Show kathleen norris says that too late feeling I 1 1311 features feature L IQ f N AYAN older persons try ry to advise hotheaded hot 61 headed youth tt is Is ii the tragedy of all the generations generation that hotheaded hot headed youth never wilt wil listen by KATHLEEN NORRIS T F A GIRL could only see things now as shell 1 surely surely surely SL see le them a few years roni from f bowl walls wails rosamonda Ro ma mother ther the man admits to 47 rosamond is almost 18 she says she will be married on her birthday he has been married before he has sons older than she is ho he must depend on her small fortune for he has none of his own and no job and yet she is completely infatuated with him and nothing her grandmother and J I 1 can say is of any use well poor rosamond must be left to her fate if she feels aiels like that and allowed to ruin her hei life in her own way wo we parents cant save our children from their tollies follies if lovo love and advice and example have no effect then sometimes they have to be allowed to go over the whirlpool and swim to shore afterward as best they may but id like to know more of rosa monds background and satisfy my suspicion that something was lacking ingin in her training that she can be so utterly beyond influence and control now where did her mother fall her somewhere you may ally be very sure As for seeing things in youth 1 as we see them a few years later how different this world would be if we could I 1 how many miserable young mistakes would be avoided how much we could save ours ourselves elvest older persons try to advise hotheaded youth its it Is the tragedy of all the generations in turn that hotheaded youth never will listen now wants baby dack back marle marie louise a college girl in our town went on certain frei and easy house parties afew a few years year sago hgo and did what all theophers the others did in other words she entered into a love affair with a man she h hardly ar d knew and care ticul arly the result was a heartbroken family in minnesota to which she returned in dis disgrace grice a and nd a small babas abys concealed arrival und and hasty nasty disposition for adoption the girl married discovered that she could not have more children and went to the town where h her er child lived she saw a small fairylike little girl with a wistful searching little face th neighbors said that her foster parents we rent too kind to her and ithe mother was help lessi sho she camo ca ack home as she had come in the beginning to reproach me for having advised adoption and yet adoption in these cases certainly gives gercs a baby a better chance than to be raised by an unmarried mother and marked with the still ine inescapable scap able stigma of illegitimacy i this was the girl who told me that irregular sex relations in her hei school days concern anyone but herself hersel tl I 1 then there Is betty another childless young mother m 0 ther who had a silly quarrel with her brother when they were young just a few hot words about the girl he lovei loved ind and eventually married and there was a barrier between them forever pride on neither side would break down and cant break lown down even now when they need each other so 80 for jim has been widowed and has two small girls to raise and betty lost her husband in the wai war and is hungry for maternal cares just a phrase of apology and regret would have ended this 10 years ego ago brother and sister dont know each other now but marle marie louise louisa and betty IV sh returned in di fgrace HASH WILLFUL ACTS few people like to take ad vice this is particularly true k I 1 of 0 the tha young youn gand and headstrong A girt girl who thinks she sho knows better than anyone else can not be reasoned with some times iaci there is nothing to do but to stand aside and let her I 1 go a through with her foolish plans miss norris tells of an 18 year old girl who is deter f mined to marry a mart man 47 years old with two grown sons ile has no job nor any income jt iti is harato hart to urty she is so in at edwith nat this middle agey man but so she is nothing her er mother or grandmother can say aay has any influence on her it is obvious to everyone that rosamond is in for a heartbreaking expert ence many other foolish joo tish willful Y v people 0 arof suffering in needlessly n fy continues mi miss 8 norris ris because of stubborn pride por for instance a woman quarreled with her brother years ago she is 1 3 now a anidow widow and her brother a widower lie ile has two small children this brother and sister would like to help each other but pride stands in the way quarrels over wills divide many lami lies the Tho occasions for flare ups are numerous and longstanding i feuds develop all too often irom from trivial cir circumstances curn on iho the other hand con eludes miss norris everyone has frequent opportunities to make n amends for the harmful acts act of life by little deeds io of kindness and thoughtfulness I 1 arent the only ones which one of us look back at some tool fool ashness Ish ness some indiscretion somo mistake of youth with bitter regret tl just to have been ordinarily polite to mother as she worried and plead ed cd just to have gone backshat back that eve ning and surprised dad by spend ing an hour beside hla his sickbed reading to him just not to have written that angry letter just not to have cultivated that dangerous friendship against ad vice just to hl have a e forgiven and for gotten the slight or the accidentally overheard arlt 0 licisyn to have made less odthe of the tanil tangible ble thing grandeas grandmas Grand mas opal breastpin breast pin or aa aunt fizzles Liz Lizz les canton gaetand bet and more of the spirit of giving and sharing it la is a strange heart indeed that does not remember scores of these thesa omissions and stupidities some lome of them seemingly slight some of them aff affecting eiting our whole lives gut but what we must also kemem 4 ber in hours of compunction and S remorse is that oil all about us a are re other opportunities for kind kindness nebs and r thoughtfulness chances to save ourselves fresh reason for regret in the years to come sometimes I 1 fancy that generosity today actual ly wipes out those old mistakes and that to have learned the lesson Is il more important than the painful f way in which we had to learn it to say 1 I was wrong and that that la Js past I 1 start fromherz from here to go right Is to have mastered a very import tant mystical secret there Is no blunder stupidity sin oin of youth that A may not be wiped out and forgot ten and if we a will have it so may not be turned from loscinto loss los sinto into gain |