous job No chance that ever comes to her In her single life Is half halt as important important important im im- as is this new job which a woman assume assumes of her own free freewill freewill freewill will says golfer Ben Hogan It means a change in everything for her It means she has agreed to live with this comparative stranger in circumstances entirely new It means that she has to give up her herway herway herway way at least half of ot the time tune work for him and with him worry over his worries adapt her enjoyments to what amuses and interests him and all the time be going through delicate and emotional crises that in her girlhood she could not possibly possibly possibly pos pos- I sibly have foreseen If U Children Come If It children come there must be faced all the phases of lifes life's most tremendous experience with Its mental moral and physical cances If th the decision between this young couple is against assuming the responsibility of ot children then serious injury is sometimes done to the woman woman's soul and mind She Sheri ri t y J l lt t I y t It live livI with this stronger stranger 11 u may quite readily agree to the no- no family plan but she is being thwarted and deep inside she knows it That any man can influence influence influence in in- fluence her to keep her children from rom her arms is deeply hurtful to her dignity child children en fulfill her reason for being and she is cheated cheat cheat- ed without them Yes its it's a business marriage and a girl ought to go into it determining determining determining deter deter- mining to be better and wiser than she was before willing to give up I such pleasures and interests as cannot be shared willing to sacrifice sacrifice I fice a good deal today for the sake of ot tomorrow Men starting new business ventures ventures ventures ven ven- tures count on sacrifice and hard work In these years of getting es es- es- es Women marrying rarely do nowadays And yet the success of a marriage depends almost entirely entirely entirely en en- upon the woman Unless a tremendous am amount of spiritual goodwill and the hourly daily use of ot common sense reasonable reasonable reasonable rea rea- humility humor energy inspiration is put into this dangerous danger danger- ous intimacy any marriage will go goon goon goon on the rocks Then there will be divorce or the desperate appeal to some complete stranger to listen to the whole stupid story and try to straighten it out Trouble with Women Over and over again a successful successful successful success success- ful psychiatrist told me the trouble with a woman when he digs deep down into her consciousness for it is that she is not quite as 8 fortunate as some other woman In her group U If It we American women have a atypical atypical typical fault it seems to me it is that Each one of ot us is keeping her eye on a few contemporaries who seem to be just ahead of ot us all along the he line A woman named Vonnie Strong of ot Hartford wrote me a few weeks ago about the poison that is eating her life Diane has always had everything I wanted she writes I married first I have three girls Dear little girls but with straight hair and andone andone andone one wears glasses Di married the theman theman theman man of whom I had hopelessly dreamed and of course she had boy girl boy all three beauties We go up to a river cabin for tor vacations vacations vaca- vaca ions its it's lovely we have fishing boating seating picnics DI Dl has always had lad a cabin near ours This year she and Dan are going abroad Im I'm nice looking my clothes are usually given me by Toms Tom's mother or friends Dl's DIs beautiful and she buys all the clothes she wants She's nice too we are friends She's not spoiled But now just this week Dans Dan's had a promotion more money and a Junior partnership Now why Is that demands Vonnie Td Id be happy l if it weren't for Dl Di I wish shed she'd just have a good dose of ot trouble I really do I want wanto to o pity her I want her out of ot my life ife I hear something new about her every day and I just have to take It This has been going on for forten forten forten ten years since we were in high school I dont don't want to go on this way the rest of ot my life What shall shallI I do |