Show F q boy noy D deserves deserves credit for I 1 O 0 r clinging to aim A tm D despite e sp te objections 0 be 1 acton s D EAR MISS DENE I 1 am twenty one years old and have planned to marry a boy of twenty two who has just started working his father objects to me and has refused to let the boy see me any more aly my fiance has consented to his father s wishes lie ile came to me told me the truth and said that until he could support me without his fa ther s help he would not riot see me any more so long as he is relying on his father he will not go back on his word not to see me I 1 don t know what to think or what to do nancy Y in the same mail comes a letter from the sister of nancy who says she knows her little sister is seeking my advice and wishes to tell me the true facts of the case I 1 I 1 know writes the sister that this boy doesn doean t care for N as be he should or he would have stuck to her through thick and thin she is making a fool of herself and break ing her heart over a worthless man I 1 only want to help her but I 1 want you to tell her that this boy isn t the man for her and that he has shown clearly that he t love her sarah 11 ANSWER sorry sarah but I 1 can t condemn the boy out of hand he must have a fair trial before be ing dismissed as an utter cad and a lukewarm lover and nancy must be given an honest answer not an outburst of angry oratory at the expense of men in general and nan cy s true love in particular don t forget the boy is only awen ty two and not yet able to make his own living apparently that makes it necessary for him to live with father and mother for a while true it if he were constructed of heroic ma tenal he d go out into the cruel cold world to starve in the cause of true love but heroes aren t popular in these modern times and with so much unemployment and depression in the world just now I 1 for one could not praise a boy who added to the sum total of the world s human misery by voluntarily join oin ing the bread line this lad has had to compromise with his fate he must live with his father who has exacted from him a promise never to see his fair lady again having promised the hero shows a commendably honor able spirit in refusing to break his word on the sly there is certainly something to be said for him in holding strongly to his purpose no one can blame nancy for feel ing hurt and miserable over the sit cation no one can blame her for seeking to mend her broken heart as best she may but she need not feel that her erstwhile fiance is ei ther a cad or a coward D EAR DORIS DENE I 1 am a high school girl and very un popular even the girls don t seem to like me I 1 am never invited to anything and as it is very hard for me to make new friends my chance never improves I 1 am usually at home alone can you give me any helpa T A S ANSWER again agam and again I 1 beg of the girls who come to me with a problem like this to give me some thing constructive in the way of a personal analysis there are dozens of reasons for unpopularity it is easy to say that in general a girl will get over her self consciousness by taking up in teresta which distract her mind from thoughts of herself but so often this rule doesn doean t work because the victim of unpopularity is a special case and needs special instructions there are many girls who are un popular simply and solely because of their lack of vitality they may seem colorless and uninteresting dull and stupid because of ill health or some lack of energy which could be remedied if they found out the truth about themselves there are girls whose inability to make friends rests solely on the fact that they have forbidding manners that are aloof and frigid these girls will tell you con fi dently that hat they have friendliest feelings in the world toward everyone and want to be liked yet if they write a long intimate account of themselves it will very often be revealed that they are super critical and extremely sure of their own opinions they are humble about their lack of popularity yet amazingly arrogant in connect lion with other matters and there are always girls who simply need to attend to their ap bearance pe arance in order to attract some of the attention they crave so un tidiness and slovenliness have more effect on the high school audience than the average girl in her teens teens suspects the very young genera tion is critical of the dowdy down at the heel girl whose hair is al ways a mess and whose general appearance pe arance is frumpy even a lim cited income can be made to pro duce at least one trim costume for school use but as I 1 say one can t lay down hard and fast rules one must hear about the patient patients s symptoms first will the girls who write me on this absorbing topic give me some ink mk ling as to what manner of human beings they are the more they write the more they reveal in some way or other what their drawbacks and their virtues may be I 1 shall be glad to answer all questions on this subject 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