Show p o ni 1 i eW J Kathleen Norris Says 10 j Q Give Your Y Troubles Time Ben Bell Syndicate Features 7 1 1 t r I II 3 r to I ti tiMo Mo d go 7 n r 77 7 i r- r I Y Of t t tr r y r r S. S 1 r t Ji iii J Jh tas 11 1 I f 1 K- K 1 t lu lur r I r In r II I 1 met a very remarkable man man 7 I learned through him for lor the first time in in my mya a 6 what true love lore can be T irBY By KATHLEEN NORRIS HE one cure for all our troubles is the hardest one for us to accept It is time 31 Nothing is harder than to pa- pa endure painful or difficult 1 and wait for time to 7 lp them Time works slowly ut t ut it works inevitably There w lor to re e no circumstances in your life l lifer e Jw aJ r day ay that the slow v unrolling of te e weeks and months and years not going to change You will change too Many of oft t I hour ideas will change softening u bind nd sh shifting ting So that what seems to toHei toa I Hei u a completely insufferable burte burIe buren bur- bur te Ie ten cn en today may prove to be tomor- tomor ws w's blessing The person who ms yo your r enemy now the person those very presence renders you Miserable m may t turn out ut t to tb b be hu truly our our ur friend in the time to come Looking back at your life you can cane ee e e a thousand instances of this but t ilis is much harder to look forward d believe that the future will folt fole fol- fol t e w the same pattern li t We all make mistakes We get geta a 9 into wretched ups mix we f dad t d ourselves in positions when kj r seems no honorable way out meone has to be sacrificed some- some je tE e a has to be hurt the natural inI inE in- in I E 1 is to break up everything end endl l his 1 s 's particular set of troubles as mist st as possible possible possible-no no matter what i r I ti Time Straightens Out Troubles i 5 tAnd And as a result the troubles mul- mul ply and grow worse presently it where re really is no way out Except Ime e. e ZW If some of the hundreds of wom- wom worna a who are contemplating divorce oday ay desperately arranging to be 5 t- t d from their children ap- ap ealing aling to their friends for I Y and their families for help would Y quiet down compose their strengthen their spirits to jear t ear ar injustice and discomfort for hile and leave the cure to time I 1 a would not only be a much hap hap- pier ier r nation but a much stronger ne Here is the case of V T. T a Woman man of 34 who has so hopelessly i e e Dangled angled angled her domestic problem that o 0 ma matter what she does several inocent inocent in- in Accent persons are going to suffer innocent persons are a boy of j 4 two small girls of 7 and 5 and a Mittle attle boy of 2 All these are V rs s children by a first husband ty v hom om she divorced ten years ago t nd d by the second husband whom i lle he wants to divorce now V T. T apparently S' S a pretty intelligent normal woman r but she certainly Jias as s done her herr herbest best to wreck all allese ese lives and is on her way to wrecking ecking a few more She wants to tok tol k know ow what the solution of her l problem noble m is as if one could toss off a ai i dried and solution for a situation J at has las been moving in the wrong r en for 15 years I II I married at 18 says her letter Pr Of course it was too young and of b course Use I was unhappy 1 I My baby was born J ern rn before my nineteenth birthday a and d born lame this lame this was as bitter a ablow ablow av v blow to tom my y husband and me that by t. t mutual consent we left the baby host ost of the time with his mother vho ho has him still Judson was a college ollege athlete holding several f l f Championships and to have his child 1 tF rippled crippled tv was as a continual grief to toS tos s S He and I were divorced when Stanley was four I went abroad ith my chum and we stayed in 1 aris for a year studying I then thence ce et Bob ob and we were married two i the girls were born we had a ace aJ J ce c home and a circle of friends J Finds Genuine Love However when J Ann Jo-Ann was two had pad a serious illness following a 1 J they were afraid I was I TIME A HEALER Time heals our wounds i if f we ice help its soothing balm with pa tience tierce To rush from difficulties by a rash action that may hurt others usually brings more trou- trou ble Kathleen Norris writes of a woman whose lack o of f patience inlove inlove in inlove love and marriage nr y bring sorrow to her leer four children The selfish manner with which she treated her first child a lame boy toy was teas repeated with two husbands husbands husbands hus hus- bands and now she refers to a third man as her beloved Her ler lack o of f patience and understanding understand understand- ing are backfiring firing and she size asks f for or advice I going into tuberculosis and I took both girls to the mountains Here I Imet Imet Imet met a very remarkable man of whom I will only say that I learned through him for the first time in my life what true love can be He is a professional man admired and courted wherever he goes he also had had an unfortunate marriage but was divorced With returning health and strength this wonderful love came cameto to me and I accepted it We had a afew afew afew few idyllic weeks and when I came home I asked my husband for a divorce This he refused Some months later my son was born and from the first my husband took far more interest in this child a remarkably remarkably remarkably re re- re- re beautiful and intelligent boy than he ever had in the girls His mother and he want full control of the baby saying that I may have havethe havethe havethe the girls if I will give him up When I told my husband the whole story he still persisted that he wants the boy My beloved came cameto cameto to plead his own case it surely is not his fault or mine that this tragic love has come to us We Ve only ask freedom to live our o own lives My girls are at troublesome ages needing needing needing need need- ing much attention for schooling dental care dancing school and so soon soon soon on and I would be willing to leave them with their father But to this he will not agree The result is constant quarreling of course Meanwhile my beloved has been beer commissioned commission cd to paint the portrait of my oldest boy now 14 He is already al al- already I ready a gifted violinist and my myar heart ar i is torn tor with vit l longing ging to to know nov him mm Detter better to be De just lust to my gIrls gins to keep my precious baby to make Raoul supremely happy and to enjoy enjoy enjoy en en- joy myself that fullness of living to which every woman has a right The worry of it all has driven me half mad I cannot sleep I am nervous nervous nervous nerv nerv- ous and tearful no good to myself or anyone else Tell me what is the wise thing to do for myself and those I love Woman Wrecks Happiness This letter deserves no answer and will get none from me V. V T. T expects to wriggle out of her troubles troubles troubles trou trou- bles now in a few minutes It cannot cannot cannot can can- not be done She has systematically ruined her own chances of happiness happiness happiness happi happi- ness as well as those of everyone toward whom she holds any Her only hope would be to settle down to the job of raising three children and keeping a comfortable home for them and their father and leaving something to time But if I have gathered anything about V. V Ts T.'s character from her letter lette that thatis is just what she wont won't do The older boy who so much needed needed need need- ed cd the sympathetic help of his fa father father father fa- fa ther and mother has apparently been fortunate enough to find a good grandmother in their place but nothing will ever make up to the two little girls the injury done them through the constant quarreling and their own sense of being unwanted |