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Show . GIVING AND ' I TAKING ii ! &' SOCIALLY 4 ' " . ' A woman offorod a frlond of mlno ns n oicubo for persistent calling , that Bho hated to bo alono. The worn- n'n boarded and morning, afternoon nnd evening she would drop In upon my friend who lived nearby, Just i because sho hated the loneliness of i her boarding house room, j "She's nn awful bore," confided ray J friend. "Sho has nothing whatever to talk about except her ailments and " the food served her and her own lit tie petty Interests." ' Another woman was complaining In j my hearing a few wcckB ago thut she loved to travel, but that sho '. could not llnd n soul who would go with her on a trip alio wanted to tnke. j 1 couldn't help wondering if she, I f like this other woman, was not ono 1 of those who wnnt to receive but do j i not give. And 1 thought poihaps It, L ,, would not do any of us any harm, , now that tho social season is upon ub, to glvo the subject a little thoiight. i ' Arc we going to bo among thoso j ' who complacently receive but never ,1 V give? And I do not menn this In tho, 1 j dense, of not returning entertain- j f mbnts. Few of us neglect to do this. i I Dut I mean the higher giving that is j 'j tho giving of ourself in somo wayt j 'I that is interesting and enjoyublo to I ' thoso who are giving us. I jj For instance, tills woman who f, spent her time at my friend's house J , becauso she hated to bo alono gave j t' nothing in return for tho time sho I consumed. Sho seemed to think her mere presenco was sutllclent rowurd for tlie tax she laid upon iny friend's time and strength for it tnes strengtli to e.eitaln a person who contilbutes nothing. And 1 have uu ; idea that the reason the othor wom an could find nobody to tra'cl with ' her was becauso Bhe exacted amuse ment and entertainment but gave none. And there are plonty of bott men and women, young and old, who go to dinners and dances nnd lunch , eons and afternoon teas who add no thing whatever to tho pleasure of H the affair. They seem to think that 1 r tho fact that they are lioro is sutll clent, is all that should b0 expected of them. They complacently si ) around and let the others do tho entertaining, en-tertaining, or if they do deign to Join I In tho conversation, it is with detalU of their own nffalrs that are of little real Interest to those persons. So as we enter upon tlie social season now getting Into full Bwlng, which mo we going to be those who take and do not gle, or thuso who gle a full cup of pleasure to those who bid us to their homes? An) ono who will make tho effort 1 can bo interesting nowadas. It is easy to bo Informed on the current topics of the day ,on tho now books and plays, the sports, tVo affairs of I the businness world vhatoer the circle to which one is Invited is most Interested In. Ono can becomo a fair musician if this will add pleas uro or an authority on fancy work" or lace making. Something ono can do to make one's advent into a bocial affair mean pleasure to thoBO pics j ent. And do we not owe this to our hostess? Ought we not to give her something besido our mere presence for what sho has given ub? Is noi it a species of egotism to think that because we accept her invitation and grace her affair with our pretence, x len'o our cards on hor card tray, I make the ronenllounl call at tho pioper time, that wo hnvo BUlIlclont- 1 ly repaid tlu debt we owe hor? -- liur'atii Bo)d |