Show r Kathleen athleen Norris Says The Strangest Problem I I Ben Bell Syndicate Features j 1 iy iw i I w y v r I 1 L i r ro r r 1 9 o Rl r 1 Keep Cyrus with you Give him this thi next year wholly reading to him doing his hi lessons with him By KATHLEEN NORRIS UR R problem is a very peculiar peculiar peculiar pe- pe 0 culiar one writes Jean Morgan from Hartford Connecticut Both Howard my husband and I are teachers teach teach- ers but we haven't been able to find any solution to this particular lar puzzle When our first-born first son was two years old we lost another son an infant Our grief was great for an injury to me just before the childs child's birth cost not only his life b but t the possible lives of other children I might have had We determined to adopt a aba baby ba y girl i We UWe went from place to place finding a great shortage of girl babies But in one place we did finally find a baby boy a afew afew afew few weeks old with a mop of fine black hair The unfortunate little fellow made an immediate appeal and we brought him home as a baby brother Tony for our own small Cyrus As HAs the baby grew the dark hair disappeared giving way to beautiful ful chestnut curls With his big black blackeyes blackeyes blackeyes eyes warm brown skin and irresistible irresistible irresistible irre irre- smile we discovered that we had a child who literally stopped traffic Gay endearing intelligent far beyond his years Tony has from the beginning eclipsed Cyrus who is a somewhat timid quiet child not jealous as far as we know but willing to let Tony win all the prizes and be captain of all the games Tony Attracts Attention Howard and I have scrupulously tried to balance the affection and attention we give the two but visitors visitors visitors visit visit- ors always single out handsome engaging engaging engaging en en- little Tony for especial notice He is quite unconscious of his charm charm he he is now eight years old old but but we feel that there is no question that his enthusiasm and plans discourage Cyrus from making making making mak mak- ing any attempts of his own Cyrus has s a lovely generous nature nature nature na na- na- na ture but just of late both his father and I think that he carries self- self effacement too far We Ve want to encourage encourage encourage en en- courage him to self expression and individual interests and friends but buthe buthe buthe he seems already to be solitary in his tastes Now my husband is going overseas overseas overseas over over- seas and we are giving up our big country place and plan to place the boys in boarding For Tony TonyI I have no misgivings but I am wondering wondering wondering won won- dering if Cyrus does not need special special special cial understanding and possibly special special special cial handling Our original purpose in finding a little brother was to tomake tomake tomake make Cyrus happy it will break both our hearts if this very brother brotheris is the cause of real injury to his L any u i i spirit When W nen me boys DOYS go to 10 0 school I will take a room five-room apartment in the city and perhaps find war work to do until Howard comes back Keep Tony from Cyrus I think the time has come now when you must separate the boys perhaps for years certainly for a along along along long time Find the right school for Tony not too near and see that he has hasi q fJ 01 N I i h y Jh l o Tony it is quite unconscious of 0 hh his n SON COMES FIRST Sometimes the most generous and seemingly sensible actions action result in unexpected difficulties A rare problem faces the mother in this article She adopted a J baby boy to be a companion to her little son then two tivo years old Unexpectedly lly the little orphan Tony sickly and undersized as a J baby developed into a J handsome and charming child who quite outshone Cyrus This mother watched her son Cyrus retiring and unselfish by nature gradually give way before before before be be- fore the engaging little waif Tony Now Cyrus is ten and Tony eight years old and she thinks it is time to think of her own sons son's best interests Her husband husband hus hiss band is soon going overseas and she is planning to put both boys in boarding schools For the duration duration duration du du- du- du ration she intends to live in a city apartment as she is a school teacher Miss Norris points out that this is not just the right course occasional weekends at home and plenty of affection and amusement at those times tunes In summer put him himin himin himin in a camp he will always find friends If you can discover before the fall term begins some family whose own small boy is in that school go see that boys boy's mother and make with her a financial arrangement arrangement arrangement arrange- arrange ment that will mean that Tony spends most of his holidays there This will not be easy at first but you owe it to your own son to see it through Dont Don't put Cyrus in boarding- boarding school keep him with you Give him this next year wholly reading reading reading read read- ing to him doing his lessons with him taking him off with you to the mountains or the shore in summer Let him know that he is the dearest interest in your life You may be amazed you amazed you almost certainly willbe will willbe willbe be amazed at the way this shy backward little nature will develop develop develop de de- de- de under the stimulus of games books work meals with you alone You are fortunate to have this particular particular particular par par- I opportunity to give him his chance Ih Be careful that the boys themselves themselves themselves them them- selves have no suspicion of what is motivating you and what your object object object ob ob- ob- ob is Above all dont don't let Cyrus feel himself an object of pity or solicitude You can simply enough give him reasons why Tony goes to toone toone toone one school and he to another if indeed indeed indeed in in- deed at the age of ten he will ask for any reasons at all Unwittingly you did your own boy boyan an injustice eight years ago You were in no way to blame In nine cases out l' l of ten it would be otherwise otherwise otherwise other other- wise it would be the true son toward toward to to- toward ward whom favoritism would naturally naturally naturally ally turn But real brothers have to tobe tobe tobe be separated sometimes and these foster-brothers foster will both be better apart for a while When you and Cyrus are alone you'll find your boy and he will find his mother Women Crew v on Diners The parlor buffet-parlor car service on the Canadian National Railways' Railways main line between Halifax Nova Scotia and Sydney N. N S. S has three women as a crew supervised by a amale amale amale male steward one is a cook buffet-cook another a pantry girl and the third a waitress Heretofore men were exclusively exclusively exclusively ex ex- employed as dining car crew The fhe women who are replacing replacing replacing ing the chefs and waiters are attracting attracting attracting attract attract- ing considerable attention The waitress' waitress un uniform orm is edged in mar ma ma- to match r nn with apron |