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C 1 i a RYAN 7 adore my Bill but that doesn't mean that 1 I want leant to swallow his family whole I By KATHLEEN NORRIS YS Y'S letter comes from froma fromI I TODAY'S TODA I a bride of only a few I months Marjorie married I her flier when he came home honorably discharged after 22 months of hard service They were engaged for a year but in that year saw each other only twice for a few days interval Bill is handsome clever des de voted voted and and rich Marjorie didn't know mow how rich until now when they are going to his home city Philadelphia to live writes This is my trouble she My liMy people are poor but we come of good stock My mother for many years supported my grandmother grandmother grandmother grand grand- mother and myself by teaching She is not strong now lives with my grandmother and there is almost no money but for fineness and goodness goodness goodness good good- ness there never were two more genuine genuine genuine gen gen- saints Bill and I are to have one one of the family houses' houses to live in We Weare Weare Weare are to have Uncle Phils Phil's house which he says is filled with old revolutionary revolutionary revolutionary revo revo- junk or Grandpas house which is handsomer but smaller His mother writes me that old Emma will come to us at once as cook and bring two granddaughters to make themselves useful Aunts and cousins of Bills Bill's write him that they want to know when dear Marjorie Marjorie Marjorie Mar Mar- jorie would like to be entertained would I like a tea or a formal reception reception reception re re- re- re Too Much Class All this appalls and annoys me I hate that sort of thing Bill takes it all seriously he has three brothers broth broth- ers one sister and countless cousins cousins cousins ins and other relatives He hopes his grandmother will give us the Revere porringers and wants me meto meto meto to be painted by the feller that has painted us all I III begin to feel that no wealth or position will make up for the independence independence independence inde inde- I have enjoyed for years as a newspaper woman and am sure already that I want my mother and grandmother to go East with me I will be lost and strange in that big family obliged to grin and bear all sorts of things that are absolutely absolute absolute- ly unnatural to me and Ill I'll need support sup sup- port port and and confidantes I adore my Bill but that doesn't mean that I want to swallow his family whole This business of having a house picked out for me and servants too is a little thick Bill says well we'll have plenty of room for Mother and Gran but is afraid they wont won't like it Mother l is dubious but Gran says shell she'll do anything I want They both love our San Diego cottage and their life here but neither is young and I simply cant can't bear to leave them Bill wont won't promise to come back and altogether I dont don't know what to do My dear Marjorie I I say in answer answer answer an an- you are trying to pour old wine into new bottles and it wont won't suc suc- More than most young wives your place is to follow Bills Bill's lead now and accept the situation in Philadelphia wholeheartedly Go on there determined to be good- good natured adaptable friendy in ever every way Dont Don't have much to say 1 3 UR fi natured good adaptable friend friendly Y WEALTHY FAMILY PINS HER llER DOWN Most girls would envy Marjorie's Marjories Mar Mar- jorie's position She Size is married to a man she adores He is handsome clever rich He loves Marjorie devotedly After two years of service in the air corps he is coming home for good The Tice trouble is Bill has too much Marjorie who is accustomed accustomed tomed tamed to a simple life is not willing to adapt herself to the customs and traditions o of f a proud old Philadelphia family Every detail of Mar Marjories Marjorie's jorie's affairs is taken taken tak tal en care o of f before hand hand hand-a a house furnishings servants all are arc pro pro- vided What Marjorie doesn't like is this paternalistic system sloe she she is just expected to fit into her place and ancI like it it Nobody seems to think she size might not care for Jar the so social ial mold in which Bills Bill's family family- exists listen and watch and make them like you by sweetness and ity Give this experiment a year in which you criticize nobody agree to all arrangements take this new new- sort of life as if it were a book you are reading with yourself as hero hero- ine me Lucky in Many 1 Ways Heroine you are of course The The- young western wife of a person whose wealth and family connections connections connections make him important beloved and lovely rich and socially secure there is a position many girls would envy you That you are smarter quicker more amusing more independent than the men mea and women you are going to meet I am taking for granted Those fine old long-established long families have wonderful characteristics but they can be dull Only if you'll be bet i patient enough to endure the surface surface surface sur- sur face dullness for awhile you'll find a under it a wonderful dignity and integrity integrity integrity in in- j characteristics that you'll i be glad someday to hand on to your your our 1 children As for taking your mother and grandmother with you that would be a fatal mistake To move from the fresh sea air and riotous gardens gardens gardens gar gar- gar gar- dens of San Diego where the climate climate cli cU- mate is the most equable in the whole world to eastern snows and summer storms might seriously af at- affect J feet the health of them both They j would both feel intruders intruders-in in fact j they would actually be intruders intruder i and in their attempting to reconcile e claims and those of the big family I you would jeopardize your married j I happiness perhaps irretrievably Play your part with dignity and patience always remembering that blessed are the meek and you'll find yourself most enviably placed one of these days in the heart of the very finest of our American culture Your children will have a background as fine as any in the world and opportunities opportunities and advantages worthy of a 8 good name Dont Don't throw these things away because of the shallow shallo satisfaction that assertiveness sensitiveness sensitiveness sensitiveness sen sen- pride resentment w will give you now Make your our ne new newIll family love you and you you'll Ill I'll presently prese pres- pres 11 find yourself loving them |