| Show I WOMANS WOMAN'S WORLD I Deta Details I s Should S ho uM Co refu 9 Attention Atte at oon mil milBy By Ertta Haley P pERHAPS youve you've wondered 1 if R youre you're going to be a bride or have had anything to do with weddings weddings weddings wed wed- dings just why there are so many rules connected with them A wedding is a really big occasion occasion occasion occa occa- sion for the bride and groom of course but for families and friends as well The rules are strict but they're designed for the sake of graciousness thoughtfulness and consideration for all involved Responsibilities are divided between between between be be- tween the two immediate families involved possibly more for the brides bride's family than for the grooms groom's but that is probably due to the fact that the groom must assume more responsibilities economically than the bride I j What kind of wedding to have I really really depends upon individual preferences preferences preferences and the bride and groom I should decide this for themselves As they think of the wedding in later Hater years it should be the kind kindi i of wedding they wanted rather than anyone else 1 I Budget has a lot to do with wedI wed wed- I dings clings and even the simplest kind may may make a serious dent in fi- fi nances The size of both families also helps in determining wedding Weddings planning type as do the number of friends and relatives you want to include Weddings should always be in conformity with your station and that of the It should never be an affair that has any tinge of keeping up with the family next door or a friend I There are six sL types from which to choose First the large formal wedding at a church followed by a reception at home hotel or club where everyone is invited Type Type of Wedding Determines Guests With the formal or Informal church or chapel wedding j followed by a small reception at home or a club only families of ithe the bride and groom and intimate I i friends are invited A third type of wedding is a small one held at ati i church or home with a small reception reception re- re at a club includes only a aI afew I few friends and the two immediate families This is followed by a large reception to which all friends I are are invited I Another type of wedding which Is simple yet ideal from the point of view of the reception is that held at home and possibly in the garden This is followed by a reception reception reception re- re at the same place to which everyone is invited I Then theres there's the small chapel wedding which is very simple too held in a small chapel to which a few friends are invited The bridal couple usually receive inI in inthe inthe I the foyer of the chapel The last type is the military wedding wedding wedding wed wed- ding which is usually formal Its It's held at a military post at t the chapel there and is followed by a reception at home or at lat the club on the post a Responsibilities n of Families Are Listed All types of invitations and announcements announcements announcements an an- are paid for and handled by the brides bride's family but the complete list to whom they are sent are made out by both families or the bride and the groom The Thy They brides bride's trousseau wedding ensemble wedding decorations bridesmaids bridesmaid's bouquets gifts to musicians musicians musicians musi musi- and other helpers and church expenses with the exception of the clergyman's fee are also handled by the brides bride's family to 10 the minutest details I If no one else offers to entertain the brides bride's family usually gives the bridal dinner before the rehear rehear- sal The brides bride's family will also plan to house any town out-of-town special special cial guests for the wedding and pay for transportation to and from the church and the wedding reception for the bridal party The responsibilities of the groom include the wedding ring the marriage marriage marriage mar mar- license the bridal bouquet boutonnieres for the men of the wedding party as well as for corsages corsages corsages cor cor- sages to both mothers end and grand grand- mothers The groom usually plans to give several gifts and these are arc for the bride the best man and the ushers For a formal wedding he presents matching ties and gloves to the themen themen men and gives a dinner bachelor if ii he wants to have one The groom will also handle the clergyman's fee and the wedding trip expenses Wedding Pre Gifts Girts Dictated by Wedding Type Showers before the wedding are In hi perfect order for all types of weddings no matter how simple the they hey may be but the brides bride's or bridegrooms bridegroom's immediate family should never give one of these If either of the families want to give a party it must be clearly understood that no gifts are expected expect expect- ed from those attending When showers are given the bride ride is expected to write thank- thank you ou notes not only to the hostess who gave the shower but also to all who gave gifts I If desired by the bride she and her mother may give what is called a trousseau tea a week or so before the he wedding after the Invitations have lave been sent Invitations to this are usually by an informal written note The guest of honor at the tea teas is s the grooms groom's mother who usually pours Bridal attendants and close friends usually assist with pouring during the latter part of the after after- noon The farewell luncheon for the bridal party is part of the big formal formal formal for for- mal wedding and usually takes place a few days before the big event Attendants Attendant's gifts are usually presented at this affair The bridal dinner either precedes or follows the rehearsal and includes includes includes in in- the complete wedding party as well as important town out guests This may be done in buffet style or it may be a 3 formal sit- sit down affair Invitations are by personal personal per per- notes or by word of mouth by the brides bride's mother The bachelor dinner is held at atthe atthe atthe the preference of the groom and he plays the host His friends may also give it in his honor Gifts to best man and ushers are presented at this time Procedure Given For Wedding At any formal wedding music begins one half hour before the ceremony Vocal solos should be scheduled during the last few minutes minutes minutes min min- utes of this time just before the ceremony begins Candles are arc lighted by the sexton sexton sexton sex sex- ton a few minutes before the guests arrive unless a traditional candle- candle lighting ceremony has been scheduled scheduled scheduled sched sched- during the service Reserved pews number ten to twenty depending upon the size of the wedding and number of guests Guests present pew cards to the usher if they are to sit in the reserved reserved reserved re re- served section Five minutes before the ceremony ceremony ceremony cere cere- mony the bridegrooms bridegroom's mother is escorted to her place the first pew on the right side The bridegrooms bridegroom's father follows her and is seated next to her |
