Show j 3 tj 1 ym m Yo 0 Marriage arriage ill With Divorce v in View Is 15 Scorned by bl y Honest People DEAR D EAR MISS 1 DENE DENS I have been going with ith a girl pirl for five years and amI love her in a certain way She loves me and has given up ever everyone one else in the world for me I feel leel that it is my duty to marry her and intend intend intend in in- tend to do so But I want you to tell me if I am ant doing the right thing I know that I can be happy with her alone but none of my friends like her her and and she does not fit in well with the people Ive I've always gone with She and amI I have agreed to get married and then if thin things s do not work out well weH to separate after a ayears ayears years year's time I think this is the only fair air thing to do P. do-P. P. P M. M D D. D ANSWER The ANSWER The lady must be all all- fired an anxious ious for matrimony if she's willing to make an agreement of this sort For even the most infatuated infatuated in in- infatuated sweetheart would be loath to undertake marriage on such a cold basis It seems seems to me youre you're asking for trouble in planning a n date on which you will separate by mutual consent consent consent con con- sent if things dont don't work out well weB Under the circumstances they're bound to work out badly With both bothof bothof bothof of you watching the calendar and reminding yourselves that everyday every everyday everyday day brings you nearer the possible moment of separation you will hardly have time to get used to each other other other-or or to learn how to com com- promise After five fire years P. P r. r M. M D. D you lOll should s know knoll whether youre you're happier with the girl you ou love or love or with the friends whose opinion worry you Surely by this time timo your allegiance to your sweetheart has lias alienated the affections of your our imitation friends and left you with a pretty good idea of oj which rich relationships are arc most precious The friends who U have hate stuck to you ou in spite of oj their being opposed to your our fiancee are going on rl with th their loyalty toy lay alty through alty-through through your our marriage and everything every every- everything thing else l' l You ou have no cause to worry about them Neither should you worry about the crowd you know whose standards standards standards stand stand- ards demand a different sort of sweetheart for you Their praise or I blame cannot affect you you except except suI su su- su- su I There is no case on record record record rec rec- rec- rec ord of a mans man's giving up his true truelove truelove I love in order to please the opinion I of some superior group group and and finding findIng finding find find- ing that the crowds crowd's approval compensated compensated compensated com com- him for his loss of a sweet sweet- I heart D EAR DORIS DENE DENS I have quarreled with my husband and left him because he prefers his mother to me We Ve lived with his mother up till last week and then I left My husband is still with her His mother cant can't stand me and made my life a torment I love my husband and want him to be with me alwa always s But apparently he ho doesn't care enough for me to give up his mother S. S. S T T. T ANSWER Just ANSWER Just a minute minute just just a minute Youre You're jumping to conclusions conclusions conclusions so fast you haven't time to see where youre you're going Because your husband doesn't desert his mother in order to follow you is no indication indication indication indica indica- tion that he doesn't love you There may be any number of reasons for his behavior and you ought to consider consider consider con con- sider some of them before forming such an unfavorable opinion of your spouses spouse's brand of devotion In the first place he may feel quite rightly that you should have talked over the situa situation tion with him reasonably before flouncing out of the house in a temper Your sud sud- den exit may mays have hurt him so that his pride prevents his following you Did you honestly give him a chance to understand how strongly you felt feIt on the subject Now the man of the house may argue that you knew before you married that you were scheduled to live with Mother law Mother and and that since you married on that understanding understanding understanding under under- standing youre you're not playing fair now in walking out on the job Isn't it true that you knew what you were in for when you married a aman aman aman man who perhaps had to support his mother And if iJ your husband is his mothers mother's only standby he can hardly be blamed for refusing to desert his big responsibility ity without wit without a good deal of oj consideration tion lion and planning Jr Wouldn't it be selfish of him to throw over his mother and fly after you regardless o of f her feelings I If f you'd been wise you wouldn't have created ere ere- a situation in which your husband was left in such an awkward position with both contestants The romantic lover of fiction might have dropped everything and torn after his departing wife pleading pleading pleading plead plead- ing with her to return But the sensible everyday man who feels I his duty toward his mother keenly who believes in fair play and reasonable reasonable reasonable rea rea- treatment treatment treatment-is is slow to forgive forgive forgive for for- give the tempestuous darling who has thrown his life ilie into chaos with her abrupt departure He may love her deeply and tenderly yet feel that her own action has made it impossible for him to help her immediately If you honestly feel S. S T. T that the right is on your side and that your leave taking was warranted from every point of view have no fear since fear since in that case your husband husband husband hus hus- band will assuredly come after you to make peace Life alone with mother will not prove a satisfactory satisfactory satisfactory tory substitute for the devotion of ofa ofa a loving w wife e. e And the man left to endure such a dismal substitute will win have a chance to figure out the rights and wrongs of the case 0 Bell Syndicate Service st J |