Show KATHLEEN NORRIS some husbands like dreary jobs LIFE HARD enough and confusing enough without having to do the work you hate asks linda curtis from albany my life Is full of excitement and interest she goes on and I 1 see to it that our four children have a wonderful time but my husband patient and good and everything that Is satisfactory plods along day after day and year after year in the dullest imaginable business selling mens suits you see weve always been poor hardworking people and it martin ever had any dreams of starting out for himself and breaking away from the rut he Is in hes never been free to realize them the children are mixed twins of 7 girl 5 baby 3 and they keep me busy and happy and laughing and scolding all day long my life has variety enough in it and I 1 try to share that variety with mart on week ends and during his brief summer vacations wo we have eight weeks in a mountain cabin he has two same old round bound were always picnicking and having roasts and treasure hunts his life Is tho the same old round office at 0 9 stock arranging doors open at 10 fussy men and fussy women criticizing lunch sandwich at the drugstore next door four more hours of it and home on a crowded bus every day with him Is the same every hour with me is different the twins hang over me dictating what they want packed for lunch madeleine leaves me with a big hug at the nursery school door Butchy bute butch h and I 1 do the marketing and stop to gossip and leave t k with wilb a Us ug hug bag H my watch to be mended and pick up rny my made over hat and go home for lunch and naps and quiet mending at my mj dining room window until the scholars come shouting and weeping home at 3 then we all II 11 have tea and perhaps go over to the park for far another hour of 0 games and gossip and it la Is all so interesting but mart comes quietly in during the he supper scramble and takes his paper and turns on his radio and looks on at our riots 1 I try I 1 the letter goes on to bring him into everything I 1 suggest he ha take butchy butch upstairs or carry the twins off for a country sunday it if I 1 am kept homo home by one of 0 bad times with her ears but he seems too tired way deep down in too tired to rouse himself to much interest in it hell ask me what beach shall I 1 take them to tot I 1 do when we got get there make baake me ills life fun can you suggest finishes tills this generous hearted wife some way in which I 1 can shake the best man tn in the world out 0 of his groove and make life as much tun fun for him as for or met the children I 1 can always handle they are obedient helpful angels all four and are all promising to take ake jobs someday and help mother and dad and I 1 believe they will but mart is 44 now he Is 11 y years ears older than I 1 urn am and if he goes plugging on n much longer hou hell bo be too old to make a dash anywhere should we pull up and go to south america and take a chance would you advise my taking a lob job im almost a professional photographer and sending him away the other night he be was reading me an article on an tho south seas and a few months ago he ha cut out a picture of a whaling boat being tossed about in the ocean and it makes my heart ache for him ill m it fair that a man should be tied down by a dependent wife and four hu husky s ky kids when at heart hes a boy longing for adventure it seem to me ma this Is a problem at all linda martin is doing what millions of men have to do reporting at the office putting in eight hours with time out for lunch on rather drab and routine work if martin in his heart like this work vork find it satisfying believe me he would have worked ills his way out of it long ago and into something that tha t gave his energy and imagination more scope the truth is that he is a quiet unimaginative tine fine man who quite possibly likes his work many a man would infinitely prefer selling other men their overcoats recommending om orn mending the cheviot discussing the tweed than handling four uvel lively y children for 14 hours out of the 24 you are born with a joyous courageous generous nature it speaks through every word of your letter most women want to take you are that rare woman who wants to give ginte if martin works hard eight hours a day you work twice as hard nearly twice as long go on your glorious way linda and dont worry about martin As long as you all love him and his dinner is good and hot hell be all right |