Show KA THUEN KATHLEEN NORRIS girls mother Is too ambitious rather sad and difficult T appeal comes from a st louis girl of 19 15 she Is not strictly a resident of that city but her father works there and she does not want her particular suburban town identified hers Is an old and subtle problem and I 1 am not sure I 1 cin can help with it although I 1 have met it hundreds of times my mother Is everything that Is awe sweat ot generous tactful writes norma she Is small dainty and fand most amazingly capable she loves home daddy and me she keeps everything fresh and sweet Is merry and affectionate and everyone eve loves her 1 I am tall steady and practical in type my fathers child I 1 biam am shy making friends slowly and getting confused tn in any social crisis I 1 am completely happy with books walks fishing trips with my father and a few girl friends we board three men students from a nearby business school and I 1 like those we have now but all three are five or six years older than I 1 and all have girls mother would not want me to tail fall in love with this type I 1 i of boy however so she worry about that belong my trouble Is that mycother my mother Is ambitious for me she comes from a family higher la in the social scale thin than dads shi she had every advantage as a girl and many bea beaux lots of her old friends are nice to me and invite me to their childrens affairs but I 1 do not belong there I 1 the right clothes ahda I 1 il icil mill i I 1 N 11 f I 1 N it 11 IT 1 1 0 1 r completely happy and it if I 1 did have I 1 wear them the rl right way they are absorbed in their own friendships and I 1 feel what I 1 am an unwelcome outsider mother cant see it she slaves and sacrifices to get me what girls garla have and I 1 dont want any of she coaxes invitations from deop people a giving ski parties house parties dances then she coaxes me to go and afterward questions me so eagerly about the good time I 1 had bad that it hurts me to ten tell her I 1 am an absolute dud I 1 come home sick with humiliation and anger land and I 1 simply cant crush berwith her with the tr truth u th every little while she gives a dinner for the children of her friends they go to private schools I 1 dont so we have nothing in common sometimes the girls accept and the boys dont and for days she Is at the telephone trying to match up tip girls and boys with her friends she Is always pretending that we usually have a servant we are just camping in this house until dad gets a very important promotion and so on and on cant dear bear this 1 I feel so sorry tor for her and or mel my father loves lovea her so much and is so easy going and so happy in his home that everything the she does Is right and he just agrees with both of us but I 1 fiel feel as li if I 1 bear years of this until I 1 am older can take a lob job and perhaps marry some gome quiet man that no other girl wants how can I 1 save sava my mother all the fussing and money worry and risk of snubs and disappointments that an all this means and llva live the quietly happy life that is right near me and yet so tar far away poor buttle 15 13 year old norma this really is a hard situation often love lov complicates an affair like this tor the last thing you want to do Is hurt your mother and yet you cant help hurting her all the tha time shed she evidently is resigned to the fact that your father is not ever going to give her the ahe luxury luxury she once had but she Is fighting to gain it for you already she Is dreaming of a distinguished marriage you must have the big lg house and the servants and the trips and honors she sha win will never have my suggestion compromise giveen occasionally go do off determined iio enjoy one of these deadly affairs affairs at in te 4 0 ehg that you tire are I 1 suspect infinitely InflAte li superior in most ways to other youngsters you simply cant can get toto imio get started to show the themious them your real son sell then develop your own docili social group 1 do this by attending tt epding evening classes and reaux working hard at architecture spanish drama boull ral people a spectacled shabby ib oy to write poetry a hard young giant who means to be a big doctor doctor some so day a merry little litta couple painting tomorrows master pieces in an attic a middle aged widower als afu 1 for or something some thing more than the drudgery of lot office days dayi and presently itly find the man ma n who win will rescue you ou from your mothers fluttered anxious p plans lans |