Show KATHLEEN NORRIS seek happiness outside of self ONE rne OP OF THE SADDEST and r hardest of the tha lessons that come coma to us in childhood esthe Is the discovery that mother and dad are not perfect mother la is not really an angel dad is no not a superman they ire are mere human beings they can mako make mistakes they can fall us to some unlucky children this facts act Is apparent when they are very young in their very nursery days they heir hear criticism and par parcelling ing between the tha arbiters and founders of their being and not int infrequently they grow into adolescence with an actual dislike for one or both parents this was waa the very dreary tot lot ot of a salt lake city woman hardly out oi of girlhood even now at 20 but already hardened and embittered by what she considers unfair treatment from babyhood on they want me to begin with and they never let me forget it writes andrea andre a sutcliffe mother had three daughters by a first marriage had divorced her husband married my father and when iwas three the she divorced my father and went ment back to her first husband so that I 1 really had nd no place in the picture everything in my life was confusing and huri hurtful ful I 1 remember once onca innocently calling my half sisters grandmother grandma as they did and her instant snub everyone laughed loudly as she said look here now andy youre nothing to me and imroth ing to you get that through your poor little buld bald head never been pretty my head was almost bald until I 1 was dillof of scarlet fever at 12 I 1 had to wear an oll oil silk cap now have hava told me that my baldness was simply an evidence of nervous pressure my hair came in thick and curly after tha fever but I 1 have never been N E asked m me to marry hins hn N pretty everyone was surprised when an attractive man mail asked mb me to marry him no one more surprised than 1 I 1 I was then 21 he lo 10 years older on our wedding night ho he told me that what had interested him in re me was my prospective inheritance from my fathers i mother the complete disillusionment the agony and humiliation of those weeks I 1 wont go into the tha letter goes on we agre edor rather he proposed and I 1 agreed that we keep the surface smooth before my grandmother died we moved to her big dismal country homed home and we live there now or rather I 1 do frank comes and goes ashe as he pleases I 1 have an old spanish housekeeper tor for my only companion pan ion unless fr frank a brings out his friends for a sunday lunch there Is a tine fine old garden and a library full of old books but they dont satisfy ane me I 1 have been me married 11 years and I 1 know that I 1 dont grow wise interesting charming anything this life to is S simply imp ly d dry ry rot but while trustees hold hod my money fr frank a wont quite push me to divorce I 1 dont want a divorce I 1 want normal living it A mans love children home tires fires I 1 and home life what have I 1 done that I 1 should be cheated all along the line you done tny anything thing to deserve this hard fate of course nor have millions and In millions illions of innocent women and children who have met a harder fate in the last decade your father and mother were stupid and cruel but you have hava to remember that perhaps their fathers and mothers were stupid and cruel too and perhaps their forebears were worse you only have to go back four our generations to find that the blood of human beings is running in your veins and they were all imperfect to a lesser or greater degree selfish cruel grasping tearful fearful dishonest Is honest weak intern vain and adulterous now and then we find a saint but by an ironic trick saints rarely leave children behind them to inherit their perfection youve been snubbed and hurt and inhibited to the point where you are beginning to look in ip in ste adof out andrea but therease ther eare many things you can do to bring happiness to others and so to yourself for instance a lonely woman in los angeles or one who used to be feeling lonely and deserted bought two cocker pups of different lines attert awhile she put a stain bahlar humble little cottage cocker kilps pups for sale in came the cars and the children and the laughter and tho the interest tt t neighbor of mine years ago on long island asland started ft a study club the tha child she lost was a boy of eight so she took in boys of eight helped with homework talked ball games or comics passed doughnuts or cookies and charged 1 I a week as a membership fee this led to her adopting a fine boy of eight ten years later this beloved lad ad olbers of ibers was drowned at midway but doanne this was only one more chil challenge lenge she is stronger and sweeter than ever |