Show I Kathleen I N Norris Dorris o ris Says days In Jn the Looking Glass Ben Hell Syndicate YD Features F i t I I lI k tk 1 1 y 1 IV y II 1 W Make home heaven Make it simpler smaller if i you like but create ab about j yourself and your own people a stronghold of 0 security v F ONCE A YEAR say IF you could look right into your husbands husband's mind and see exactly what he is thinking thinking thinking think think- ing of you what would you see Certainly it would be a stunning shock You might see that for some years he has been saying to himself if il she doesn't stop that whining poor pOOl talk one of these days Ill I'll walk out on her He might say Why does she always always always al al- al- al ways have to knock my family in that delicate pleasant way Why does she always sneak in some little dig digat digat digat at mother and remi remind me that Sally's Sallys Sallys Sally's SaltY's Sal Sal- lys ly's first husband divorced her Sallys Sally's happy now and mothers mother's always kind to us It gets me me all nettles to have my wife always always always-al- al always ways ways always always finding some mean little thing to say about them Or it might be All right go on running up big bills go on complaining complain complain- ing that you cant can't have what other women have and Ill I'll break down someday and tell you just how sweet and comforting and companionable my little office sweetheart Is Unfortunately since we cant can't look Into each others other's minds we go on year after year sometimes hurting each other in little ways or big ways You hate to tell your husband husband husband hus hus- band where he fails you it hurts his feelings so deeply it hurts his pride He hesitates to tell you where you fail him he wants to he means to but the right moment never comes and so time goes goesby goesby goesby by and he grows set in his Ws annoying annoying annoying annoy annoy- ing little habits and you grow set setin setin in yours Find Out What's Wrong It is a wise woman who determines determines determines deter deter- mines to discover these defects for herself Only a very stupid one refuses refuses refuses re re- re- re fuses to admit that she has her faults her irritating ways was her tiresome tiresome tiresome tire tire- some limitations Once admitting that in some way you fail your family family fam fam- I ily By and your friends that there is something disagreeable that they all agree upon when they dissect your character the next thing is to find out what it is Always being late with everything everything everything every every- thing Always talking poor Always Always Always Al Al- ways meeting him with the worst of the days day's news Always wishing wishing wish wish- ing things were different Always in debt Always critical of ol his family family fam fam- ily fly What is it that those who love you wish to goodness you OU would change The reason I write of this universal universal universal uni uni- uni- uni versal situation is because so many homes are trembling now on the I brink of trouble More than ever before in our national history people people people peo peo- are nervous some without cause some with cause Men have come back from the the war shattered In spirit strikes are hard on striker er and employer business housing buying conditions are not normal and not apt to become normal for some time Constant reminders of the cold and starvation overseas make our hearts heavy and our own security seem something of which to be almost ashamed This bad time can be and willbe will willbe willbe be weathered but not without a demand demand demand de de- de- de mand for new heroism upon every wile wife and homemaker and mother I does he think about you HAVEN OF HAPPINESS There are many small causes of o f friction even in the happiest happi happi- est families It may be e that the wife nags and whines She may be dull dul and lifeless even if she fulfills all her duties f faithfully aith f ally Some women are extravagant and demanding Others are always comparing their state with someone's else Many husbands seldom or orn n never ver mention these wifely traits that tl them I Itry so annoy em They try to go along realizing ng that their own faults may be pretty hard to endure too 1 If f every wife could look into her husbands husband's husbands husband's hus has bands band's mind once a I year ear says say I Miss JUis Norris she probably I would be and find startled startled star star- I tIed at what she would dis dis- cover rove During these trying postwar years when nerves nerve are aTe still tense little irritations grow I into serious quarrels The divorce divorce di di- I vorce courts are full of husbands husbands husbands hus hus- bands and wives who got on each others other's nerves It is every wife's duty counsels Miss Norris Norris Norris Nor Nor- ris to try to make her home as pleasant as she can It should i ibe be a little haven of happiness I in a distraught world I It is upon us women that the beav heaviest neaV-j neaV iest jest responsibility falls and in our our hands lies the cure We must stop hoping for tor men to change condItions conditions conditions condi condI- to change costs to go down paychecks to go up and determine to change just one thing ourselves Change from nagging to pleasantness pleasant pleasant- ness from debt to solvency from disagreeable criticism and sulky sIlences si silences silences sI- sI lences to that amiable confident equanimity that is the very essence essence- of peace at home Stronghold of Security Make home heaven Make It simpler simpler simpler sim sim- smaller if it you like move it to less expensive quarters cut out many of ot the things that you feel today you cannot do without but create about yourself and your own people a stronghold of ot security and begin the process by asking yourself yourself your your- self just dust what if it you had a chance from the outside you would want changed These are no days in which to tobe tobe tobe be coldly reasonable and expect reasonableness from rom others These are days of desperate crisis we weare weare weare are living through a time of cop ic strain that already has broken us down into thousands of ot neurotics thousands of ot cases of ot mental collapse Not all of these arc are in our base hospitals many of them are at family tables breakfast-tables I or selling things in shops or teaching our children in schools The Theold Theold Theold old world cannot suffer the fevers that have racked her for five years ears years without having to face a long con con- So take hold of ot your own problem and reduce it not only to safety and sanity but t to happiness and harmony harmony har hare mony as well There may have to tobe tobe be many changes But make the first one in yourself |