| Show HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE thomas jefferson Jeffer soil wrote the following excel lant laut addic there is a great deal of human nature and good sense in it harmonis Har Haril monyS lony in flie fhe married state is the first thing to be arrived at nothing can preserve the affections uninterrupted but a farm resolution never to differ I 1 jn will and a determination ill in evoh each to consider the loep lov af pf upa other of igliore more value than any abie et whatever on oil which the wish had been fixed how light ill in facil fact is flie sacrifice of any other when weighed against the affections of one with whom we are to pass our whole life and no opposition in a single instance will hardly in itself produce alienation yet overy every one has his bis pouch into ietto which all these little oppositions are put and while this is filling the alienation is insensibly going on oil and when filled it is complete lt it would puzzle either to say c why because no on one e difference of opinion lias has been marked enough to produce a serious effect by itself but lie he or she unda finds liis his or lier affections wearied out by a eon constant stant stream of little checks and obstacles other sources of discontent discont ezit very common indeed are the little cross purposes of husband and wife in common coi nilion conversation a disposition in either to criticise criticism critic ise and question whatever the other says a desire always to denion demonstrate strate it and nd make hini him feel himself in the wrong especially in sympathy nothing No tiling is so goading on the part of either much bater better therefore if our companion col lipani 11 views a tiling in ii a light di crent from what we do to leave him in quiet possession of his view what it i the flie use of rectify ing him if the thing be unimportant and if import important lit let it pass for the present and wait for a softer moment and more conciliatory occasion of revising the subject together it is wonderful lio how w many per persons sotIs are rend rendered cred unhappy by inattention to these rules of prudence |
