Show wives know yourselves accurate analysis will do much to overcome Ditri difficulty culty in wedded life SPEAKING creaking CiE AKING on the question of trial marriages a well known writer said there should be no need tor for trial when two people know their own abilities and have measured themselves accurately two people who understand themselves will never I 1 believe have any difficulty living happily together after marriage that is a new slant on the question of success in marriage supplements clements ts a woman writer of national fame not know kno thy husband or wife but know thyself I 1 and come to think of it most of the discontent and dissatisfaction is in marriage traceable to ideas of ourselves that hat may be misconceptions no lass less than our illusions about the other person how many dissatisfaction with their husband has as its source the thought of all they gave up to marry him all they might have had if they had married a certain other man how many discontent with the role of wife and mother springs from the thought of how much more fascinating pastimes they might have had if they had followed that aicer how many girls impossible expectations of a tull full time lover and prince charming originates in an exaggerated notion of their own devastating beauty and charm charma if all discontented wives would look deeply unto themselves measure themselves stop fooling themselves many might discover that the other man they might have married is a self nurtured illusion that the career of their dreams is not a soft snap and a joy forever but a grueling exhausting hau hou sting job which might have worn them out it if they had qualified for it which they probably would have been unable to do that they themselves are neither devastating beauties nor always charming but women who are frequently disappointing and difficult to live with they might discover and admit to themselves that they are greatly in debt to their husbands for many things that make life easier and better and more worthwhile that they would not get along so well without them then they might think more of doing their part of trying to make those husbands happy and that effort on the part of one must inevitably evit ably go a long way toward a mutually happy and successful marriage 0 lell syndicate bervice i |