Show fe an fig 0 02 a ho fc bu by ludia lydia le baron walker CONFLICT to in a family does not always signify lack of affection not by any means neither does the smooth running of hom homelike elife feces harily indicate great love it is true that a combination of equanimity and strong affection i is s ideal when it does not mean that one nature is conceding continually while the other is dominating such conditions may be existent and the one div ing in be so fond of the one dom mating that it is part of the pleas ure of companion ship to follow the lead of one whose judgment is con good the habit of such 4 a acquiescence quiescence c however is sel dom if ever really satis fac tory gradually the ability to do anything that does oes not coincide with the wishes of the other is lost even though per bonal enjoyment is i s sacrificed when the power of resistance is gone weakness of character results in the meantime the forceful na ture gets selfish h and sometimes even tyrannical two ways of coping with an em situation in which wishes are at variance are found in conten eions or in silences when affection is deep the former way is more api apt to be followed than the latter which ever path is taken at first is likely to be continued for the two goals are in direct opposition helpful contentions where affection is strong it is a vital matter to have a meet ing place of understanding it is worth a struggle to gain it A line up of arguments may mean a battle of words some that will be sorely regretted no doubt but if the desire behind the struggle is for a better understanding a mutual recognition of each other s point of view a de termination to find a base on which both can rest in agreement and the stream of affection continue again its placid flow the conten eions are worth while though regret table the desire to have one whom you love see your side is not un natural after all A final treaty of peace always has some terms of concession this is important to remember when affection is vital a rupture is unthinkable the peace of understanding must come it is when love begins to ebb that silence is a covert covert what is the use of trying to g get et another to see your side when it makes little or no difference 7 the beautiful si lence of good nature is of another breed the silence of indifference means no verbal struggles and a semblance of peace but this is merely a camouflage deep down there is no peace merely apathy affection is no longer vital it is vanishing or has vanished individual freedom individual freedom in a home is made of the same stuff as is freedom in the world without in a sense each person in either place rates his or her freedom yet the truth of tha the statement no man liveth to himself alone is of outstanding import it is when freedom to pursue individuality does not run counter to the best good of the family as a whole or of the world of persons in which world each is an integral part that there can be any proper individual freedom in either place so closely knit is the fabric of home life and of the outer world that each person has the profound responsibility of living to himself yet not to himself alone young people of a family often f feel e e I 1 irritated when counseled against certain proposed actions or when they are advised to do other things which they wish not to do they firmly stand their ground of assertion that they should do just as they like saying we have our own lives to live certainly it is an indisputable fact that no person can live another s life but this does not signify that a life is lived to itself alone no action is so trifling that the influence of it does not reach beyond the person taking the action so living one s own life has its complexities C bell syndicate service |