Show Kathleen a Norris Says The e Game and the Candle Bell Syndicate Syndicate Service r 4 4 L 9 Y e r z iI 1 z r N i r r 1 Suddenly sparks will fry fly between some lovely woman and some hitherto devoted and father and then the mischief starts He Ire takes an earlier train home a day or two later when she happens to be out in the garden in striped slacks and a broad garden hat They talk By KATHLEEN NORRIS when you see seea SOMETIMES a wife deceiving her husband husband husband hus- hus band and enjoying a thrilling thrilling thrilling thrill thrill- ing love affair with some other man the natural resentful question question question ques ques- tion is how does she get away with it Every smart suburb has a few of her she is pretty young self- self confident She is also the other women think unscrupulous and common even if her father is a judge and her name on the list at the country club But what they think doesn't bother her In fact she enjoys the knowledge that she is annoying them Perhaps her lover is somebody's husband that makes it worse In small communities where everybody everybody everybody every every- body plays bridge and golf and tennis together and gives parties where the same men and women are always meeting suddenly sparks will fly between some lovely woman and some hitherto devoted husband and father and then the mischief starts They exchange looks he sends her a book and she returns a note he takes an earlier train home a day or two later when she happens to be out in the garden in striped slacks and a broad garden garden garden gar gar- den hat They talk And all the time the surface is all brightness and decorum She is especially nice to her husband and those two small boys his two little girls can see no change in Daddy His wife can but as I have mentioned mentioned mentioned men men- in this column before the wife under these circumstances has no chance If she goes into jealous rages everyone sympathizes with Rob and thinks she is acting dis dis- gracefully If she holds her head high then and refuses to admit much less discuss the affair then the pronouncement is that Sally has always been a terribly cold col reserved reserved re re reserved served sort of wife and you cant can't blame poor Rob for looking for affection affection affection af af- af- af elsewhere Must Pay Sooner or Later But if it is any consolation to the women who find themselves in Sallys Sally's position the other woman never does get away with it She may for awhile but sooner or later she pays and in the hundreds of cases of the sort that have come to tomy tomy tomy my attention it is interesting to note that for every moment of illicit bliss she steals she pays in many hours of humiliation or embarrass embarrass- ment Humiliation if the man presently presently presently pres pres- writes her a manly honest letter telling her that he loves her heras heras heras as much as ever but that out of consideration consideration consideration con con- for dear little Sally it must all stop She knows full well as she reads the eloquent lines that he has stopped loving her entirely and that the time to consider dear brave little Sally was some years earlier But she has to accept the rebuff the lessened respect of her friends her husbands husband's quiet half- half amused scorn and her own lowered self Painful all round The alternative is almost worse embarrassment This is what she experiences when she is tired to death of the affair bored to tears by Sally Browns Brown's stupid husband furious at herself for having written those poetic playful adoring letters that he so treasures and quotes and at her wits' wits end to get rid of the man But no he will go on telephoning telephoning telephoning tele tele- phoning and writing and reproaching reproach reproach- ing her gently for a change of mood and trying to work up quarrels and in the old way and pleading for dates that she simply simply simply sim sim- ply cant can't and wont won't give him Bored Turns to Music and Love Here is a letter from Elisa Davis of Boston who finds herself in an annoying predicament DIFFICULT FUTURE A thrill-less thrill marriage cumulates in an illicit romance In six months the fires of 01 love have crumbled into ashes for lor forone forone lorone one but still burn brightly y in the breast o of 01 f the other who insists upon at least leasta a token token marriage Then a third figure enters enten the scene and completes a new triangle Miss Norris advises on the only course open to the troubled My marriage was orthodox conventional conventional conventional con con- dull she writes We had the expected boy and then the expected girl but I may say honestly honestly honestly hon hon- estly that in the first eight years since I dutifully said I do I never once experienced the thrill that ought to be the lot of every bride wife housekeeper social favorite mother My own father and mother moth moth- er were cold quiet people who kept me constantly busy in boarding schools and on European trips with school groups I Two years ago when my children children children chil chil- dren were seven and five I began to study music One of the teachers teach teach- ers at the school was a vital handsome handsome handsome hand hand- some eager man born American-born but of foreign parentage Never having known love I fell in love but butmore butmore butmore more I see now with love itself than with him His was a violent wooing I was bored and unhappy and we became lovers He had been divorced his wife much older with children of an earlier marriage lived in another state For perhaps six months I lived in a fools fool's dream then I awakened and at attempted attempted attempted at- at tempted to end the affair But he was unwilling to have it at anything but fever height Meanwhile an old friend a man who had loved me since babyhood though I didn't know it came into our lives and both my husband and myself took great pleasure in his constant company Seven months ago my husband was k killed in a motor accident and George the old new-old friend asked m me m. to marry him It seemed to me only honorable to tell him of the affair with the musician whom I will call Leo especially as Leo was annoying me by taking it for granted he and andI I would be married Sees No Happiness With Leo George thinks that I am morally obliged to marry Leo even though his feeling for me and mine for him hirr is the deepest our lives have ever known Dignified generous and noble in all his ideas affectionate and tender and sympathizing yet he feels that it would clear the matter up to have me marry Leo even if I immediately afterward sued for a divorce My children actively dislike Leo and love George He has been Uncle George to them closer than ever their father was This disgusting disgusting disgusting dis dis- dis- dis gusting situation has driven me out of my senses I am thin and nervous and cannot eat nor sleep and I ask your advice Could Leo sue me or subject me to any publicity if if I married George Is George right in asking me to sacrifice my own and my childr childrens children's ns n's future by marriage marriage marriage mar mar- with a penniless musician In what way could Leo give this story to the scandal-mongers scandal if U he liked George is a politician with witha a future before him Would rumors of my affair affect his career I Iam Iam Iam am going mad over the whole affair affair affair af af- af- af fair and will await your answer with the utmost anxiety No I dont don't think Leo could make much trouble and whatever gossip he started would presently die away Certainly a temporary marriage marriage marriage mar mar- isn't the answer and George should not exact it Your only course is to tell Leo once and for all that the affair is over and hope that George loves you enough to decide decide decide de de- de- de cide upon sober consideration that he wants you anyway And this time try to maintain a somewhat higher standard 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