Show Kathleen Norris Says Say's Wife Girl-Wife Plagued by Mates Mate's Jealousy Bell Ben Syndicate Features i. I Ii t r- r A 0 0 C 0 C 0 0 G 0 p I v G 0 a G t t 1 4 DOUG S RYAN From the beginning my husband hUband wanted to know knot everything I was doing I 1 cien had to read my letters aloud to hint him before I sent them and had to show him the answers By KATHLEEN NORRIS NORRISA It A f Y HUSBAND is jealous jealous jealous jeal- jeal MY ous writes an V A Arkansas wife I knew it or suspected it before before before be be- fore I was married but I didn't know how serious it was or that it would affect every phase of my life with him Now I find myself made completely wretched by his watching me and suspecting me and questioning me and I dont don't seem able to cope with the matter at all To begin with her letter goes on I was married three years ago at 18 to a man more than twice my age Lewis was 44 41 then my mothers mother's friend My father father father fa fa- fa- fa ther died wh when n I was a baby my mother remarried immediately her second husband being Lewis Lewis' older brother Lewis Levis spoiled me when I was a small girt gir sent me beautiful presents presents presents pres pres- to school came to my graduation graduation graduation tion and it seemed to me wonderful wonder wonder- ful and romantic to be married that very day But now I think it was wassilly wassilly wassilly silly to crowd graduation and marriage marriage marriage mar mar- into one day I was so much of a kid that I regretted missing the big Dig dance that evening Even in my childhood he be was jealous teasing me about liking this boy joy or that better than I did him But in hi those days Lewis seemed to tome tome tome me a sort of god playing tennis and golf wearing evening clothes to marvelous parties into which I couldn't even peep and adored by byall byall all aU his patients He is an eye doc doc- tor It never occurred to me that he ic could be serious when he said he ic was jealous Inquisitive Husband However as soon as we were married I found out how much in earnest he was From the beginning beginning beginning begin begin- ning he wanted to know everything I was doing or even thinking I had lad to read my letters aloud to him before I sent them and show him the answers We had a housekeeper now my sons son's nurse who was asked to accompany me practically everywhere everywhere every every- where and was questioned when we got back She is my good friend by y the way and takes my side in everything When Junior was born Lewis showed a new side of his jealousy He didn't like me to gush over the baby sent him away whenever pos pos- sible I If Junior shows eagerness to tor r reach ch me mc holds out his arms arms he he is 18 8 months old now now Lewis Lewis says here now were we're not going to have this mothers mother's mothers boy boy stuff and often gets the little fellow screaming All AU his interest In society Is dead he says I killed It by making such a fuss luss about other men a abins athing thing bins I never have done and never will do ne He wants to be at home every evening sometimes having older men In for lor bridge e which I dont don't play One of his first requests was that neither my mother nor my sister should ever come to the house bonse without being Invited I could ask them as often otten as I liked but they must never come otherwise This has made for great formally formal Ity ly and stiffness where there ought to o be so much pleasure and easiness easiness easi easi- ness in fact fac mv my mother has lost all patience with Lewis and even her ler husband who is Lewis' Lewis brother rarely makes any effort to see us Always Asking Questions I can cnn charge anything I like anywhere anywhere anywhere any any- where and we live luxuriously but my actual money allowance is only 10 10 a month and do what I will I cant can't seem to make any extensive plant plans on that I mean I cant can't go gu in for charities or club work very well I am studying French with an old refugee woman but on two occasions her young son came in during the lessons and after that Lewis insisted that they be given here in our house which is very dull dullAm Am I making myself out a martyr martyr mar mar- tyr tr You dont don't know what an effort I make to keep cheerful and busy filling vases ordering meals playIng playing playing play play- ing with my baby going every day dayto to pick Lewis up in the car But Buthis Buthis Buthis his continual questioning and suspicions suspicions suspicions make me nervous and of late I have been crying a good deal which does not improve my appearance appearance appearance appear appear- ance and annoys him What prompts me to write you Catherine concludes her letter is that last night when Lewis was in ina ina ina a particularly inquisitive mood I suddenly emptied a vase I was filling filling fill fill- ing with primroses right over his head He was wonderful about it ft it but it really frightened me and I thought that if it there is any way to cure him or cure me if I am to blame I had better find out what it Is And there you luckier women who are arc married to men without this particular form of vanity pettiness and cruelty is a perfect example of the elderly jealous mate Waking Is No Fun Four It seems great fun to the little beauty of 18 to announce to her awed and envious schoolmates that she is going to be married on graduation graduation graduation day to a successful doctor who is able to give her every luxury and who has adored her since baby baby- hood It is a school girls girl's dream But the waking up isn't much fun Catherine has cheated herself out of her happiest young years years of dancing and house parties parties par- par ties tics picnics and camping and skiing skiing skiing ski ski- ing trips and theatricals and beaus Every girl has a right to these and every girl rich or poor manages to have a good share of them It wasn't Catherines Catherine's fault that this path was made so easy for her I If her mother hadn't sense enough to suspect what a prison Lewis was preparing for her Lewis' Lewis brother might have given her a hint Catherine Catherine Catherine Cath Cath- erine at 18 wasn't supposed to know I that the flattery and the presents the plain plain gold gold ring and the new estate estate es es- es I tate were just so many chains about her Will Have Dave to Bear It It In Catherines Catherine's case she simply will have to put up with it Society Society Soci ety would stand aghast at the spectacle spec spec- of that dear little pampered wife with her beautiful home and two good servants her adoring husband hus bus band and lovely child running away from it all And she couldn't run to her mother because her stepfather is Lewis Lewis' brother which would make thins very awkward |